Valentines presents?

[ShutUpAlex]

Yabu - it’s naff
Yanbu - we like to spoil eachother

Also, if you do buy presents, what sort of things do you buy?

We don't do anything because neither of us think it's a real day. We don't need an excuse to be nice to each other or buy each other gifts.

That said, I will be pillaging the M&S dine in deal because they do nice prosecco 😂

We normally just get a takeaway, some years we do cards but not always. This year I've bought him some chocolate and booze he likes as frankly I'll do anything to break up the days at the moment! One year I got roses, which was lovely, so although the cynic in me turns my nose up at the manufactured romance of it all, I'm also a sucker for a nice bunch of flowers.

We haven't ever bothered in the last 17 years. We've decided to give it a go this year because it's nice to have something to look forward to in covid times.

We usually completely ignore it, same for Mother's Day and Father's Day. But this year I think we might make something really nice for dinner, simply because we want any excuse to jazz up the weekend.

I love Valentine’s Day.

I usually get him some whiskey, card and I bake him a heart shaped cake or cheese cake.

He gets me perfume, flowers, chocolate and cooks me a lovely meal (he’s a chef!)

We always get presents for each other for Valentine’s Day. I wonder if the same posters who don’t also tell other posters that birthdays are for children? Anyway dh will send me some flowers, maybe he’s bought me some perfume, not sure what else yet. I’ve bought him some presents, and we have a nice dinner box thing coming

I've got my DH some heart shaped cake thingies from a local trader which are super cute.

I've opened a package by accident this morning and he's got me a massive love heart shaped umbrella 🤷🏻‍♀️

We have a tiny baby so not sure when I'd be able to use the brolly also I'd probably look mental walking around with it.

Nothing says I love you like a massive brolly does it?! Might suggest that we don't bother for future years 😂

YABU for using the phrase ‘spoil eachother’, it sets my teeth on edge.

You aren’t milk and can’t be spoiled.

We don't do anything. I'm in no doubt that my husband loves me and we buy each other little things all the time, we don't need to be told when to do it and I kind of resent the notion that we do.

@FraughtwithGin

Totally unnecessary and yet another intrusion and devaluation of British life and culture. You can buy a loved one a present any time, in fact the thought and gesture are more valuable when not dictated by commercialism.

.......and we do buy presents at any time too! We don’t sit around waiting for 14th February to treat each other to something we see that we know the other would like......no-one is being dictated to by commercialism here! Not sure how intruding and devaluing ‘British Culture??!’ 😂

My husband usually orders a box of food from a Scottish smokehouse, eg smoked meats/cheeses, oysters, pate, fish etc. Then we just have a nice meal at home together.

@Bangable

No idea why being nice to your DH and choosing him a gift is considered naff, typical MN contempt for anything seen as remotely romantic, where admitting to any expression of love to one's DH is seen as a weakness

The MN cynics will hate me. I've just ordered my DH a card from Moonpig covered in photos of us and I've bought him an essential oil diffuser for his study, he loves lavender and covets the one I have on in our bedroom I'm going to make him a steak and ale pie and we'll have a romantic evening.

I totally agree! ‘YABU to involve yourself in mutual gift giving and general fun with your partner/husband.’ Ok then.

DH always gets me something like chocolates from Hotel Chocolate and a small gift, and I do the same for him - and we do cards. This year we’re making the effort to have a nice meal too. Anything to cheer up these miserable and groundhog-day times!!

It's a bit shallow, tbh.
If you love somebody, tell them daily and show it, then actions speak louder than presents

Plus I've known so many devoted men, with valentines day cards, flowers etc who are shagging their secretary or another woman.

@FraughtwithGin

Totally unnecessary and yet another intrusion and devaluation of British life and culture. You can buy a loved one a present any time, in fact the thought and gesture are more valuable when not dictated by commercialism.

Bah Humbug

We've never done presents even in the early romantic days!

We get a card for each other, he gets me a bunch of flowers and I get him something chockately. We never go out we always cook a nice dinner at home. So we mark the evening as something to make a little bit of extra effort for but we don't go for it in a big way at all.

I know some couples who treat it like a birthday!

My partner will get me things like flowers chocolate jewelry and some other gift and make a special day for me, I don't see how it can be naff unless christmas and birthdays and everything is also naff

We do cards, and a nice meal - usually the M&S meal deal, we'd rarely go to a restaurant even in non-Covid times - and DH gets me flowers because he knows I love getting them. Don't think we've ever done presents as such.

I've bought my partner sweets shaped like boobs. We aren't taking it seriously. we'll have a nice meal together though and watch a film.

We tell eachother we love eachother everyday and show it yet still manage to celebrate Valentine’s Day without exploding

It’s not either or.

Nope we won’t be doing presents or cards (we never have apart from maybe the first year we were together) but we are going to have a curry once DS is in bed and share a bottle of wine, maybe some chocolate and watch a film together.

Exactly this We don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to express how we feel!! Any old day of the week suits us!

My message was to ShutUpAlex

Normally we'd spend the money on a night away before or after Valentine's when it's cheaper, but this year we're ordering an extra nice takeaway. I've bought him a t-shirt and a card.

We are nice to each other all year round of course, I'm not sure why someone would think anyone celebrating Valentine's day only celebrates their relationship that one day! But I don't know, it's just fun to have an excuse to do something special, and have a little treat, especially when we're saving hard at the moment so trying not to spend randomly...

Always got a card and flowers pre kids. Now with the kids, I get a card and flowers from them ( single roses from each of them ) and my husband. This year we are making our own cards as kids are a bit older ( 5 & 3 ) and they will be making the cards for me and my husband. I will also take them to the shop to buy a small chocolate bar for their dad.

I read so many threads on here about how husbands/wives/sons/daughters don't bother with any cards/gifts for birthdays/Xmas/Valentines/special occassions. I am hoping that my two plus the one I am currently expecting will learn from an early age about the joy of giving/receiving and once they grow and have their own relationships they can carry it on.

I love any excuse to treat others and enjoy the same in return! Especially at the moment. Definitely a special dinner, flowers, chocolate, cards..