COVID Wedding

[Covidwedding123]

Hello, looking for some advice here or from anyone else in the same position.

OH and I were supposed to get married in May 2020, we rescheduled to beginning of May 2021, but we don’t have much faith.

We had a fairly large wedding planned (120) and although I know this number is probably not realistic even in 2021 and that’s okay. We would be happy to go ahead with less, but not if the numbers are like now (5). Also as I understand you aren’t allowed a reception/meal and even alcohol might be off the cards. If the rules were not to change between now and May we would not be happy to go ahead with the wedding.

So the question is would you reschedule ( YANBU) and if so when too ?

Or would you keep to the current date, and if so why ? (YABU)

@supersonicginandtonic

I'd rearrange for next year so you can have the wedding you want. To say you won't be able to have a wedding next year and we'll still be in a tier system is quite frankly ridiculous and doom mongering. The majority of the adult population will have been vaccinated and the government will want the Economy open by then.

Call it doom mongering all you want. Last year when lockdown started, several of us said this could last ages, with the virus mutating etc. Called doom mongerers then. Oh look what happened, we are still in lockdown and there's about 4 strains of the virus. Will the vaccine work against all of them? Who the hell knows. Hopefully it will, until it mutates again.

It's called being realistic. Yeah I could be positive, tell op yes you'll definitely be having your 100+ wedding in May, schedule away, ignore the news and plough on. Thus likely wasting her time and causing more issues in a few months when she's told 'er no you can only have 20 or 5 or whatever'.

Fact is, we will still have high rates of covid come winter again at the end of this year, because not enough people will be getting the vaccine for various reasons. The vaccine may not even work fully against the other strains of virus. And then others won't have been vaccinated either because they are further down the list. Plus not enough people are following this lockdown hence why it's spreading more. No one is caring, so more get it, more deaths etc.

It will be great if by next year we can return to some kind of normality. But I really doubt it. You'll get normal ish in the summer, then it will ramp up again once the kids go back to school after summer. Same as last year. Not difficult to predict.

I think it will be max of 20 people all wearing masks. I’d rearrange if you want a massive wedding

I'd postpone so that all the guests are able to relax and not be worried about mixing. I wouldn't want a wedding with everyone wearing masks and being scared to hug.

If you want to be married asap then go ahead and have the ceremony with just parents or whoever then decide if you will have a big celebration later on.

I like the idea as a pp said of having the celebration on your anniversary if you go down that route.

@CakeRequired oh ffs! You actually think that? Wow! I'd hate to have your outlook on life and never have anything to look forward too. How depressing.
OP go for a summer wedding next year. There will come a point where we are having to live with this virus. We can't and won't live like this forever. It'll be impossible to sustain financially.

[quote supersonicginandtonic]@CakeRequired oh ffs! You actually think that? Wow! I'd hate to have your outlook on life and never have anything to look forward too. How depressing.
OP go for a summer wedding next year. There will come a point where we are having to live with this virus. We can't and won't live like this forever. It'll be impossible to sustain financially. [/quote]
Yeah and it's not depressing. It will get better eventually, but I'm certainly not going to assume it will be this year. I actually told her to plan for a wedding next summer rather than May, more likely to get what she wants then. If you want to think it will get better quickly go ahead, but you're up for disappointment.

I think August/September is your best bet if you want to go for this year - that’s when things were most relaxed last year, as schools have been out for the summer and the warm weather kills off the bugs. Good luck whatever you do - covid couples have had such crap luck so far!