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To think my friend has taken me for a mug?

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PenAndPaperback · 02/02/2021 19:02

Back in December, I made an online listing for my 2018 MacBook on Facebook marketplace and received a ton of 'lowball' offers or people asking me to drive an hour plus to deliver it to their place. A friend of mine messaged me, telling me that her current laptop had broken down and that she's having trouble finding work because of that (she's a freelancer).

She asked if I could 'sell' it to her first and that she'd pay it back in instalments after paying off her kids' stuff etc, before telling me that she would get back to me because she had to calculate everything. She eventually came up with a payment plan that lasted almost 2 years and I told her that I'd just give it to her as I didn't need the money and that if I were to bring it in for 'trade-in' I was told that I'd get basically nothing for it anyway.

So I dropped it off in her mailbox, and I thought that that was that. Fast forward to last week, she was sending me screenshots on her computer, and it was on a Windows laptop! I asked her in a semi-joking way, oh, did the MacBook spoil and she said that no, she's just using her old laptop and that she's using the one I sent her for 'storage'. If I had known she didn't really need it I definitely wouldn't have given it to her!

I'm not going to ask for it back, of course. But AIBU to be a bit miffed off by all this?

OP posts:
Fabpinky · 02/02/2021 19:31

She’s sold it

Nat6999 · 02/02/2021 19:32

I'd tell her yours isn't working & can you borrow it back. Then watch her sweat.

1Morewineplease · 02/02/2021 19:35

Im inclined to agree with the majority.
Maybe ask her if you can go on it to retrieve something that's still on there maybe? Then you'll know.

Geordieoldgirl · 02/02/2021 19:39

Ask her for it back! She is taking advantage of your kindness.

AStudyinPink · 02/02/2021 19:40

Tell her you want it back. Cheeky cow.

LegendDairy · 02/02/2021 19:41

She's sold it

Claphands · 02/02/2021 19:42

I think you should ask for it back, or for payment, that’s an utter pisstake. Sadly the saying “no good deed goes unpunished” springs to mind.

Nomorepies · 02/02/2021 19:42

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Affor · 02/02/2021 19:43

But she said hers was broken, ask her how she got it fixed?

StephenBelafonte · 02/02/2021 19:44

She's sold it.

Who the fuck does that to a friend?

MissMarpleDarling · 02/02/2021 19:45

Yea she sold it on I bet. Rather rude of her.

Princessbanana · 02/02/2021 19:47

there isnt really a lot you can do about it now. she agreed to buy it and pay in installments and if she sticks by this then she will have upheld her end of the bargain. if you really needed the money you should have held on to it until someone posted a better offer, but its not about the money, its about the way she is using it and that is not really any of your concern! next time, dont sell to friends and i hope she does eventually pay it all off or it will be an expensive lesson learned!

Heathcliff27 · 02/02/2021 19:49

@Princessbanana

there isnt really a lot you can do about it now. she agreed to buy it and pay in installments and if she sticks by this then she will have upheld her end of the bargain. if you really needed the money you should have held on to it until someone posted a better offer, but its not about the money, its about the way she is using it and that is not really any of your concern! next time, dont sell to friends and i hope she does eventually pay it all off or it will be an expensive lesson learned!
She didn't but it, OP gave it to her for free
Heathcliff27 · 02/02/2021 19:50

*buy

HavelockVetinari · 02/02/2021 19:51

If you don't ask for it back, you ARE a bloody mug - don't let her treat you like this!

Leeds2 · 02/02/2021 20:06

I would certainly ask for it back. She doesn't need it.

AndcalloffChristmas · 02/02/2021 20:17

Yes ask for it back.

“There’s obviously been a misunderstanding as I only gave it to you because I thought you didn’t have working computer, and couldn’t afford one. As you know, I was planning to sell this, but gave it to you because I’d hate to see a friend in difficulty. Can you give it back to me, since you have another, as I will now go ahead and sell it as planned.”

thosetalesofunexpected · 02/02/2021 20:19

@PenAndPaperback

Is your so called friend name Emma
as I unfornately know what she is like only too well.

AramintaLee · 02/02/2021 20:22

Yeah I would also ask for it back. I feel like had she been honest about the situation, there is no way you would have given it to her. You did a generous, helpful thing and she's taken advantage.

Like previous posters have said... I think she's probably sold it. That would be a friendship ending move for me.

oakleaffy · 02/02/2021 20:24

Macbook Pros are about £1000 plus plus.

What a completely cheeky mare!

She definitely sold it.

Otherwise one would use an external hard drive.

C F ery

I had a dead MacBook Pro, I gave it back to Apple for recycling..

But was told it could be sold for ''Spares and repairs '' on Ebay.

Just couldn't face the hassles though.

TellySavalashairbrush · 02/02/2021 20:24

I gave a couple I worked with my pram, it was as new so could have sold it for a few quid but knew they didn’t have much so didn’t ask them for money. Saw them a few weeks later using it to collect logs for their wood burner, baby was in a filthy looking pouch on their back while my beautiful pram had bloody old logs in it! Never felt the same about them after that.

oakleaffy · 02/02/2021 20:28

@TellySavalashairbrush

I gave a couple I worked with my pram, it was as new so could have sold it for a few quid but knew they didn’t have much so didn’t ask them for money. Saw them a few weeks later using it to collect logs for their wood burner, baby was in a filthy looking pouch on their back while my beautiful pram had bloody old logs in it! Never felt the same about them after that.
Oh my goodness...

I can just visualise them.

Grimy baby , face glazed with snot.

Poor kid.

I saw a chap in a smart sports car convertible load it up with skip wood for his log burner...old joists sprouting nails, rough old purlins all over the cream leather upholstery 😱

He didn't care.

toolazytothinkofausername · 02/02/2021 20:29

She sold it.

fucknuckle · 02/02/2021 20:29

@thosetalesofunexpected i know an emma like this too!

Ivy455 · 02/02/2021 20:31

That's cheeky af. I'd be really pissed off. Definitely be wary of her in future.