To murder DH if he talks over the TV One More Time?

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We’re watching MAFSA.

I’m going to start timing his interruptions.

I am very close to exploding!!

@BIWI

Oh God! DH does this when the news is on. Gives his commentary/critique/observations of the story they're reporting when I'm trying to hear it. Drives me nuts. I tell him to shut up but he takes absolutely no notice and clearly thinks I'm the unreasonable one.

My husband also does this, I pause it to listen to him and then re-start and he starts again so I've to turning the tv volume up and tell him it is because I can't hear it over him! Haha. He does take the hint but he still does the next time.

Are these the comments (I no longer have MAFSA on with DH in the room.
What’s wrong with her lips.
Her boobs are going to fall out.
Is that her husband. No. Is that her husband. No.
Who is that.
Why is she so upset.
Are those his tattoos. Etc etc.

I'm now curious as to what MAFSA is? I think some people are more into silence when watching tv than others. My folks were very much people come before screens and it was considered the height of rudeness to ignore someone while the tv was on or make a fuss about them interrupting you. My ex on the other hand came from a really tv oriented family and you daren't speak if it was on 😂

My husband does this. Drives me round the bend. He’ll spend ages discussing what we’re going to watch and then proceed to talk about random crap as soon as the programme starts. He’ll pick up his phone and comment on stuff on there. When I snap and tell him to shut up , he acts all hurt and says he doesn’t know why I don’t want to talk to him.

He also gets upset when I tell him I’ve watched something already. The reason I watched it without you is because you’re so fucking annoying!!! Sometimes I don’t tell him and I watch it again because it’s actually less irritating when he blahs on and I know what happens so no need to concentrate. This has been going on for years.

My mum does this constantly, often with her mouth full which is another irritant but the second I ask ANYTHING while she is watching something there is hell up, that includes me asking if she wants a drink

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@DrCoconut Married at First Sight..... I googled it as I had no clue either!

Honestly OP I'm a fellow sufferer. My DH either talks over or pauses the TV which infuriated me just as much, then he gets all wounded that I don't want to chat to him when I call him out on it!

When we watched Hamilton I sat him down before hand and told him that I was more than happy for him to watch it with me but if he wanted to he had to be silent, no comments, no interruptions, nothing. I said I was happy to watch it myself and then watch it a second time with him so he could do his anjoying thing but that if he wanted to watch it with me that was my condition!!!!

I don't understand ppl who can concentrate on a programme and a conversation at the same time. I must have a different kind of brain or something cos I get really confused. I have to focus on one thing at a time.

@Theluggage15

My husband does this. Drives me round the bend. He’ll spend ages discussing what we’re going to watch and then proceed to talk about random crap as soon as the programme starts. He’ll pick up his phone and comment on stuff on there. When I snap and tell him to shut up , he acts all hurt and says he doesn’t know why I don’t want to talk to him.

He also gets upset when I tell him I’ve watched something already. The reason I watched it without you is because you’re so fucking annoying!!! Sometimes I don’t tell him and I watch it again because it’s actually less irritating when he blahs on and I know what happens so no need to concentrate. This has been going on for years.

I am living with your husband.

Our 3 year old has actually taken to snapping at him "let me watch" when Paw Patrol is on.

I know this thread is light-hearted but I find it completely maddening. We have to choose TV shows together and that is only because I put my foot down hard - he would have just taken over the TV. But I never get to watch my own show. He always wants me to sit in the room with him. Then he talks relentlessly, reads his phone or falls asleep and then keeps commenting on the plot show when he has missed nearly all the relevant details.

I'm not polite about telling him to shut up or that I'm not interested. I think it's obnoxious behaviour.

Nooo I'm on your husband's side! Where's the fun in watching telly together if you can't chat?! Sadly my dh is like you - stony silence and passive aggressive pausing

How do you learn anything new if you talk over the programs? Why is your comments more important than those who have made the shows?

DH and DD do this! I don’t want your views on Trump for the hundredth time - I want to watch the news!!!

My husband does this too. Or decides he’s going to go to bed early, but not until we’re 15 minutes into whatever he was watching. I turn over and am trying to catch up on what I would’ve watched otherwise and he stands there (with the living room door open, letting all the heat out) talking for another ten minutes, until I snap and say “just go if you’re going” and he gets all huffy and stomps off. By this time what I’d wanted to watch is nearly over!!

It is maddening. It’s like a sort of weird attention seeking thing. It’s the acting hurt or annoyed when I say shut up that’s the most irritating as if I’m the one being unreasonable. He is great in many other ways but blimey sometimes I wish I could press a button to shut him up.

My mother will come in about 3 minutes after a program starts and then ask me all kinds of questions about people in the program. I'm like, just watch the show and we can all find out Then we get a barrage of comments throughout the show. Just watch quietly FGS.

I have a DP like this too. If we're watching something together, he talks incessantly about it. When I tell him I can't concentrate, he doesn't understand because apparently he can talk AND listen to the TV at the same time. Yup ... ok.

If he's watching something and I'm reading, he keeps up a running commentary on what he's watching, even though I've said I don't want to watch it. If I'm watching something, he makes remarks about it, usually negative, until I finally give up and piss off into the kitchen to read or just go to bed.

Our eldest DS hates watching anything with him as he pauses it constantly to dispense his wisdom and we just lose the whole mood and thread of the thing. If anyone dares to complain, he gets very defensive and there's a bad atmosphere. He doesn't seem to understand why anyone would be different from him.

The one which gets me is if he didn't catch something so asks me what it was, so then neither of us catch the bit he's just talked over. Pause or wait till a break in the dialog ffs!

My DP always does this when Richard is sharing the pointless answers in pointless. Drives me mad 😂😂😂

Oh for sure , my husband is glued to the remote whenever we are watching a film or tv , he does the pause thing to say something usually about what’s on , but sometimes something he really meant to tell me earlier , but if I dare cough or sneeze , he has to rewind half the blooming film !

DH has got into the distasteful habit of scratching his balls whilst standing in front of me. Rearranging himself, oh it itches, he says. Would you do that in front of a stranger? No? So don't do it in front of me. I don't merrily scratch my fanny in front of you, do I?

He done it tonight, although he wasn’t watching. I turned tv on & saw Celebrity Mastermind was part way through, so pressed green button to start from beginning, ahhh relax , babies are asleep, nice relax . Nope mouth almighty came in from his not so long walk & talked over the whole thing , no matter how many times I said oh ok , tell me later , just watching this ! But no , I SAW who won & he says oh watch it on catch up during the week . But heaven forbid if I squeak or children interrupt University Challenge.

I think some people are more into silence when watching tv than others.
I think some people like it on to avoid any possibilityof awkward silence. My OH comes in, turns the tv on, then starts talking over it. I'd rather put up with any silences that may occur.

HONEYROAR
Ditto

I liken it to the sports programs with commentators, and they like to ‘have a go’

Can you imagine Eastenders with commentators? ‘And here comes Pat, she’s managed 15 face slaps in the last 12 episode, let’s see if she can keep her hand steady’ ‘that’s right Paul, she’s been quietly fuming at Phil for the last 6 episodes, you can’t hold a good woman back’

OMG - two years later and we are watching MAFSA again. DH yet again is talking over the TV meaning that I'm having to rewind it and watch bits again. I'm about to lose my cool so wondered if any MNer had been in the same situation... this thread was top of the search list 😂

Oh yes OP...

I commented on this 2 years ago and my husband is still doing it too!!!! Honestly it'll be one of the main points in my defence in his murder trial!!!!!

I'm glad I'm not alone with this .
DH directs his comments at the TV but the worse is the questions..eg. 'whats he doing that for ' ....'why doesn't she open the door '..etc.
As soon as he starts to talk then I mute the TV..