Pushover DH and in-laws

[TheSnowQueenie]

I am really fuming with my DH this week.

I have kept to all the Covid restrictions etc. and have made a massive effort to get DH and my weight down and get fitter so that we have a better chance if we catch this disease. FYI, I have 2 relatives who have died of it, so I am quite cautious.

DH's family say they are following the rules, unless that is of course there is an opening to go abroad which they take or a get-together that suits them.

At the weekend I heard that a party is being arranged for PIL's big wedding anniversary for late spring. It's all full steam ahead in planning, with a couple of nights stay in the hotel. Around 25 people have been invited, including us who HAVE to attend. My DH has just gone along with it like a sheep.

I ended up having a massive go at my DH asking him why he had agreed to it and why he hadn't pointed out to everyone that there is a global pandemic. Apparently, his parents will have been vaccinated by then so it's OK. Never mind the rest of us

I doubt it is going to happen but I am really mad at him and them for their recklessness. Surely 25 people + booze in a venue is the perfect setting for spreading Coronavirus and this is the type of thing where people have been catching it and dying?

I've told him I am not going and he is now in a mood with me and all his family will blame me if it doesn't go ahead.

Two different issues here.

YABU to be annoyed about the party planning in general. No reason not to try and plan something and if it can't go ahead because it's still against regulations then it won't. If they were saying they were going to have a big party in their house and it was going to go ahead regardless of what the law is by then that would be different.

YANBU about being expected to be involved in planning and that's a totally separate issue. Absolutely reasonable of you to be pissed off about the expectation you will help and to refuse to do so if you don't want to.