To wish someone would take my kids out

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Just imagining what it would be like to have someone take the kids out, somewhere fun, like the zoo or something. Even just a nice day at the park.
My parents will look after them occasionally so I do get a break, but they don’t leave the house so it’s not massively fun.
The only days out we have l, are with me obviously. It must be nice to have some free time, whilst knowing your kids are actually off somewhere having fun so you don’t feel bad.
Do most people have this? Like partners taking kids out for the day, or mainly members?

It's sad that your DM doesn't have 'the energy' at 63 - I am the same age and could easily take a child or two out - but obviously not at the moment.

Before I was a parent myself I would frequently take my nieces and nephews out, or have them for overnight stays etc to give the parents a break. And when I had my own DS he would have days out with friends - we didn't have family nearby but if my DPs stayed they would always take him out or do something fun and as he got older he would go and stay with relatives ... he was having sleepovers with friends from about 3 - a mutually convenient arrangement instead of having babysitters.

We also had incredibly good value children's sports clubs and holiday day care where we lived so DS could have a full day holiday club for about £5 - obviously highly subsidised by the local council. Sadly it wasn't very well used, once my DS was the only DC there with four paid staff to look after him - he loved it!

So yes, I had loads of times when my DC was having fun with different people - he enjoyed it and I got a break. Dry lucky - for both of us.

The problem is when parents did think they had ‘trusted’ adults to help care for their children in the past those were often the adults who abused them. So I can see why we have all become quite insular. I agree it’s a shame though.

So true.