Age gap children. Can it work?

[Daisythecow34]

I have a ds age 9. Split with his dad when he was just a baby. Been with my current dp 5 years and now finally in a position where we are settled, financially secure and could manage a baby. I'm 35, dp is older...45.

My ds has always been a very placid, easy child. Would I be mad to consider ttc now? I always wanted another baby but I worry a bit about dp age and also the big age gap between children. Can it work?

My eldest is 26,my youngest is 9. They are very close. It works for them. X

I have two DSis and had a DBro who are all more than ten years older than me. My DSis are like my best friends, the age gap doesn't mean anything now we're adults.

Apparently when I was born they called me Super Baby as mum kept banging on about how advanced I was compared to them as babies! They were also embarrassed taking me for walks on their own in case anyone thought they were very young mums/dads. Funny.

I'm 22, my sisters are in their 35, 37 and 38. We're NC now but I used to love having older sisters. We spent a lot of time together even when they were grumpy teens.

For what it's worth I'm 22 and DH is 38, we don't think our age gap will impact our children. Unless of course he's mistaken for their Grandpa, instead of Dad...

My boys are 19 and 22, and the girl one is 10. It was like starting all over as first time parents; you forget so much. But they get along fine. They're very protective of her and she really looks up to them.

There's 9 years between my sister and me. Growing up we weren't close. She said there was always this annoying little kid tagging along getting in the way, and from my point of view she was always bossing me around and I hated it! From the age of 9, I was practically an only child as my sister left home to do her nursing training, and married as soon as she qualified, so we never lived together again.

It works; there's nine years between my sister and me. Far easier having an older, responsible child who can play with their younger sibling than two small children. It took me years to understand why people would deliberately choose to have children close together in age and not leave at least 4-5 years between them [so only one in nappies at a time]