Am I better my utterly ridiculous

[airbagged]

Long story short and I don't want to talk to anyone irl. NC for this as I have lots of fr ends on here .
So as not to dripfeed, my exh had an affair under my nose for a year and I never realised . He left. That was nearly two years ago .
I am in a relationship of six months, probably the most equal cherishing one I've ever had however I've just seen, through a suggested friend on insta , that he has liked a post of a beautiful model.. well rather a self portrait painting.
When I met him initially I noticed that he did this to one or two other 'artists'. At that time he commented ... stunning or hot etc. I explained that I found this to be creepy and sleazy . We disagreed but he accepted that these were boundaries for me .
There has been no activity since until a few days ago. Same artist . No comment. Just a like. I accept thatI have been terribly hurt in the past but also accepted t that in order to trust again, I need to trust again.
I also noticed that during our relationship while exchanging birthday wishes on another social media platform that he responded to a very recent ex with a love heart. This was the only love heart he used when responding to the very many wishes . She finished a few months before we met as she wasn't ready to be in a relationship .
Am I being utterly ridiculous or is this normal after my experiences and also wwyd. We speak regularly of the future and as far as we are concerned , we are committed . Spend all our free time together through covid etc . No other flags . Thanks

So do we agree that he is untrustworthy or is that going too far???

I honestly can’t see a single thing he has done which is untrustworthy

@airbagged

So do we agree that he is untrustworthy or is that going too far???

It's way too far op. The issue here is your paranoia. Really don't see anything wrong x

Ok I've d scudded it with a friend who thinks I'm being totally ridiculous and says he deserves an apology

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If you don't like it OP then end it.

I wouldn't like it either tbh!

OP women on here are often desperate to be seen as “chilled” and easy going with their partners.

In the real world, yes it’s really creepy for a man in a relationship to like a naked self-portrait another woman has posted. It’s also considered disrespectful to openly and publicly favour your ex on social media when you have a partner.

You are not crazy or messed up from your last marriage. These are red flags and this guy is not a keeper. He’s sleazy and untrustworthy, especially as he knows your past. Throw him back, there’s much better guys out there. My husband doesn’t interact with his exes on SM at all (and nor do any of my friends’ husbands). No men in my life like any naked photos or pics of anyone, because they’re not 15.

I'm not so sure that this thread is an example of the "chilled" wives so much as the OP recognises that she has trust issues due to the past and her partner doesn't see things the same way.

So the point is their attitudes aren't compatible, and tbh it could be that he's doing it more to make a point (childish)

Neither of them wants to budge so why not end it before it gets worse?