Would you let your 6yo drop off a Valentine's Day card?

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DS is in yr1, he says he "loves" a girl in his class and he talks about her a lot, we've heard this for months and months now.
I know they are friends and play together and generally get along.
He's asked about Valentine's Day a couple of days ago after it was mentioned and he got really excited and asked if he can make a card and take it to her house.

I don't really know the mum, we've had a couple brief chats at the school gates but that's about it, they only live 2 mins from us in the car and DP will be popping out to drop a birthday gift off for one of our friends today so he could just pop the card DS makes in their postbox along the way.
I feel silly but I'm almost not sure what the etiquette is.

Do we just let him do it? Do I drop a line to the mum and say DS has made one is it ok to drop it off?
My main worry is that we don't really know them and if it would feel a bit invasive on our part to be dropping something off at their address.

WWYD?
AIBU to just let him do it since he's been asking me all morning?

Because some people don’t want their 6 year old daughters in ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ territory, and I think that’s their choice
That's me. I hated the boyfriend girlfriend shit as a DC grown men asking if I've a boyfriend/can I be your boyfriend.
I never allow it with mine but they haven't fallen in love like OP'S DS.
I'd feel different if it was their choice even at 6.
DD would have been mortified.

@Emeraldshamrock

Because some people don’t want their 6 year old daughters in ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ territory, and I think that’s their choice That's me. I hated the boyfriend girlfriend shit as a DC grown men asking if I've a boyfriend/can I be your boyfriend. I never allow it with mine but they haven't fallen in love like OP'S DS. I'd feel different if it was their choice even at 6. DD would have been mortified.

Same. I really don’t like it and wouldn’t encourage or even allow it. I feel like girls are vulnerable from childhood. Objectified even. I’m sure that will sound extreme and people will think it’s just a little boy sending a card but because of my own life experiences I wouldn’t let a child send a Valentine’s card.

Hell no! He's six, not sixteen! Way too young to be sending Valentine's Day cards. It's completely inappropriate, frankly quite disgusting, and I'm shocked anyone thinks it's acceptable.

@AStudyinPink

I don’t understand why he shouldn’t post the card? I think it’s lovely!

Because some people don’t want their 6 year old daughters in ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ territory, and I think that’s their choice.

If the children were seeing each other every day and he gave it to her directly that's sweet. But putting an anonymous card through the door is a bit off, even for a 6 year old.

Also, we are in the middle of a pandemic! What part of "stay at home unless for essential travel" does this come under?

I hate the whole ‘boyfriend/girlfriend faux romance’ in kids I think it’s horrific.

My mil gets me a card for Mother’s Day. I find that weird but this is much worse.

I would message the mum first to check it’s okay as some people can be anti-Valentine’s or can be very paranoid around post because of covid but if the mind okay with it I think it’s lovely.

It’s not essential
It’s creepy to send anyone an anonymous card, let alone one that is associated with love - what kind of behaviour does that teach your son!? That stalking is ok?
I would suggest he creates a nice card that celebrates their friendship and post it.

I think if today had been a school day it would be fine to put a card on her desk. But a parent getting involved by driving round to drop it off is a bit much.

How does he know it’s Valentine’s Day?! My dc are oblivious and not the slightest bit interested!
I’d be uncomfortable if it was my six year old dd but I wouldn’t like to say no either.

Can’t he just send her a nice ‘can’t wait to play again’ card and not today? Is the card obviously a valentines card, does it say anything about love or girlfriend in it? If so drop it off a different day.

My dd would feel uncomfortable with a Valentine’s card. In fact all 3 primary school dd’s would.

Ok there's some very mixed opinions but I'm not sure where in my post I suggested I'm encouraging stalking and what's so horrific about it also nowhere did I mention that it's an anonymous card.

He made it with his full name in it and he's also in the past received Christmas / birthday cards from girls in his class that say "I love you" even though he doesn't even play with them that much I think it's still pretty innocent at this age?

I'm even more unsure now.

I wouldn’t like it but then I hate young children having bf/gf and I hate including kids in Valentine’s Day I just think it’s wrong. Was a bit when my kids came out of school with valentines cards they had made

I'm quite surprised at all these responses. My DC are normally pretty sheltered but my DD (8) asked to drop a card she'd made at her friend's house (he's a boy). They live round the corner from us. Last year he gave her a chocolate at school. They don't refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend but they sometimes give each other little gifts. I don't see the harm in it really. We've had the conversation about how she doesn't have to give someone gifts etc just because they give them to her.

When I was a kid at primary school people used to give out cards and pictures on Valentine's Day.

I would text to explain and ask.

Definitely avoid sending an anonymous card to a 6 yr old for Valentine’s Day without telling them, that would be weird from their perspective.

Sorry see it is not anon.

No I wouldn't. You don't know if the other mum would get annoyed over it. Having said that my son has has valentine's cards from girls in his class and it hasn't bothered me. He got embarrassed over it though.

How is any of this shit essential travel?? It is not essential for your DH to be dropping off a gift so 'he's going out anyway' is bollocks. What is wrong with people that they cannot understand a simple stay at home message

If you do, use it as an opportunity to talk about behaviour towards girls in an age appropriate way. A starting point for making sure he does not grow up to be a nasty misogynist and when it happens, treats rejection and no in the right way.

It's a bit of fun in my opinion. A homemade card through the door is hardly offensive.

There's not much fun about at the moment so I'd say just go for it.

My DD is a little older and her "boyfriend" has just popped around with a homemade card and a few little valentine's gifts. The smile on her face now means a lot to me. She's not had much fun lately and this has given her a bit of happiness.

No. I’d not see it as an essential journey (nor the birthday gift) so wouldn’t be doing it.
Some people are quarantining post/deliveries so you may just put more anxiety on them if that’s the case.
Plus at that age I wouldn’t want them doing cards for others that are romance based.