AIBU to tell Doctor about DH's family medical history?

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Hello I was hoping that someone may have been in a similar position or work in a GPs surgery and able to give me practical advice.

Myself and DH are both in our 40s and healthy, haven't had the need to go and see our Dr about anything in at least 2 years.

In the last year, 2 of DH's relatives (mum and uncle) have died from cancer. His uncle 4 weeks after diagnosis with pancreatic cancer; his mum after a long horrid battle - lung, breast, liver and bone - it was awful, she was 65 (her twin sister died of breast cancer at 55).

Through these tragic deaths it transpired that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, on MIL side of the family has died from cancer going back quite a few generations. I really want this on my DH medical notes. If he ever goes into the Dr with an ache or pain, I want them to see how prevalent cancer is on his mother's side of the family.

DH has been pretty laid back and when he goes to the Dr it's usually me pushing him through the door. If he was to tell the Dr, I am sure he would 'play it down' in a typically British way.

Am I able to ring up the Dr or surgery and ask them to put this information in his notes? Any advice on this would be deeply appreciated.

I think all men should have the PSA test annually from the age of 50 - & yes I know there is all that "well it can lead to over diagnosis" as high psa can also be benign prostrate issues - but if it is that than can treated & may in fact need treatment.
The earlier prostate cancer is treated the better & the better the outcome. Note sometimes prostate cancer has a low Gleason factor which means that it does not need treatment & the doctors will monitor it to check it continues to be OK.

I think this is fairly normal tbh for a lot of families. His really isnt unusual. Cancer is very common..

No you cannot add something to another person’s medical records.

My father died of bowl cancer in 2018 and a lot of my mothers family have died of various cancers ( lung, skin, stomach, throat), most related to diet, smoking & drinking

only a few cancers have genetic links and generally come from parents, not the extent Ed family, so you need to know about his mother, the other relations don’t really make any difference

www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/worried-about-cancer/causes-and-risk-factors/family-history-genetics-and-cancer-risk

For me I might have slightly higher chance of developing bowel cancer as my father a 1st degree relative developed it, but he was 80, so the increased risk for me is tiny
Try talking to someone at McMillan, they were very good and helpful during my father palliative care