To be livid relative called my 2 year old slow?

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Relative said to me " he is very behind isn't he "

23 month old has plenty of words , talks a lot mostly babble . Has fantastic receptive understanding . Nil concerns from nursery or health visitor .

Older relative looked at me and said " he is very behind isn't he " For context he said this after repeatedly telling toddler to say dog over and over again whilst toddler was trying to eat his lunch

FYI I straight away said no he is not behind ! Also said not to be in his face demanding he talks .

Why do people have to be so vile

@ChablisandCrisps

Of course it is rude to say he is slow but he may have been coming from a caring place? My 4 could all hold a basic conversation by 2 so maybe he is concerned for you? But you know him better and whether he is being tactless or nasty

There's always one

"Based on what knowledge FILD?"

It's not normal to have a basic conversation with a 2 year old though. My son was 3 when he could talk properly. We could understand most of what he said before that, but I was worried. He was seen twice by 2 different health visitors (once at 2 and once at 2.5), and neither were concerned.
My youngest however, was born talking I swear
My oldest is now 7, you wouldn't know he couldn't talk when he was 2
Take no notice. My mum and MIL used to go on at us all the time about my son not talking, as if it was our fault! I overheard my MIL on the phone once saying to my husband that we needed to talk to him and read to him more
According to my mum I could talk at 9/10 months. Yeah ok mum.....

Sorry I meant to say we could understand what he said but he couldn't say much, and he mostly just babbled

@Heartofglass12345 I didn't say it was normal, it's totally anecdotal that my 4 children could converse by 4, but that doesn't mean lots of others haven't also. The grandfather could be genuinely concerned or he could be being a deliberate arse, the OP will know best. If h3 is being an arse she should tell him so

Converse by 2, sorry! Feeding a baby and typing is not my forte

Haha! I know it's just some people think that kids should be walking, talking, potty trained and have a job by the time they are a toddler
My youngest was like yours, I've got videos of him counting before he could even say the numbers properly lol, but his brother has autism and was obsessed with number videos at the time
I suppose I was just trying to reassure OP that it is normal for them to be babbling at that age, no hate against you lol

I take it this person was very old?
Is this person saying other inappropriate things?
I'd be wondering if this was the beginning of dementia showing up.

@ChablisandCrisps

Of course it is rude to say he is slow but he may have been coming from a caring place? My 4 could all hold a basic conversation by 2 so maybe he is concerned for you? But you know him better and whether he is being tactless or nasty

I imagine it came from the same 'caring' place as did your response.

Children all develop at their own pace. Your child is not slow but sensible he was eating his lunch for goodness sake.
Unless this person was a consultant paediatrician specialising in developmental delay I'd be paying no attention at all to their offensive mutterings.

I’d say that at his age, he may well have forgotten what to expect of a child of that age, and also may be losing his filter on what to say and what to keep to yourself!
My own grandmother’s filter seemed to disappear in her 80s - caused some very cringeworthy moments out in public!
Also, why is your baby visiting its great grandfather at the moment? (Or vice versa)

He's the one who's slow - clearly he has no understanding of young children. And what terrible table manners - hectoring someone when they're trying to enjoy lunch.

@Soontobe60 support bubble lives alone ,sees no one

@Heartofglass12345 yes he is counting to 10 but not all numbers can be fully understood. If he sees an animal he will shout what it is . If you ask him a question he will say yes /no other appropriate answer for example
Point to what he wants . He has full understanding and is capable of following instructions but won't always copy words . He will sometimes but he just didn't fancy it at the time .

YABU to be anything other than bemused with this.

Your child isn’t slow or behind. FILs dad however, is elderly and has no idea. You know that, I know that, everyone knows that! Pay him no mind, else you’ll go spare before your child is grown.

@ChablisandCrisps it's not from a caring place surely as his mother if I had concerns I would be acting on them.. it's inappropriate to come out with that . He always used to tell us how chatty the girl next door was and it seemed he was comparing FYI she is 7

Thanks @MustardMitt doesn't help aunt flow due this week so am hormonal

On his second birthday my first ds could say 10 words and that was at a stretch. He now earns more than me and uses his good conversational skills to move up the work ladder.
My dd could hold a full conversation at 2 and now chooses to work in an environment where it suits her not to talk to many people.
It's a sign of nothing. Just ignore it and enjoy your boy.

He sounds great

I meant your son not the person that said it haha

Only when he's not fast? You, with a raised eyebrow

@Heartofglass12345

It's not normal to have a basic conversation with a 2 year old though. My son was 3 when he could talk properly. We could understand most of what he said before that, but I was worried. He was seen twice by 2 different health visitors (once at 2 and once at 2.5), and neither were concerned. My youngest however, was born talking I swear My oldest is now 7, you wouldn't know he couldn't talk when he was 2 Take no notice. My mum and MIL used to go on at us all the time about my son not talking, as if it was our fault! I overheard my MIL on the phone once saying to my husband that we needed to talk to him and read to him more According to my mum I could talk at 9/10 months. Yeah ok mum.....

@Heartofglass12345 You probably could.

Some children do talk early, while others don't until later.

However I think it's better for everyone if children take their time learning talking and walking.

Very rude of him and no-def not ‘slow’ ignore and don’t let it get to you

Don’t fret, in a few years your little one will be doing what I apparently did when a patronising shop lady waved a toy animal at me with the words, ‘I bet you don’t know what this is.’ Apparently I gave her my best withering stare and said ‘of course I do, it’s a hippopotamus.’ 🤣

That’s really rude. Ignore completely and give your gorgeous and perfect DS a big hug