AIBU to chuck this amazon delivery in the bin?

[Coffeesnob11]

I left my alcoholic abusive husband last year and he finally moved out the house in August so our son and I could return. I have a non molestation order against him and he can't contact me for any reason. All contact for our child is supervised by his parents and arranged via them (they are great). He doesn't live with them.
Since the non mol he is still ordering stuff and it gets delivered here. I always reject any parcels as I was advised apart from twice, where I have given it to his mum as it came back to me from royal mail 4 times. This week I have rejected 3 parcels but yesterday amazon delivered a parcel to my sick elderly neighbour as I wasn't in. I have 'chatted to their customer service team who say they can't take it back and can't do much. I have managed to open the side and it's 3 dvds. I can't use them as he took the ps that we watched dvds on. I really don't want to pass them on to his mum again as its letting him get away with continuing the same pattern. These were only ordered Thursday. He has had 5 months to change his address. Do I need to pay for another solicitors letter to tell him to stop? This seems an expensive option. His mum has mentioned it to him as she gets parcels too.
Aibu no chuck them
Aibu yes just pass them on.

@Coffeesnob11

You need tell his mother to pass on the message,to her son,
that you You Will No Longer, Accept any of your ex husband/ex Partner Parcels coming to your house at All.
As its cluttering your house.!

(Also is there Amazon Company email Address to explain,tell them that you no Longer want/Do not want to Accept Any Parcels on behalf of your ex Husband/ex Partner At all.!

Also can you Tell the Post office Sorting office the same information aswell !
About how to stop this from happening in regard of ex Husband/ex Partner parcels.!

Don't throw DVD parcels in the Bin as its bad for envoriment,Landfill.!

Give these DVDs parcels to Charity shops,or give them as gifts to someone if they are suitable?
Or sell DVDs online etc.

@Coffeesnob11

Also there are websites which you can give stuff away free such as Gumtree etc.

Also there is ebaby website etc to sell DVDs online.!

He's broken his non moll, so that's the direction you take this in. They are evidence, so keep hold of them until you get legal advice.

If he's a game player, definitely don't chuck them, it's theft.

@Coffeesnob11

Any other ex husband/ex Partner Parcels from Other Companies
Look up on internet for Companies email customer Address and send a email explaining what you want them to do ,just like with Amazon Company Too.!

@Coffeesnob11

Your could tell these Parcel Companies that ex husband/ex Partner is no longer living with you and you could say you do not know his current Address details or if you know his Current Address details you could pass them on to these companies !

I keep a bin for donation items. I’d add them to that bin and donate them when I get around to it. Please don’t just throw them out. It’s just wasteful and unnecessary.

Amazon are still delivering parcels to neighbours, they’ve done it with me a few times recently which I didn’t think they were meant to be doing, as this time it was delivered to your neighbour I would pass it on to his mum as I wouldn’t want to cause any issues for them

Keep the parcel for now.

Speak to your solicitor. The parcel is proof he’s breaking the non-mol.

I agree with other than he is breaching the non mol order - I’d imagine it’s the standard not to contact directly or indirectly save through a 3rd party re child care?

He’s breaching here indirect contact I reckon - it’s harassment

I’d report it to police.

He's harassing you with the deliveries.
I think you might have to get a solicitor's "cease and desist" letter.
Or, just keep them and deny all knowledge (donate them if they're of no interest to you)
But yeah, stop getting the parcels to him.

I'm surprised that they keep re-delivering to you if you've told them that he's no longer at the address - that seems very incompetent of RM and whoever else is delivering! It should be "Return to sender" and the address marked as "recipient gone away".

But yeah, he's definitely playing you.

Bin them . He knew which address he was sending them too and he doesn't live there so not your responsibility. He just wants to create contact and a link aside the kids. It's a typical abusive tactic . Bin them and feel empowered when you see his feeble attempt go in the bin lorry

I know everyone loves an update. I spoke to amazon again and explained the situation. They have said I can keep the parcel. They can't promise they can stop future parcels but I can keep or sell or bin future deliveries with no comeback.
My neighbour is better and passed the parcel on to me.

Well that's one bonus then - but yes, it doesn't stop that annoyance of him still using your address to wind you up.

Is there an option for you to move away? Or is that just not possible? (Also I know Covid makes everything 1000 times harder at the mo)

Thank you for the update! That removes the guilt/obligation to get it to him but doesn't remove the harassment element. Are you planning on pursuing that at all? (You don't have to I'm just curious!)

For the moment I haven't done anything apart from record it in a diary. The divorce papers should be landing tomorrow so we will see if there is any reaction. If there are any more parcels I am going to report to 101 all of them.