That DH should hide the bathroom scales

[fat13]

I’ve lost nearly 3 stone. Weight came off quite quickly to start with as it does but now is slowing down and I’m getting a bit obsessed (I don’t mean in an eating disorder way, just ‘I denied myself a McFlurry and a packet of crisps so why am I not thin yet’ way.)

Asked DH to hide the scales and only bring them out once a week and he got all moody and ‘but whhy ‘

AIBU or should he help?

@fat13

Why is hiding scales such a massive horrendous thing to ask somebody, just purely out of interest? I’m lost!

What is the reason you can't hide them yourself, just out of interest?

If he's happy to hide them I don't see the problem. I would do this for my partner if he asked and wouldn't assume he had some kind of problem that required therapy.

If I hide them myself I know where they are! Isn’t that obvious!

Schrodinger, that would be grounds for divorce. And I’d take the bastard for every penny. Or, er, absolutely nothing would happen!?

@fat13

If I hide them myself I know where they are! Isn’t that obvious!

Schrodinger, that would be grounds for divorce. And I’d take the bastard for every penny. Or, er, absolutely nothing would happen!?

Well then just don't get them back out? 🤷‍♀️

It's not a 'massive, horrendous thing', it's silly and unnecessary and it potentially puts him in a slightly uncomfortable position. Weight loss can be a sensitive issue, even between couples. If I were him, I wouldn't want to be put into the role of scales gatekeeper, partly because I'd be a bit concerned that you need one, and partly because I'd think that your weight loss was your business.

If you have enough restraint and discipline to lose 3 stone you can surely manage to not get on the scales every time you pass them

I agree with this.

Because you’re a grown adult who should be able to manage simple tasks like being able to enter a room without using an object you don’t want to use and know will make you feel bad

@fat13

If I hide them myself I know where they are! Isn’t that obvious!

Schrodinger, that would be grounds for divorce. And I’d take the bastard for every penny. Or, er, absolutely nothing would happen!?

You need to take responsibility for your own actions. Well done on the weight loss but you'd be much better to control your obsession than to ask your husband to manage your obsession for you. Long term that will make it easier for you to keep the weight off.

@fat13

If I hide them myself I know where they are! Isn’t that obvious!

Schrodinger, that would be grounds for divorce. And I’d take the bastard for every penny. Or, er, absolutely nothing would happen!?

Come on. We all know it would be mentioned. No matter how, it would be and it's just a responsibility he doesn't want. That's it. It would be horrible if he wouldn't support you in any way, like I don't know, not saying well done, or you can do it or stuff like this. But not wanting responsibility to hide something is a different level and he has right to say no.

You did so well on your weightloss, you can so this too!

Don’t deny yourself

It's not an horrendous question or a big deal, but you asked, he doesn't want to, so you either leave them where they are or do it yourself.

Your weight loss is your journey. Why should you rope in your partner ?
Just weigh yourself once a week, your scales don't need to be hidden from you.

Hide them yourself.

YABU. And childish.

Ah I see your point. Really hidden, so you can't find them?

Honestly - if you don't have the discipline to think 'i will not weigh myself until Friday' you won't have the discipline to not turn the house upside down looking for the scales surely?!

Yes, if you could lose all that weight you can refrain from stepping on the scales.

I'd be annoyed to be asked to hide the scales as well. I don't want to hide things from my partner; it would feel co-dependent. It would give me more of a role in someone else's weight loss than I want to have. I wouldn't want to have to remember to get the scales back out, I wouldn't want to be told off if I didn't hide them well enough, or if I forgot to hide them or to get them back out. I wouldn't want to be roped into a regular weigh-in ritual.

I think you just need to not use them, not complain about their existence

YABU. And a bit silly.

YABU. In the nicest possible way, if you haven't got the discipline to stay off the scales, how are you planning on keeping the weight off? Is he going to be expected to hide food too in case you're having a tough day? I've lost a large amount of weight myself, I get it, it's hard. Having said that, there comes a time when you have to be responsible for your own decisions.

Congrats on the weightloss

You need to stop making your problem his problem.

You need to do this for yourself - otherwise it does start to sound like v strange behaviour around food -