IVF added mortification

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So Im 42 and have been Ivfing for 3 years. Had one BFP 18 months ago and only told friends and family once we had a positive result. Sadly had a MC. We have done another 3 rounds since then but have told nobody. My last EC was last week and it just so happened that the anaesthetist is a male friend of ours.... So now he knows too!
Very uncomfortable knowing that I was about to be wheeled into theatre with my legs in stirrups and a friend in the room with me. Imagine walking through to the procedure room, hair in a hair net, lovely medical gown ... butt sticking out.
Im blushing now as I type this.
I know its all professional and stuff but I wish I had thought that it might have been a possibility before hand and specifically requested that he NOT be the guy. My head was so full of other things obviously... But what are the chances? Quite good clearly!!!

Confidentiality is your friend in this situation.
Good luck with your IVF

@Mydogisagentleman

Confidentiality is your friend in this situation. Good luck with your IVF

First time Im thankful for Covid and UK lockdown so no socialising for a while ...

For additional comfort do remember the anaesthetist doesn’t see the business end during IVF. I’d be a bit embarrassed too but let it go and good luck.

One of my friends was the colonoscopy nurse, and I only discovered this when I arrived for the procedure. She gave me the option of someone else doing it, but I decided to stick with her and I'm glad I did.

@MatildaTheCat

For additional comfort do remember the anaesthetist doesn’t see the business end during IVF. I’d be a bit embarrassed too but let it go and good luck.

The last thing I remember him saying was that he would sit next to my head during the procedure and to not worry.... He is a very kind man but still ... I have let it go and its quite funny now.

@Mabelface

One of my friends was the colonoscopy nurse, and I only discovered this when I arrived for the procedure. She gave me the option of someone else doing it, but I decided to stick with her and I'm glad I did.

For any other procedure I would have opted for someone else but unfortunately with EC time is of the essence and there wasnt enough time for another consultant to get there. I am going to have another EC soon and will make sure to mention my preference.

I did have a giggle....thanks for sharing :) Im holding thumbs for a positive outcome !! Xxxx

I feel your pain. When I was 14 I had an internal examination done by my friend’s dad. I say friend, he was actually a boy I had an enormous crush on.

Halfway through he started talking about how he’d been to one of my gigs and what a lovely voice I have. I wanted the ground to swallow me up.

Also shortly before COVID I attended a meeting for work and my gynaecologist was there - was really quite awkward, wish it had been a Teams meeting so I could have avoided eye contact!

Who on earth voted YABU? People can be utterly baffling! I’d would have felt as you did OP, hopefully it will all be worth it soon. Good luck x

I went to a party at a friends house (ages ago, pre-Covid). She is married to one of the partners at my GP practice. Also at the party were other GPs, practice nurses, midwives etc. etc.
I don't think I've ever been at a party where so many people have seen my lady parts.
Not since I was an undergraduate, anyway

I can imagine this friend looking at the patient list for the day and seeing my name but not quite believing it could be me. Then opening the curtains around the bed and well.... There she is!
Uncomfortable for both us Im sure. At least he got to be awake!

When I was 17, I had the most awful crush on a local guy who was older and training to be a nurse.

I ended up in A&E one night with agonising pain (appendicitis) and had to give a urine sample. The (female) nurse gave me one of those cardboard bed pans and a tiny sample jar and sent me off to the toilet. I peed in to the pan then decanted into the jar but my period had arrived and so there was blood in the sample. Figured I’d just explain nonchalantly to the female nurse.

Get back to the nurses’ station and she’s gone but, of course, my crush is there.

I just kind of left the sample on the bench and scuttled off but he called me back. He was actually holding up my pee jar.

“It looks like there’s a lot of blood here, have you been passing blood?”

“Eh no, that’s just my, eh, period”.

“It looks like there’s a lot of clots”

Then he checked back on my chart to see when my last period was (based on info I gave at triage).

“Your chart says your last period was 6 weeks ago”.

“Yeah, I tend to have long cycles”

“Hrm, I’m just concerned about the level of clotting here. Is there any chance you could be pregnant?”

“No”.

“Are you sure?”

“Definitely”

“Even a remote chance?”

“No”

Penny drops.

“Are you sexually active?”

“No”

So yeah, told the guy I was in love with at 17 that I was a clotty virgin.

I was coming round from a general after having all my wisdom teeth removed and the first thing I was aware of was being rolled onto my side and a pessary being shoved up my arse for pain relief. As I was rolled back, I heard the nurse say, "Oh hello! It's you! You're my estate agent!" At least she didn't recognise me by my arse.

In labour with DS1, second stage had been going on for two hours and they decided to call the doctor in to consider forceps. There I am, legs akimbo and the doctor said, "Oh, hello Fairy! Remember when we used to slide down your stairs on beanbags when were about 14?" It was an old school friend I'd lost touch with many years before. I think she was disappointed at the lack of response from our 'reunion'.

So don't worry, OP! These are all professionals and certainly won't be gossiping or sharing medical information about you to anyone. They'd lose their jobs if they did.

I get the embarrassment of not being fully dressed but honestly, you had someone in there who really cared about you and knew what they were doing. I think that's a good thing.

@DesMartinsPetCat I'm sorry but I nearly peed reading that 😂

@DesMartinsPetCat you could have pulled it back at the end with "not yet anyway.." wink

As a medical professional I know quite a few medics. When I went in to have dd1 I had a few problems so they called the consultant in, didn't take much notice until he looked up from between my legs and said oh hi you are a nurse on X ward.
Tbh I was not to bothered at that point until, a week later standing in the post office I noticed he was behind me and it all flooded back and I couldn't look at him.

I have had internal scans by people I know to, always been professional. I may not have chosen those people but equally I know they give good care. I have provided intimate care to my colleagues also but I am professional and I can understand how they feel.

I was having an operation in hospital a few years ago, I was mortified that the porter who came to collect me from the ward and bring me back was a boy from school years before. Was slightly embarrassing.

Hope your IVF goes well x

My obstetrician went to school with me. I only realised when he kept popping up on 'people you may know' on FB and we had lots of mutual friends. He was completely and utterly at the business end, and intimately so. I didn't get the feeling he recognised me, so hopefully I flew under his radar.

I work at my previous GP surgery. Obviously no longer a patient there now.
So I work with the Practice Nurse who did my smear in the past. So embarrassing but got over it quick.

Good luck with the IVF Op.
Many years ago I had an ovarian cyst removed and the surgeon cauterised my cervix at the same time (cervical erosion). One of the theatre nurses was my boss’s wife 🙄

Good luck with this cycle. Sadly all dignity is left at the door with ivf. I know. I have not once, but twice, managed to shoot a speculum out of my vagina. Once it bounced off the doctors arm. She just smiled and said “oooh your muscles are very strong”. I don’t know how it happens. I try to stay so still and not clench or anything but my vagina has a mind of its own 😳

i have no idea why i can still remember this - worse things must have happened in my life - when i was a child, maybe 11 or something, i had a rash on my bum. my mum took me to the local GP. GP was DF of a boy in my class at school. i was so mortified and worried that GP was going to tell DS that i had been in and he had seen my bum! - obviously he didn't.

ps all the best best with your IVF

I am a midwife and was cared for by my lovely colleagues with all three of my babies. It made me feel very safe and well looked after. But my perspective is probably different because I know that we don't really 'see' your bits, we are just focussed on doing our jobs, if that makes sense? Good luck with your IVF

Good luck with your IVF journey. I came round from a general anaesthetic after an ovarian cyst removal, I was vomiting and sore. The nurse looked familiar but I couldn't be place her until I needed help to have a wee on a commode and realised she was my ex boyfriends mum. She was totally lovely and professional.