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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To just want to know what’s wrong with me... not really an AIBU but I’m so fed up!

81 replies

40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:22

My dad died in November 20 and everything is being attributed to stress - my symptoms have got worse since then, but started way before that.

I’m diagnosed with fibromyalgia and degenerative discs, plus I had a brain injury 7 years ago, which seems to be when the fibro started. I’m also asthmatic, although not severely.

For a couple of years, I’ve been getting heart palpitations. They’re completely random in when they occur, but definitely worse after eating (not exclusively after eating though). March 20 I got referred for a 24hr heart monitor. Had the appointment finally a couple of weeks ago. Results showed nothing concerning, although my heart rate does goes over 100 quite often. I’ve also had an ECG within the last 6 months which was also fine. Woke up last night and my heart was pounding. Checked it with my oximeter and it was 136bpm. That’s not normal whilst I’m asleep I’m sure!

I’ve constantly got a tight/heavy feeling in my chest. Not a pain, just a feeling like I can’t quite manage a deep breath, and I have periods where I have to really think about breathing or I feel like I’ll forget if that makes sense. It’s not that I’m struggling to breath as such, just that it seems harder work than it should be. This then does make me anxious, but the symptom comes before the anxiety.

I also have constant indigestion/heartburn. I eat rennie like they’re sweets. The gp has prescribed me a once a day tablet, but not seen much improvement yet. It feels like my chest is burning and fizzy all the damn time.

I’ve had regular spells of dizziness since October 20. Really whooshie awful feeling in my head when I move quickly. Some days are worse than others and it’s really affecting me being able to drive, which is a total pain in the arse as I can’t walk very far at the best of times! I took a Covid test back in October to rule this out as a casual on the advice of my gp. This has been put down to stress/anxiety.

I’ve had full bloods done and not anaemic/diabetic etc. Blood pressure is fine. Everything is fine on paper; I just feel like absolute shit and I’m really fed up.

Gp says there’s nothing physically wrong and it’s all stress related. I’m definitely stressed at the minute, but a lot of my stress is around my health feeling shit, so it’s difficult to work out which came first! I’m not sleeping properly either, but this has been more since my dad died - the other things all started before then.

Anyone have any ideas of anything that might have been missed? Can all this be put down to stress? I definitely have had a few panic attacks, but surely I haven’t been in one big panic attack for months now! Is that even possible?

I’m really, really at my wits end :(

OP posts:
40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:27

Sorry, I didn’t mean for it to be that long! Well done if you managed to get through it Grin

OP posts:
mekitgubakuds · 30/01/2021 13:40

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40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:43

Thanks but the appropriate topic areas are all pretty low on traffic, hence I put it in here so it would be seen!

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mekitgubakuds · 30/01/2021 13:47

And people doing that are ruining AIBU, there have been several threads on the very topic recently. Im not going start an argument but the topics are there for a reason.

40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:48

Ok. I’ll ask for it to be deleted then. Didn’t post to get piled on abs add to my anxiety so thanks :)

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mekitgubakuds · 30/01/2021 13:50

You don't need to get it deleted, you just need to post in an appropriate area where people will help you.

HollyGoLoudly1 · 30/01/2021 13:51

What a kind first response to a heartfelt and upsetting post Hmm

OP I've got nothing medical to suggest but sorry you're having a hard time and hope you feel better soon Flowers

40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:51

Where is an appropriate place? General health is the only one I can see and there’s been about 6 posts so far this year so that seems pointless.

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40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:52

@HollyGoLoudly1

What a kind first response to a heartfelt and upsetting post Hmm

OP I've got nothing medical to suggest but sorry you're having a hard time and hope you feel better soon Flowers

Thank you.
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mekitgubakuds · 30/01/2021 13:54

I don't think I've been unkind, I'm just fed up of AIBU being used for traffic... this post even says in its title it's not an AIBU post! I simply said I've asked for it to be moved to an appropriate area.
WWIW my DH has had all similar symptoms to poster. CBT helped. Does that make me kinder?!!

KasparKat · 30/01/2021 13:56

Do you think you have had covid at all, even if not had a positive test? These are all symptoms that a lot of people have with long covid. I have the same with the chest and heart symptoms. It comes and goes.

Dizziness and heartburn also reported by a lot of long covid sufferers.

40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:57

I’ve reported it myself and asked for it to be deleted so in the kindest possible way, please stop commenting and pretend it doesn’t exist as you’re not helping me at all. Thanks.

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HollyGoLoudly1 · 30/01/2021 13:58

Oh give over, it was unkind and you know it. Even worse that you actually did have something helpful to say on the topic but decided not to contribute that and instead just jump on OP for not using the boards to your liking.

40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 13:59

@KasparKat

Do you think you have had covid at all, even if not had a positive test? These are all symptoms that a lot of people have with long covid. I have the same with the chest and heart symptoms. It comes and goes.

Dizziness and heartburn also reported by a lot of long covid sufferers.

Thanks. I don’t think I have. Heartburn has been ongoing for a long time, as have the palpitations.
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mekitgubakuds · 30/01/2021 13:59

@HollyGoLoudly1 YABU Smile

HollyGoLoudly1 · 30/01/2021 14:00

@40somethingJBJ

I’ve reported it myself and asked for it to be deleted so in the kindest possible way, please stop commenting and pretend it doesn’t exist as you’re not helping me at all. Thanks.
Really sorry you've been made to feel like this OP. What a place MN is sometimes.
Lollipop1234 · 30/01/2021 14:00

Wow @mekitgubakuds are you the mumsnet police? And were you in the back of the queue when it came to empathy?

SullenCrescent · 30/01/2021 14:02

How old are you OP? It could be peri menopause.

Muuuuuuuum · 30/01/2021 14:02

How old are you? I was told menopause or peri menopause can cause heart palpitations. Did they check hormone levels when they did bloods?

Muuuuuuuum · 30/01/2021 14:03

@SullenCrescent snap!

40somethingJBJ · 30/01/2021 14:03

I’m 42. I’m not sure whether hormone levels were checked or not, so I’ll ask on Monday. Thanks :)

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Lollipop1234 · 30/01/2021 14:04

A friend had similar symptoms related to hormone imbalance, pre menopause. HRT has massively helped her.

Another friend with similar raised heart rate is being investigated for pots.

PregnantGotCovid · 30/01/2021 14:06

Can you afford to see a private holistic gp?

SleepySloth153 · 30/01/2021 14:06

Hi OP. I'm sorry you've been going through this, and I'm so sorry about your dad. It definitely sounds like a lot of what you're experiencing could be stress and anxiety. Have you ever spoken to anyone about that? If not, it could be really beneficial, and they could teach you how to recognise the anxiety and techniques for calming down a little.

Have you had things like vitamin D and folate levels checked?

At the moment one of the best things you could probably do is to just try and relax. I know that's not easy! But work out things that you find slightly relaxing or calming, or that make you happy. Could be reading a book, listening to music, having a bath, a walk or yoga etc, gardening, colouring or other crafty things. Also, just looking after yourself, so making sure you eat healthily, but also treat yourself, and be kind to yourself!

ExplodingCarrots · 30/01/2021 14:07

@mekitgubakuds I've never in all my years here had the urge to call another poster but you really are a dick. (This will probably be deleted)
You could clearly see how upset and stressed the OP was . Report the threads
If you're not happy, don't be a twat to the OP when you can see they're clearly here for help.