We have been living in Devon for 14 years (originally from Midlands). My Mum moved down to be closer to us soon after and lives about 10 miles away. However 5 years ago my husband was made redundant and has now had to go an work back in the Midlands. He has been coming home late on Friday night and leaving on Sunday morning. We are now at the stage when our son is leaving college and I have been made redundant and although I have post graduate qualifications am looking at minimum wage to find another job. We sold our house and we have been looking at moving back to the Midlands as I thought this would be better for all of us financially as we are now struggling to pay rent and mortgage on two properties so my Husband has somewhere to live mid week and myself and Son need to find work. I also hate living here and desperate to move back to civilisation. Property is also very expensive where we live and not really any employment opportunities for my Son. Apart from that spending only one day a week together is stressful.
I suggested this to my Mum as she has family and people she knows in the Midlands. She is also wanting to move out of her current house as it is too big for her. This hasn't gone down well and she says we are just leaving her alone to die and don't care about her. I have looked at quite a few areas and given her suggestions and ideas of where she could live near us but she is not keen on anywhere as she likes living by the sea. She is 72 and very fit walks about 10 miles a day and at the moment doesn't need care so could possibly stay where she is. She has a few friendly but not a great social life where she is.
Am I being unreasonable expecting her to move with us or even moving and leaving her behind.
The general opinions from friends is that I should stay and look after my mother but they don't have husbands and children. If I stay here it is likely I will be on my own long term except for one day a week. I don't have any social life here I am not single but not part of a couple (as he's never here) so don't really fit into any category for socialising.
Any suggestions ideas appreciated.