Quiky (unusaul)friend Confuses me and I don't know why.😕

[thosetalesofunexpected]

I have a friend,i have known for some time now, i just put my finger on it, why she confuses me so much.
For e.g amongst many examples
I used to before lockdowns started happening, vist a local community centre place,one of the the regular activities held there,I used to enjoy doing,
the community centre were giving away particular items away,so I had a couple of these popular items,to give to a couple of friends as gifts,as i know both my friends are really into this kind of popular hobby,
so i did just that,one of my friend appreciated this,(but my other friend sort of appreciated the gift,but she said to me,that she prefer, wished she had our mutual friend gift instead as she liked the colour a lot better,(does not like the colour gift i gave her.
(It was exactly same kind of gifts for mural friend aswell.

Another example my friend ,a former school friend of mine sadly died a couple of years ago,and my friend said I wonder why she died?was it cause she was doing drugs?
(My school friend moved away a long time ago from the area I live with my friend, and my friend does not know my school friend,(never met her.
(so why on earth did my friend come out with a random insensitive comment such as this?
just cause she was not old dying,i am in my late 4oyrs age.

Another example my friend mentioned a friend of hers wanted to give up her partime job,and my friend asked if I was interested in taking up this job,as it was similar kind of job I was doing already at that time.
(My friend asked me if I was interested in this job?and she said if I was intetested?
My friend said she would have to tell the woman,whom her friend worked for.
My friend said she would first have to tell her my cultural ethnicity,before she took me on.
(I wasn't interested in this job,as I was fed up with the job already had,and fancied a change of job to do.

Another example my friend mentioned why are you not interested in this job,?is it cause they have to check your/people job references then?
What a weird questions to ask/say isn't it !

My friend is one of those types of people, who is ultra sensitive but when it comes to other people,she often puts her foot in it,is outspoken,tells it as it is !
(But people and friends of hers have to walk on egg shells with her.
She gets worked up,very sensitive about almost anything a lot of things.

Another example my friend has aoften ongoing issues with people she works with/and for,to such a extant that she has had discipliary actions against.
Her job,career is extremely responsible role,it has to be as society depends on this.

Another example when we were amongst a small group of friends at at a large Prestige community event,
(local councillors,and local MPs present etc,my friend had one of her outbursts whilst we were talking about a very well known infamous famous person from uk,who has notorious reputation, my friend mentioned her ex Partner ,with whom she had had a very messy,very bad break up.
My friend compared her ex,to this infamous person and said her ex partner should not work with very venerable members of the community too.

Another example is whilst we were waiting at a queue, at a store in our town,someone annoying to her queue jumped before her,
Obviously she was naturally bit pissed off,(but my friend saw this queue jumper person whilst walking around this store, and my friend walked past her and pretended to have a fake coughing fit (as she told me later it was too get back at her, and she knew this would obviously be a very effective way to annoy the queue jumper with the current Covid times we are living at.
Has anybody else had a quiky(unausaul friend as this?
she is very Lucky Nobody at work knows about this side of her personality,what she did.
As she would be having her P45 form in the Post,her line of work,her action at that store,but be far too Controversial thing to do,
My friend can be a loose canon at times
I can not say her line of work as it be far too outing on here.!
And she would really be in the shit with her reputation job/career wise !
She has enough of problematic issues going on already at work.

I'm not following at all OP.

It doesn't sound like your friend is quirky or unusual. It sounds like she is a bit rude.

She sounds like she’s very impolite
Why is she your friend?

Your friend doesn't sound like a very nice person, if I'm honest.
Are you a little afraid of her? She seems quite forceful and domineering.

You don’t have to stay friends with her - i’d see her much less as she sounds awful.

I can't see anything wrong with half your examples up there.

Your friend doesn't sound quirky or unusual she sounds like a rude bitch who causes public drama's to get her own way. If I were you OP I'd back way from her she isn't your friend if she treats people like you've said she'll turn on you the second she doesn't get her own way and from the sounds of it she also doesn't like you having other friends a real friend wouldn't behave this way. I had a toxic friend who had outbursts the second she couldn't get her own way with me and I had endless phone calls about how other people at work were picking on her and upsetting her I really felt sorry for her until I started recognising the signs its one thing to not get along with one or two people but when everyone has a issue with you then maybe it ain't them that's the problem. OP I'd advise you think about this friendship and what this friend brings to your life, if its nothing but drama and problems and its all about her and she's never there when you need her then she most definitely isn't your friend.

She's not quirky or unusual. But she is rude and tactless. Why on earth are you friends. She's not adding anything to your life. I avoid people like her like the plague .

I wouldn’t describe her as quirky, but then I wouldn’t describe her as your friend either.

It sounds as if you don’t like each other very much.

She doesn’t sound great, but equally I can’t imagine saying the following about someone I considered a friend.

Lucky Nobody at work knows about this side of her personality,what she did. As she would be having her P45 form in the Post

Find new friends, honestly life is too short for this kind of rude, shitty behaviour.

She sounds like a dickhead. Don't be friends with dickheads.

what does it al mean??????? you mean?

She sounds awful.

You sound like you don’t actually like her.

Move on and find another friend.

You seriously need to work on your typing and punctuation skills, that was an absolute ordeal to read.

@DayBath

You seriously need to work on your typing and punctuation skills, that was an absolute ordeal to read.

I'm a complete SPaG pedant but I really didn't feel the need to comment on this post.

Oh bore off @AndreaMartelsCoat and stop virtue signalling. I don't give a shit if OP uses the correct grammar but fuck me, put some full stops here and there instead of typing one huge run on sentence. I'm never one to correct SPaG but posters need to make their stuff readable.

That's why this has so few comments, I bet a lot of people can't make sense of what OP is actually saying without getting a headache.

Do you ever consider that some people, @daybath have a different life experience to you in lots of ways, perhaps even in education. There is no need to point this out.

Op she sounds nasty just stay away.

If OPs post requires multiple readings to understand then it needs pointing out. I find it shocking that you immediately jumped to her having "educational issues" rather than just clumsy fingers on a small phone screen which was actually my assumption. I think that says a lot more about you than me.

That was directed at @Cheeeeislifenow

@DayBath bore off because I'm virtue signalling? Not sure where that came from.

Just using a minuscule amount of brain power can work out what the Op was saying, we are not all equally educated, remember that.

This bit
"My friend is one of those types of people, who is ultra sensitive but when it comes to other people,she often puts her foot in it,is outspoken,tells it as it is !
(But people and friends of hers have to walk on egg shells with her.
She gets worked up,very sensitive about almost anything a lot of things"
Made me wonder if your "friend" is on the autistic spectrum.

@thosetalesofunexpected

My friend whilst walking past very close to queue jumper,pretended to have fake coughing fit.
(my friend was not wearing face mask,which is extremly suprising consirdering her line of work/career, she of all people should know the importance of face masks,
(well put it this way,if i said what kind of role job she does,it would hit would the headlines for sure.

Also my friend when she said about job offer.
(it was about informal partime job, working in a client house,helping her to keep house in order,from her obsession with severe hoarding,(de cluttering stuff etc.

I could not understand why my friend thought it was important to let this woman know my cultural ethnicity first,before this woman would consirder take me on?
(I wanted to know why my friend thinks in this way then?

Also my friend mentioned at large community outdoor event about her ex partner comparing him to a very sexually Depraved extremely infamous, Notorious person, in uk social history in modern times.

@DayBath

You seriously need to work on your typing and punctuation skills, that was an absolute ordeal to read.

I wasn't going to comment, but I agree. I gave up after a couple of paragraphs. Sorry.

Even the title has about five typos, for goodness' sake.

I think we all know how you feel having read that!! Seriously, I have no idea what your point is. Your friend says things you think are odd or inappropriate?? If you don’t agree with the way she acts then don’t be friends with her. Is this maybe a cultural thing? I’m guessing from your writing that English isn’t your first language?