I'm perfectly willing to accept that I might be, but I need some help getting perspective here please!!

[theUrbanDryad]

Dh took ds downstairs so i could have a bath in peace anyway, as i was in the bath i could hear something rustling at the bottom of the stairs but thought that it would be ok because dh was supervising ds.

anyway, about 5 minutes later i hear ds tumbling down about 3 steps and then the inevitable wails. i storm downstairs, absolutely furious with dh that he allowed ds to play, unsupervised, at the bottom of the stairs with a plastic bag.

AIBU to think it's a really stupid idea to let a mobile 10mo play at the bottom of the stairs out of arm's reach. i'm sorry i shouted at dh (especially in front of ds, he's still too little to know what mumma shouting at daddy means, but he doesn't like it when i shout ) and i've apologised to him for shouting, but so far he's not accepted that he was stupid or careless.

obviously this is our first child, and i'm willing to accept i might be being really precious, but do i have a point? have i now overanalysed this to the point of extinction?

Deffo need a stairgate, let's face it we all take our eye off the ball sometimes so a stairgate would eliminate the possibility of a serious fall in future.

As for the plastic bag he needs to be beaten soundly for that.

However I consider myself a rsponsible, vigilant parent and so far I've:

Left ds aged 5 months on the sofa while I popped to kithen and of course he fell off.

Forgotten to take silica gel out of a shoe box which ds found and ate

not locked the front door and ds age 18months went for a little wander.

Allowed ds aged 2 to get out of baby pool and go to the slide himself - of course he slipped and landed right on the back of his head.

And I look back at photo's of ds in his bumbo seat on top of kitchen work surfaces and shudder at the possibilities.

We all make mistakes, you've him a bollocking and despite what he says he feels bad!

Sorry I don't mean to go off on one. I just find it a lot easier if I don't expect my husband to have my sense of danger. That's not his strength in this partnership so I give him very clear instruction. My dad is even worse and I have forbidden him to take ds1 into his shed, which he still does when he thinks I don't know!

Exactly Talulasmum, we have gender differences for a reason but not every individual conforms to them accepted.