Tbh I think that we need to be careful not to go too far either way in terms of the outcomes of transplant.
The proclamation that giving someone an organ will mean you’ve given them a new life is heading into the realms of fairy tale thinking, as if all that is needed is a new organ and their life will go back to the way it previously was.
Similarly the suggestion that transplant isn’t the magical cure we think it is is potentially heading down the road of scaring people into not wanting transplant surgery when that surgery may well prolong their life.
The reality is that the answer lies somewhere in the middle.
Transplant recipiants do often go on to live long and fulfilled lives, and sometimes they don’t.
It is true to say that when you have a transplant, if you make it through the surgery and the recovery period, you will still need to take medications for the rest of your life to prevent your body from rejecting the organ. Many people will go through rejection, but others won’t. Many people will rebuild their lives, and others will have more complications, and sometimes people will have complications as well as rebuilding their lives.
There is a poster on MN whose DH had a heart transplant not long after I joined here, so several years ago. He was in hospital on the urgent list and had days to live if he didn’t find a heart, and one came up at the last hour so to speak.
He absolutely did go on to rebuild his life, and I believe they had several more children etc after his transplant. But I tagged that poster in a thread a few months ago, and she said that there had been some issues over the years.
So his life was by no means straightforward, but equally without the transplant it wouldn’t have been there at all.
Sometimes you have to weigh up the choices.
I have to go to the transplant clinic tomorrow to find out how my heart is and whether they need to start work-ups for the list. At the moment I feel incredibly well, so the idea that I could be put on the list and that a heart might come up and I might have to go from well to ... not, overnight is one which I am not entirely comfortable with.
But conversely I have been at the other end of that scale where I had no life, no independence, not even the ability to get out of bed some days, and it scares me more that I could regress back to that state. And as transplant is my only chance of a longer term future, I have to be open to the fact that I may have to undertake this journey sooner rather than later. Bearing in mind that the wait for a transplant can be significant, so if I went on to the list today while feeling relatively healthy, by the time a heart came up I might not be.
There are no black and white answers here.