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Neighbour putting bins against our fence

232 replies

LouRidley · 31/01/2021 16:54

Hi MN,

First time house owner here and first neighbourly feud! (Lighthearted)

We moved into this house that has a shared path where neighbours all put their bins against their fence along the path. Except for our neighbour it seems who likes to put his bins against our fence, along with some other items such as bikes, old ironing boards, etc. I discovered the issue when our dog was digging in our garden persistently at this one spot and when I looked on the other side of the fence, some bin bags were just on the floor against our fence.
So I moved the bins across the path against his fence but realised earlier he moved them back against ours!
I went to knock on his door and while he was not that unfriendly, he basically explained to me in a very patronising way (repeating “do you understand?”all along) that he owned the path. I checked our title deeds after that and he definitely doesn’t, it’s unregistered land.
I therefore wrote a courteous letter and posted it at his door, saying that he got me curious about the ownership of the path and that actually, no one owned it, so that I kindly asked him to put his bins against his own fence.
Bit of a suspense what’s going to happen but my hunch is that he is going to do nothing and that his bins and rubbish will keep leaning on our fence.
Any clever plan of action you can advise here?
We all love a bit of lockdown drama!
Thanks
YABU- leave his bins against your fence
YANBU- and in this case what can I do not going OTT

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JayAlfredPrufrock · 31/01/2021 20:15

It would give me the rage.

Next bin day, put your bins out, his bins out, and all his random crap out as well.

PanamaPattie · 31/01/2021 20:17

Move all of his shit from your fence to his. Don't just move the ironing board etc. Keep adding your rubbish to it. Let the games begin!

Staffy1 · 31/01/2021 20:21

@LouRidley

Ok plan of action. Thanks for all your suggestions! what I’ll do on this matter of national importance is; if it’s just the bins and they are not overflowing (lid closed), I decide he’s a dick but that I let it go and they can be against our fence he likes so much. But his ironing boards, rusty bikes, junk and trash bags not in closed bins definitely don’t belong against our fence, so I will put gloves and put it against his. I really dislike confrontation but don’t like annoying and rude people either! And if he strikes back and puts back the rusty bikes and iron board against our fence...well we’ll have an issue and I can become petty and unhinged, don’t underestimate what months of lockdown can do to an otherwise balanced and sane woman Grin
Don't tolerate the bins either. They may not smell or be overflowing now, but that doesn't mean that next time they won't be. The CF needs to get the message that all his crap stays on is side, just like everyone else in the road.
ParadiseIsland · 31/01/2021 20:24

Ask your DP (if DP is a man) to deal with him next time.

Pretty sure this will help iron out issues (sad but true)

WhoStoleMyCheese · 31/01/2021 20:26

Empty the bin against his side of the fence and then drag the empty bin several streets away.
Rinse and repeat.
Make sure you have a camera installed to your fence in case he tries to reciprocate.
It is against you fence after all and you can do whatever you damn well like!

FortunesFave · 31/01/2021 20:26

I'm with you OP....if it's that unimportant then why's he doing it? It would annoy me too.

He doesn't like the bins against his fence so he thinks he can bully others and put them on theirs.

Keep moving them. Just keep at it...and if he persists, then move them and then squirt washing up liquid all over the part he'd have to handle.

If he complains say "Well keep your bins to your own side and I won't have to be disinfecting them before I touch them:

FortunesFave · 31/01/2021 20:27

@WhoStoleMyCheese

Empty the bin against his side of the fence and then drag the empty bin several streets away. Rinse and repeat. Make sure you have a camera installed to your fence in case he tries to reciprocate. It is against you fence after all and you can do whatever you damn well like!
Well that's littering...so she can't do whatever she likes.
hedgehogger1 · 31/01/2021 20:28

It sounds like he's fly tipping with the old bike etc

bytheby · 31/01/2021 20:32

I haven't read the whole thread so sorry if this has been covered... But just because it is unregistered land doesn't mean he doesn't own it.

He just might not have his ownership registered yet. Registration is triggered when land passes hands.

When you say it is unregistered what do you mean OP? I just don't want you to execute these brilliant plans and then find out he does actually own it!

AlwaysLatte · 31/01/2021 20:35

@LouRidley I can understand it if he leaves open bags inside Envy (not envy). Not very neighbourly!

LouRidley · 31/01/2021 20:46

There’s so many good suggestions on there! DH and I found them hilarious and very imaginative, he’s now fully with me on my crusade...but advises me to wait it out to see how the neighbour reacts to my note. Although I would say the pigeon feeder right on my fence above his bins is a very good idea...well I just love all animals sir why? Wink I will wait it out for a bit, don’t want to start a feud although I’m right!

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Lifeaintalwaysempty · 31/01/2021 20:48

This would annoy me so much- he’s deliberately being a dick! He could just leave his bins outside his own fence like everyone else but he refuses to. I definitely wouldn’t want overflowing bins and other shite next to my fence, especially in summer.
Be passive aggressive and put your bins outside his, if he says anything say you don’t want four bins plus junk outside your garden/fence it’s gross, and could attract vermin etc so either his or yours are going outside his.
I’ve had a similar situation and believe me it will continue/get worse if you don’t deal with it.

banivani · 31/01/2021 21:13

Good for you OP don’t give in!!!! Also your explanation was clear, I’m foreign and not in the UK and I got the setup immediately but the diagrams up thread are v good.

Staffy1 · 31/01/2021 21:17

@category12

To all those saying it sounds petty, would you feel the same if during the height of summer someone left overflowing trash propped up against your fence causing a stink.

Complain about it at that point then, when it's actually a problem, not when it clearly isn't.

Except it is, as the OPs dog was repeatedly digging in her garden to get to the rubbish outside, which means it does smell or have unsavoury stuff in it that is just as likely to attract other animals.
category12 · 31/01/2021 21:25

Except it is, as the OPs dog was repeatedly digging in her garden to get to the rubbish outside, which means it does smell or have unsavoury stuff in it that is just as likely to attract other animals.

Oh come off it, OP says all the neighbours have their bins along this pathway. If he moves it like a yard away against his fence, it would still attract rats to the area, like everyone else's bins along the pathway do.

WhoStoleMyCheese · 31/01/2021 21:29

@FortunesFave oops my bad - I meant getting rid of the bin. Using the same method you use to get rid of a broken bin etc

Oysterbabe · 31/01/2021 21:30

I need a diagram.

PrivateHall · 31/01/2021 21:44

I cannot imagine how it could possibly be worth getting in a dispute over this but you seem to enjoy drama, so I guess that is up to you. You have posted 5 times now making fun of his clothing yet you also are annoyed he didn't do what you apparently 'kindly' asked of him. I honestly can't blame him as you come across as very mean spirited.

Staffy1 · 31/01/2021 21:46

@category12

Except it is, as the OPs dog was repeatedly digging in her garden to get to the rubbish outside, which means it does smell or have unsavoury stuff in it that is just as likely to attract other animals.

Oh come off it, OP says all the neighbours have their bins along this pathway. If he moves it like a yard away against his fence, it would still attract rats to the area, like everyone else's bins along the pathway do.

Fair enough, but the dog at least probably wouldn't be digging a hole to get at it if it wasn't right up against the fence.
shockthemonkey · 31/01/2021 21:59

Oyster, diagrams have been provided. First by @Goodbye2020Hello2021, a good diagram which went largely unnoticed, then later by @cabingirl, another helpful visual rendition of the situation.

OP, I had something like this once and it got a bit nasty. But I fully defend your right to stand up for yourself and get all Joan of Arcy about it.

Oysterbabe · 31/01/2021 22:01

@shockthemonkey

Oyster, diagrams have been provided. First by *@Goodbye2020Hello2021, a good diagram which went largely unnoticed, then later by @cabingirl*, another helpful visual rendition of the situation.

OP, I had something like this once and it got a bit nasty. But I fully defend your right to stand up for yourself and get all Joan of Arcy about it.

Ah thanks, that does help. I just searched by the OP's posts.
2021isalsorubbish · 31/01/2021 22:02

I have the rage on your behalf! Just tell him he's damaging your fence and you'll report him to the council for fly tipping

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LouRidley · 31/01/2021 22:50

Oh really @Funkymommagoose? I thought my bins issue was the most important issue of 2020 and 2021 combined. Well at least you took the time to read it and post a comment, I guess that says something Grin

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LouRidley · 31/01/2021 23:15

@PrivateHall I don’t think posting on MN and joking along with the answers after one strange interaction with my obnoxious neighbour makes me a mean spirited hell-raiser Wink I won’t burn his fence or start a dispute over this!

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