AIBU Star of the week

[Headspinning188]

I think I probably am being unreasonable but I feel a little hurt and I just wonder if you would feel this way too?

My son is 7, he is at home learning with my husband and I (we both work ft, I am a teacher so am in my own school each morning teaching and then home pm to prep recorded lessons for following day). We did not take a kw place as the school were keen for numbers to be kept as low as possible and my husband is at home working so it has been doable. However, like all of us, the home school juggle has been tough but we've always made sure the maths and English tasks are completed each day. My son's school share on a feed numerous pieces of work each day completed by the chn but I notice more and more that a) they only share work that I would view as completed by higher ability pupils (my own son finds writing difficult but always tries his best, however his writing is NEVER shared) and b) they only share the very elaborate projects completed by chn whose parents clearly have more time to spend on work with their child. This is the same for the star's of the week. It's always the most able chn or the ones with stay at home parents who have time to get everything done. I just really feel sorry for the chn whose families are doing their best whilst juggling work as I feel like the school are.suggesting they aren't doing enough. I really.dont feel they should be giving out public stars of the week right now when everyone is trying their best. It's made me feel so guilty that we are letting our son down.

Same here OP

@Createsuser

I hear you OP. Trying to juggle 100% concentration at work with getting the link for the lesson, multiple laptops needed for multiple kids with various work saved on various laptops and never ending homework is a lot of deal with. Without the constant cooking 2/3 meals a day then cleaning them. So normally engaged parents are feeling that they appear disengaged when they actually have double tube workload!

THIS !!

@Headspinning188
I agree that these shouldn't be happening right now.
So far All of these awards have gone to the children of the PTA.
I'm one of the few parents working and homeschooling, and actually my child has made bloody amazing efforts. Yet his learning isn't "good enough". Yet those children of the PTA are quite obviously amazing.

We changed our Star of the Week focus from good work to good attitude to learning. So in the case of your DC, we would not hold up his writing to show everyone, but would praise him for ‘having a positive attitude to his writing’. This is much more inclusive and covers a whole multitude of learning!!!

I’d echo a PP above - do your own reward. Depending on how much you think your DC understand, let them know that your opinion at home matters more than this ridiculous reward scheme. An earlier thread on this subject had a post that noted that this doesn’t continue in high school and that has been our experience, although our juniors were not as bad as yours. At high school detentions and (bad) behaviour points are the response to bad behaviour.
Our high school is sending out lots of general praise and encouragement, and only showcasing very exceptional work occasionally, maybe once every three weeks across the entire school and my DC has told me that one was certainly deserved as the pupil can produce art that good in school so it’s not the parents work.