Annual leave to attend funeral. AIBU?

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It is my aunty's funeral tomorrow, and I have always had the day booked off as annual leave. My line manager is aware that I am attending a funeral.

AIBU to request this is compassionate leave and not my own annual leave?

I understand the policies include "immediate family", but I feel slight resentment in the fact that my colleague (we are a team of 3, 1 line manager, myself and my colleague) has had almost 5 weeks off as "special leave", fully paid, for an array of spurious excuses. These include having to cook a birthday cake for her son's birthday, attending house-viewings and attending to her horse in a local horse field. Seriously..

It is with these in mind that I feel a bit miffed to be using annual leave to attend my aunty's funeral.

Do you think I could request compassionate leave without sounding unreasonable to my line manager?

Thanks x

I went to my uncles funeral last month. It had to go through HR but was granted as bereavement leave.
Sorry for your loss.

I work in a school and have been given leave for a funeral of an uncle. I was also given leave to wait outside my neighbour's house when his hearse left as we couldn't attend the funeral. You know your boss and your company.

Your colleague clearly has things going on in her private life that you know nothing about.

my colleague (we are a team of 3, 1 line manager, myself and my colleague) has had almost 5 weeks off as "special leave", fully paid, for an array of spurious excuses. These include having to cook a birthday cake for her son's birthday, attending house-viewings and attending to her horse in a local horse field. Seriously..

If this is correct, then I have to question why it has taken until now for you to speak up.

It sounds like you have been keeping tally of the time and reason your colleague is off. Why not actually tackle it?

Yes ask for compassionate leave and use this as your opener to ask WTF is going on with your colleague and all the time they have off on full pay!

It's worth asking. I was allowed a day off as compassionate leave for my uncle's funeral.

Yes ask for compassionate leave and use this as your opener to ask WTF is going on with your colleague and all the time they have off on full pay!

No do not do this as your colleague’s circumstances are none of your business

Your colleague has been unreasonable. I'm not sure you should descend to that level.