To think friend is in competition with me?

[VeronicaHarmonica]

Maybe it’s just in my head.

I sold my house and moved in with a family member as housing market was closed for quite a few months. Then when I finally got a house it ended up being 4 bedrooms. No intension of this and was looking for 3 it just happened I found this one within budget (live up north so much cheaper).

Friend all of sudden decided to move and wouldn’t consider anything less than 4. She did end up buying this too.

I bought a new car (had a terrible one before the where the window wouldn’t even work) and she had the better car. Then when I got a new one all she’s done is go on about buying a Range Rover. Never mentioned new car until I got mine.

I lightened my hair colour and then she did to the exact same shade.

I talked about getting a new job and then she’s left hers and got a new one.

When I’ve come over to her (when restrictions allowed) her boyfriend would be in the kitchen constantly cooking for us and making us drinks.

Thing is on paper she definitely has a better life than I do. She earns more, has a partner, slimmer and better looking. Obviously I can’t say whether she’s happy as I’m not her.

Just sometimes feels like whatever I do for myself she has to do one better.

@peboh yes & it can also be quite motivational. I got a new job a few yrs ago after moaning about my old one constantly & friend saw the change in me & applied & was offered a job. Wouldn't even think to class that as copying.
DH started a new job last yr & is doing really well & it's made me push my self harder.

Don't friendship groups also tend to have divorces at similar times too.

She earns more, has a partner, slimmer and better looking

She has no reason to be jealous of you if the above is the way you say it is.
Good-looking slim women are not jealous of women lesser looking or larger than them. Unless you're considerably younger, even then the fact she's better looking and slimmer will offset that.

Maybe she is unimaginative or lazy and when you do your stuff it reminds her to get a move on.

You probably need to tell her that you've booked a 3-week holiday in Dubai in July, and that you are currently looking at designs for your new tattoo

Yep

God, Fanacker1 you're hard work. The OP didn't find your story relevant, so what? Precious.

I was just calling out and challenging inaccuracies. Making sure she wasn't reposting and adding to thread under a different username

Omg even I’m not that invested in this thread. Why are you?

The accusations thrown around are just insane. The fact that you harped on about a story that is almost 20 years old and then tried to act like secret service.

You’ve made this thread go so weird.

@VeronicaHarmonica yes, thats me. Guess it was the name change thing that did it.

[quote wonble]@peboh yes & it can also be quite motivational. I got a new job a few yrs ago after moaning about my old one constantly & friend saw the change in me & applied & was offered a job. Wouldn't even think to class that as copying.
DH started a new job last yr & is doing really well & it's made me push my self harder.

Don't friendship groups also tend to have divorces at similar times too. [/quote]
Yes, two of my sisters separated from their husbands within 3 months of each other. The second was said seeing our other sister find the courage made her realise that it didn't have to be such a scary thing to do. Friends influence each other, it doesn't have to be a sinister or negative thing.

Fanacker1

@VeronicaHarmonica yes, thats me. Guess it was the name change thing that did it.

So which other name am I posting under then?

@VeronicaHarmonica i will leave that to MNHQ.

Hope you resolve the issues with your "friend" and her husbands heinous cooking for you both.

I'm going to ignore the chaos of this thread, OP!

My 'friend' got 3 of my tattoos done, made up a boyfriend with the same name, height, job and personality as mine, bought a house on the same street as mine (she thankfully didn't know I was moving out a few days after she moved in) and got a personalised number plate with my initials on it.

People are weird but I think buying a house and a car at a similar time as you could just be her trying to keep up with her peers? Lots of people feel a lot of pressure to be at the same level as their friends with moving out, learning to drive, buying a home etc. I think she's just coincidentally done things at the same time as you? Is she generally quite obsessive about anything? Does she constantly want to know what you're doing?

[quote Fanacker1]@VeronicaHarmonica i will leave that to MNHQ.

Hope you resolve the issues with your "friend" and her husbands heinous cooking for you both.

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Omg you’re so weird. I also never said anything about heinous cooking. Why are you so invested in this?

Actually throwing a tantrum because I didn’t react to your 20 year old story.

And awesome report away because I have nothing to hide. I clearly don’t have as much time on my hands like you by taking to myself on here - like you’ve been all day long.

She can't be in competition with you if you aren't competing. Try to just ignore it and focus on your happiness.

@VeronicaHarmonica

Maybe it’s just in my head.

I sold my house and moved in with a family member as housing market was closed for quite a few months. Then when I finally got a house it ended up being 4 bedrooms. No intension of this and was looking for 3 it just happened I found this one within budget (live up north so much cheaper).

Friend all of sudden decided to move and wouldn’t consider anything less than 4. She did end up buying this too.

I bought a new car (had a terrible one before the where the window wouldn’t even work) and she had the better car. Then when I got a new one all she’s done is go on about buying a Range Rover. Never mentioned new car until I got mine.

I lightened my hair colour and then she did to the exact same shade.

I talked about getting a new job and then she’s left hers and got a new one.

When I’ve come over to her (when restrictions allowed) her boyfriend would be in the kitchen constantly cooking for us and making us drinks.

Thing is on paper she definitely has a better life than I do. She earns more, has a partner, slimmer and better looking. Obviously I can’t say whether she’s happy as I’m not her.

Just sometimes feels like whatever I do for myself she has to do one better.

OP ... always trust your instincts ...

congratulations on your house and car 🌺🎉

BlueThistles

Thanks very much! Sort of seeing the house as a fresh start and hopefully leading into a better year for us all.

Friends influence each other, it doesn't have to be a sinister or negative thing.

Agree

[quote Fanacker1]@Puffalicious she did not need find my " story " relevant. I offered it as a perspective.I found hers dubious.

I was just calling out and challenging inaccuracies. Making sure she wasn't reposting and adding to thread under a different username.

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Jeebus, give up already. You only decided that OP was dubious because you didn't get the attention you wanted. Good attention, bad attention, you don't care as long as you get attention.

the comments are the best part of this. Congrats on your house and car OP, and definitely get your holiday booked!

@VeronicaHarmonica I get where you are coming from as I've seen this phenomenon with my own eyes.

One of my SIL's started copying the other. New hairstyle, identical handbag, exact same car, repainting rooms in the same shade, starting the same hobby, same colour nail varnish, you name it. Weird. I never noticed, but the one who was being copied did realise, and she told me. Just as well they were on opposite sides of the world really.

Oh my goodness I'm reading this thread and it's comedy gold. I can't stop laughing!!!!

I then get to @GeorgeMichaelsEspadrille post "...and breath to @Fanacker1

Then all of @Fanacker1 are all "message deleted by MHHQ. Here's a link to out talk guidelines".

Oh I needed cheering up tonight. Thank you!!!

@Fanacker1 sorry but you are acting a bit weird.

@VeronicaHarmonica go with your intuition. If you thinking she's copying you then she is.

She's no friend op. She uses you to make herself feel better than you but is also very envious of you. Not cool.