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Would you let your 6yo drop off a Valentine's Day card?

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valentinemy · 14/02/2021 10:05

DS is in yr1, he says he "loves" a girl in his class and he talks about her a lot, we've heard this for months and months now.
I know they are friends and play together and generally get along.
He's asked about Valentine's Day a couple of days ago after it was mentioned and he got really excited and asked if he can make a card and take it to her house.

I don't really know the mum, we've had a couple brief chats at the school gates but that's about it, they only live 2 mins from us in the car and DP will be popping out to drop a birthday gift off for one of our friends today so he could just pop the card DS makes in their postbox along the way.
I feel silly but I'm almost not sure what the etiquette is.

Do we just let him do it? Do I drop a line to the mum and say DS has made one is it ok to drop it off?
My main worry is that we don't really know them and if it would feel a bit invasive on our part to be dropping something off at their address.

WWYD?
AIBU to just let him do it since he's been asking me all morning?

OP posts:
AStudyinPink · 14/02/2021 10:07

I’d ask.

disappear · 14/02/2021 10:09

They are supposed to be anonymous so would you just be posting it through the letterbox? If so, I’d let him do it.

GreenSlide · 14/02/2021 10:10

Yeah I'd let him do it. Send her a message first if you can

cravingpistachiocake · 14/02/2021 10:10

I’d let him do it, it seems very kind and innocent to me. But if you’re not comfortable then drop the mum a text first, that sounds fine too.

RJnomore1 · 14/02/2021 10:10

Aw he’s 6 of course I would. I’d maybe text the mum to let her know it was from him if it’s anonymous.

Doggybiccys · 14/02/2021 10:11

I hate V day but he’s young and is probably seeing it advertised everywhere. If she was my DD, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I think it’s great that he wants to make a card rather than buy one.

Horseyhorsey3 · 14/02/2021 10:11

You're overthinking it - if they know you know where they live a little card through the door is very sweet. Not like you're asking them to open the door and have a chat, is it?

Cissyandflora · 14/02/2021 10:11

I would not no.

GrallaceandWomit · 14/02/2021 10:12

I don’t understand why he shouldn’t post the card? I think it’s lovely!

Pipandmum · 14/02/2021 10:12

If your husband is out already then he can do it. My son was head over heels in love at six too. They used to exchange notes in their cubbies at school. I don't think you need to ask- it's a card, not a marriage contract.

peak2021 · 14/02/2021 10:14

If you are posting something through a letterbox, fine. Walk there as well and not '2 minutes by car'.

DoodleLovin · 14/02/2021 10:15

It’s cute and harmless. Just give the girl’s mum a heads up first 😊

bloodyhairy · 14/02/2021 10:16

Cute little Romeo! Smile

UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme · 14/02/2021 10:17

Why not? There's no earthly reason not to put it in the post box, and it's just cruel to refuse to pass on a home made card a 6 year old has put so much work into. Its basically a friendship card at 6! My youngest used to get sweet notes from a girl in his class saying things like "Dear X It makes me happy that you're in my class Love from Y" or "You're nice and funny" Smile

AStudyinPink · 14/02/2021 10:17

I don’t understand why he shouldn’t post the card? I think it’s lovely!

Because some people don’t want their 6 year old daughters in ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ territory, and I think that’s their choice.

CherryRoulade · 14/02/2021 10:18

No absolutely not. Nothing to do with pandemic though. I can’t abide faux romance being encouraged in tiny children.

IthinkIm · 14/02/2021 10:22

Someone gave my DS a Valentine's card when they were at school and he really didn't like it at all. He was in year 1.

I wouldn't let him take the card without asking.

notanothertakeaway · 14/02/2021 10:23

I think it's rather sweet at 6

Weekends · 14/02/2021 10:32

No, I'm afraid I wouldn't at age 6.

Spongebobsquarefringe · 14/02/2021 10:36

I wouldn’t either.

thebabessavedme · 14/02/2021 10:41

bless his little heart, he has made a card for a little girl who he thinks is special, at 6 he has no notion of 'relationships', just that he likes a little girl, I wouldnt have minded if my dd had recieved a home made card at this age, its not like they are about to go on a date or anything.

Cocomarine · 14/02/2021 10:46

If you do, please tell the mother, don’t be anonymous.
In fact, fuck stupid made up traditions, have him sign it.
My daughter had fully posted cards (as in post office delivery) aged 9, 10 and 11 - hand written envelope, adult handwriting, different each year. Never found out who from, we had no idea. No follow up hints from anyone. She hated it. Firstly, the irritation of not knowing, but then actually feeling freaked out that someone was doing this - especially with adult support. No-one we could think of who might do it thinking it was “nice” - like an aunt.

TinyCake · 14/02/2021 10:49

Don't do it anonymously. I'd ask first personally.

Annabell80 · 14/02/2021 10:57

My daughter and her "boyfriend" exchanged cards at 5 and 6. I don't see why it bothers people so much. It's sweet at that age. Nothing sinister about it.

Emeraldshamrock · 14/02/2021 11:02

It is cute I'd ask first only because if it was this house I'd be mortified if a school DM knocked or I found them in my garden while I'm wearing a dressing gown with bed hair typical Sunday morning.

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