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Not wanting to go to funeral because of covid.

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Lilo29 · 01/02/2021 14:51

Hi all, I’ve been asked to attend a funeral next week. I agreed. It’s not a close relative (not a parent or grandparent or anything). But a sibling of grandparent. I agreed to go but now I’m having serious doubts.

Mainly because I have social anxiety but also anxiety due to covid. What if I had the virus and spread it? What about if others had the virus and gave it to me? I don’t really go out much at all to minimise my risk.

There will be up to 30 people there inc some of my family who I know aren’t great at social distancing. And will probably all sit close together. I’d want to sit at a distance 😭 which probably won’t go down well. I know masks will be worn? Etc. But I still feel on edge about it all.

Aibu not to go? Would it be rude if I was invited and told them I would and not to? Obviously I would let them know and give a reason. Would you be honest about your reasons not to go? Or would you make a reasonable excuse like childcare issues or car issues etc.

There will be a few other people in attendance so it’s not like they need me there.

Feel awful not going but I feel my anxiety is getting the better of me. Social events (albeit a funeral) really stress me out.

I know someone who went to a funeral then tested positive shortly after. She thinks it could be from there as she hadn’t really been near anyone else. 😭

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peak2021 · 01/02/2021 17:58

Your comment about your DS is enough reason to decline in my opinion. Doing it tomorrow morning is giving plenty of notice.

Lilo29 · 01/02/2021 18:25

Thanks all!

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