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Why do mums put those large beaded necklaces...

330 replies

TheFancyPants · 16/02/2021 17:31

..around their babies necks? Surely its not safe? Why are they fashionable?

OP posts:
ErrolTheDragon · 16/02/2021 19:03

@strawberrypip

judging is a waste of time really, especially when it comes to other peoples parenting. doesnt tend to go down brilliantly well.
The OP wasn't 'judging', she was asking questions about something she'd seen and didn't understand. Do you object to people on a parenting website sharing relevant information on the question raised by the OP?Confused
MessagesKeepGettingClearer · 16/02/2021 19:04

It's so dangerous, it's ridiculous to think any parent would think it's a good idea.

strawberrypip · 16/02/2021 19:04

that comment was to someone who actively said they were judging people who used them.....

probably a good idea to read the thread properly before picking up peoples comments dragon.

Oregano20 · 16/02/2021 19:05

Gosh I hate them, they are so ugly, like pearls of ear wax Confused

And as PP said, utter boll**ks

Nenevalleykayaker · 16/02/2021 19:06

Because it’s part of the Tribal Mum Starter Kit

You also need a baby sling fabric carrier
1940s style quiff with headband
Joe Browns clothing
Birkenstock sandals
Your old Bestival bracelet still on your wrist
Happy Hamsa tattoo
Kids tie-dye tshirt
Toddler girls tshirt slogan ‘Astronaut Not Pwincess’
String bag for your organic goodies from the Farm Shop
Cloth nappies displayed on the line outside (disposable hidden indoors)
Powered by Disney Bitch Dust or similar car sticker
Faux modesty and shyness, then doing extravagant livestreams encouraging people to make donations if their psychic totem has connected them with other ‘Superhero Mums’
Queen Bee mentality

Amber contains an acid of negligible trace amounts that cannot be absorbed into the skin or bloodstream at the kind of levels manufactured in amber necklaces.

Importantly though, some Mums will buy into the woo, and Etsy sellers are making a bomb out of that. Live and let live Grin

AaronPurr · 16/02/2021 19:06

@HermioneWeasley

I’ve never had dental issues but a few months ago I had my wisdom tooth out. I was taking painkillers for 48 hours later, and I was very pleased I had given my kids actual medicine for their teething pain.

Everyone who uses these stupid necklaces or homeopathic treatments for their kids should be given the same for their pain - no nasty chemicals for them either.

Oh gosh THIS //\

Tooth pain can be absolute agony. Anyone who would prefer to stick a bit of amber on their child rather than give them pain relief is prolonging their suffering. Parents who do this are absolute wankers, and if the shoe was on the other foot, the vast majority would be taking all the pain relief they could get.

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/02/2021 19:06

@Eckhart

A question for those saying they don't work, how do you know? If they didn't work on your kids, that doesn't mean they don't work on anybody's, does it? Or have you something else that you're basing your opinion on?

I don't have an opinion either way, but I'm curious as to how people sound so sure.

There is no mechanism by which they could work.

Also back to the problem which is of by some undiscovered mechanism they did, you're putting unmeasured, unregulated drugs into your infant. Which is how I know they don't work, because if they did, they'd be licences and regulated.

BTW I've taken Chinese medicine, which has many proven substances. Just not bollocks, made up crap.

KeyboardWorriers · 16/02/2021 19:07

Because they have a very poor understanding of science

DappledThings · 16/02/2021 19:07

@Eckhart

A question for those saying they don't work, how do you know? If they didn't work on your kids, that doesn't mean they don't work on anybody's, does it? Or have you something else that you're basing your opinion on?

I don't have an opinion either way, but I'm curious as to how people sound so sure.

Because there is no mechanism for them to work. What does work, in some cases very well, is the placebo effect. And if people feel very strongly that they have worked then great. Still very silly to believe they have worked in any way other than placebo.
HermioneWeasley · 16/02/2021 19:09

@Eckhart they don’t work because it’s not possible for amber to release an anaesthetic that can be absorbed through skin. If you think it is possible, can you say how?

ErrolTheDragon · 16/02/2021 19:10

@Eckhart

A question for those saying they don't work, how do you know? If they didn't work on your kids, that doesn't mean they don't work on anybody's, does it? Or have you something else that you're basing your opinion on?

I don't have an opinion either way, but I'm curious as to how people sound so sure.

There's no evidence they work. There is, unfortunately, evidence that they are unsafe. If you want to give your child something to chew on there are safer (if less aesthetically pleasing) alternatives. The FDA link upthread is quite informative.
KeyboardWorriers · 16/02/2021 19:10

@CrocodileFondue

They are to show that the parents are a bit thick and highly suggestible. Wink
GrinGrinGrin

Like a siren call to MLM recruiters...

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 16/02/2021 19:11

They really worry me when I see them around necks. I used an amber anklet on DC2 because one of the "experienced" baby group yummy mummies told me it would be life changing. Two more kids later, I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to fuck off and get a grip.

Love51 · 16/02/2021 19:11

@Eckhart

A question for those saying they don't work, how do you know? If they didn't work on your kids, that doesn't mean they don't work on anybody's, does it? Or have you something else that you're basing your opinion on?

I don't have an opinion either way, but I'm curious as to how people sound so sure.

Because if it works in double blind peer review studies at a significantly significant level, you lead with that in your marketing! Most complementary therapies haven't even been trialled robustly. Homeopathy has, and found to work as a placebo. To be clear, that is not the same as not at all. I used to do some pain relief on my kids that was bullshit I manufactured on the spot, it helped. Placebo effect!
FoxyTheFox · 16/02/2021 19:11

I assumed mums used things like this for teething back in ye olden days... weren't old rattles silver and ivory?

Um.... no.

If you're talking about ye old olden days, sort of pre-1600s then remedies included smearing various things on the gums such as oil of lilies, offal, various plants, milk, or butter. Leeches could also be used to suck out the painful blood. In the 16th century a practice began called lancing where the gums were cut to allow the teeth clear passage to the surface. "Teething" was, not surprisingly, an official cause of death listed for many children under the age of 3 when these various remedies went wrong. Then along came the Victorians. Silver and ivory rattles were not dished out as teething aids because silver and ivory were bloody expensive, instead they relied on good old morphine, mercury, and alcohol to drug away the pain. Happy baby, happy mum, innit?

Babies were sometimes given amulets made of coral, bones, animal teeth, wood, or hair that were supposed to magically ward off pain (much like Amber necklaces) but they were for warding not chewing and obviously did not work.

HollyGoLoudly1 · 16/02/2021 19:12

There is absolutely, categorically, 100% no way that anaesthetic leaches out of amber stones, through your babies ankle and numbs teething pain.

Surely you must realise that this is total woo?

kittycat863 · 16/02/2021 19:13

I wouldn't put a necklace on a baby or toddler, but it's not my place to judge other parents. So yes, YABU.

ThatIsNotMyUsername · 16/02/2021 19:13

I wear a lot of amber / no it’s only looks good. Are you all sure the babies aren’t just chewing them on their poor wee gums?

Cloudsurfing · 16/02/2021 19:13

Doesn’t matter if they work or not, they’re so dangerous. It only takes a second to break and baby to choke. I can’t believe people put them on their babies and endanger them.

FoxyTheFox · 16/02/2021 19:16

have you something else that you're basing your opinion on?

Science.

Tianatiers · 16/02/2021 19:18

I got so desperate with DD2 and was worried about the amount of calpol I was giving her to ease the pain that I tried both the necklace and the anklet. Didn't help at all and I really didn't like the idea or the look of them so I used to hide them under her socks or top and gave up with them after a few days with them having zero effect. Such a waste of money.

oakleaffy · 16/02/2021 19:23

It surely must be psychological.
How can something like fossilised tree resin worn on the skin help with pain?
I had severe back pain and tried crystals - nothing to lose- and they did nothing.
Look pretty though.
Psychological effects are potent though.
DS hardly suffered with teething, not all kids do.. so this could be put down to “
Amber “ when it is just happenstance.

Needs proper double blind testing to see if it makes a difference.

Very doubtful.
Much like those balance bracelets sold at horse shows.. debunked as a load of old hokey.

Fluffycloudland77 · 16/02/2021 19:27

@FoxyTheFox Ah the days when chemists sold babies sleeping draughts, they were the days. Coupled with baby life insurance plans it was indeed an interesting time to be alive.

No wonder so few made it past 5. You had to dodge disease, heroin overdose and malnutrition.

oakleaffy · 16/02/2021 19:27

@HollyGoLoudly1

There is absolutely, categorically, 100% no way that anaesthetic leaches out of amber stones, through your babies ankle and numbs teething pain.

Surely you must realise that this is total woo?

My goodness Where is basic scientific knowledge these days...

That is actually alarming.

Much as people who believe Copper tarnishing
On bracelets
“Is the arthritis coming out”
Or “Pain coming out turning copper black😳”

ErrolTheDragon · 16/02/2021 19:28

@kittycat863

I wouldn't put a necklace on a baby or toddler, but it's not my place to judge other parents. So yes, YABU.
But providing accurate information on parenting issues is one of the things MumsNet is for.