Does ex need to know my address to have child in the will?

[ShutUpAlex]

Ex had contacted me after 7 years of no contact as he’s heard I’m moving house and saying he needs my address for our child to be on his will? Is this accurate? I really don’t want him knowing my address due to DV.

I wouldn't think he'd have to have your address, I wouldn't give it to him considering your history of DV

Ha no, he's trying it on

Nope! He's just trying to sneak past your defences.

Nope! Tell him it's not necessary.

Ask him to use an address c/o that he already knows eg your parents or a lawyer?

Agree with @jarstastic, he can use a c/o address.

No he does not - if he insists as others say give him a c/o

Or give him another identifier. Like NHS number.

He doesn't have to. I think addresses are asked for in standard will kits, to help identify which John Smith money is being left to, but I'm sure the a will won't be invalid if it's left out. In this case, I would think "my son, John Smith" should be specific enough. The executor can get other relatives to confirm that the John Smith he's located is the son of the deceased.

Don’t give it

No, no address required when you make someone a beneficiary of your Will. He's pulling a fast one

He’s talking bullshit, doubt there’s even a will that includes the child if he’s been no contact for 7 years.

No, and the fact that he is still trying to keep contact after 7 years shows he isn't going to quit being a risk.
How did he find out you are moving, does he have people reporting your movements to him?

I agree with PP's that c/o a lawyer seems more appropriate; if you wanted to argue the odds (probably not, he's best left alone!) has he not appreciated that, as years pass, your child will become independent of you and will not share your address, and may change their name when marrying? If the split was final, his only mental image of his child is already well behind the times.

No, because I assume he has contact with your child?

Addresses are not a requirement for a Will, however, we do usually request them as it helps when tracing beneficiaries in the future.

If wills had to contain addresses for beneficiaries, there wouldn’t be such big business tracking down lost heirs!

It should be enough to refer to child as “my son X”.

@LadyGAgain

Or give him another identifier. Like NHS number.

I think this is a good solution - a piece of data that can be used to trace the right individual in the future, but that doesn't endanger you now.

Tell him you will have moved several times before he dies so just to use c/o your divorce lawyer.

Reminds me of when my abusive ex told me that if he knew where I was every minute of the day it would helps our daughter's MH problems.

Erm no, it's called control.

How did he contact you? And no, he’s being ridiculous, unless he expects your child still to be living there when his dad dies!

Not sure but my will includes addresses of all people named in my will. Strange that he would suddenly think that though, sounds like he's using it as an excuse to get your new address

My letting agency have contacted him as it turns out he never took his name off our tenancy agreement like he said he did...
he had had no contact with our child in 7 years.

But if she gives a nhs number and he has parental responsibility or whatever it’s called, he can presumably track the child to their new address immediately?

Of course he doesn’t. If that was a thing, we’d all have to be updating our wills every time someone mentioned in it moved house.