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Original poster

That DH should hide the bathroom scales

45 replies

fat13 · 25/02/2021 15:52

I’ve lost nearly 3 stone. Weight came off quite quickly to start with as it does but now is slowing down and I’m getting a bit obsessed (I don’t mean in an eating disorder way, just ‘I denied myself a McFlurry and a packet of crisps so why am I not thin yet’ way.)

Asked DH to hide the scales and only bring them out once a week and he got all moody and ‘but whhy ‘

AIBU or should he help?

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User1511 · 25/02/2021 15:55

I don’t have scales in my house. Not good for the mind.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 25/02/2021 15:56

Just put them on a high shelf.

Shoxfordian · 25/02/2021 15:57

He should be supportive but you should be able to manage this yourself

Elle200 · 25/02/2021 15:58

Put them away yourself and just bring them out on the first of every month. Good luck with your continued loss, you've done well so far!

LaPoesieEstDansLaRue · 25/02/2021 15:59

Why can't you just put them out of sight yourself and only bring them out once a week?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 25/02/2021 16:00

I am all for partner support, bit asking people to hide stuff (whether it's a food or scales) might just be uncomfortable. It's kind of putting some responsibility on them.
"Well you didn't hide the scales today so x" and so on.
Get a timed lockbox or something 😁

That said. Great job on the weightloss!!!

MedusasBadHairDay · 25/02/2021 16:00

DH had to buy scales as he needs to monitor his weight for a health condition (we previously didn't own them) but he's hidden them from me due to my history of disordered eating. He realises the hassle involved is less than if I go down a bad path again.

It depends really on why you want the scales hidden, and whether you have the self control to put them away yourself and only use them occasionally. I would say that if you can't then, I'm sorry, but there are bigger problems here.

HollowTalk · 25/02/2021 16:02

Put them in the garage or shed, if you can, or give them to a sympathetic neighbour or friend.

Muskox · 25/02/2021 16:06

YANBU if you think this will help. It's not much to ask. But do you really think it will make much of a difference to you? Well done on your weight loss!

AryaStarkWolf · 25/02/2021 16:07

YABU, like a PP said he may not be comfortable being some kind of weight loss gate keeper of the scales, just put them away yourself. If you have enough restraint and discipline to lose 3 stone you can surely manage to not get on the scales every time you pass them

truetuesdays · 25/02/2021 16:07

Yeah it's a good idea. A weigh in once a week would be good

Throwing them away entirely doesn't work for me, when I did that a couple years ago I put on over two stone.

MyLittleOrangutan · 25/02/2021 16:08

I know exactly what you mean. When I'm dieting I weigh myself several times a day. Its not good for you and it's not exactly hard for him to put them somewhere out the way.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 25/02/2021 16:17

Maybe he doesn't want to be responsible for hiding them from you in case you get stressed/upset because you can't weigh yourself?

MixedUpFiles · 25/02/2021 16:23

That depends, is he using them to monitor his own weight? Does it help him to do daily weight checks?
I have to think it’s something like that because otherwise you could have just put the scales away.

Could you instead move them somewhere else in the house where he has easy access but you enter less frequently? Do you have a space like that?

BarbaraofSeville · 25/02/2021 16:33

A weigh in once a week would be good

It isn't actually. Weight fluctuates by a few pounds by all sorts of reasons not related to how much fat your body is carrying and this can easily be missed if you only weigh weekly.

mainsfed · 25/02/2021 16:35

YABU.

YOU are responsible for you. Stop annoying other people.

Now you'll drip feed that you do everything for him.

Original poster
fat13 · 25/02/2021 16:36

Annoying other people!? Christ, I only want him to put some scales away, not do the three peaks challenge with me!

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CustardySergeant · 25/02/2021 16:39

@User1511

I don’t have scales in my house. Not good for the mind.
Same here.
mainsfed · 25/02/2021 16:39

It's annoying! Do you also eat his chips?

lazylinguist · 25/02/2021 16:40

YABU. If you don't want to weigh yourself too often, stop doing it. Stop trying to make him responsible for your self-control. Adults shouldn't need to make other adults hide things from them. Either you have the beginnings of a real problem, in which case nip it in the bud or seek help. Or if it isn't a real problem, stop doing it!

SchrodingersImmigrant · 25/02/2021 16:43

@fat13

Annoying other people!? Christ, I only want him to put some scales away, not do the three peaks challenge with me!
Tbh even as an obese person not particularly partial of walking, I would rather do the three peaks challenge than hide scales for someone 🙈
MixedUpFiles · 25/02/2021 16:48

Oh, you want him to hide them? Nope. That is just ridiculous/. Be a grownup. If you need to put them away, put them away. If you need them hidden, get a therapist.

Original poster
fat13 · 25/02/2021 16:49

Why is hiding scales such a massive horrendous thing to ask somebody, just purely out of interest? I’m lost!

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 25/02/2021 16:53

As I said before. It's somewhat putting some responsibility on them. What if he forgets to hide it. Or he hides it "badly" so you find it and so on. I don't think it's fair unless the other person actively helps out and wouldn't mind the responsibility

Aquamarine1029 · 25/02/2021 16:55

YABU. Your husband isn't responsible for your weight loss, so either put the scales away yourself or simply don't stand on them.