Please tell me about a time something worked out for the better

[KimchiLaLa]

Even though you didn't think it would at the time? Eg a house buy fell through but you got a better one in the end...(this did happen to us a while ago)

I really need to hear some of those stories this weekend!

Was made redundant at the end of the last rescission. Was absolutely gutted. Took 6 months but ended up getting a job in a slightly different part of my industry (that I'd always wanted to get into but never quite dared make the jump). Pay was £20k more than my previous role.

I'm still at the same company earning nearly 3 times what I used to with a great career.

Lots of my friends met their partners at uni after one or other has not got a place at Oxbridge. I'm sure they were devastated at the time. Having said that I 100% don't believe in karma or fate. I don't think things happen for a reason, I think new opportunities present themselves or you make the best of the situation.

I tried online dating on a bit of a whim thinking nothing serious would come out of it, just wanted to go on a few dates. That was 6 years ago and we're getting married this year.

I was made redundant in February last year. I was honestly gutted. The job was a bit dull but my colleagues were amazing.

I was lucky enough to quickly secure another job and started on March 9th. Two weeks later lockdown happened.

If I hadn't had been made redundant then, I definitely would have later on down the line meaning I would have been job hunting with very few jobs and with loads of competition.

The company I've moved to have really looked after me and I'm very fortunate.

I had a terrible experience in my old job. So much so my mental health really suffered. I felt I might kill myself if something didn't change. We had just bought our dream house.

I left my job. I didn't think I would ever be able to work again but I did a lot of work on my mental health and after a year tentatively began to work in temporary posts. Got offered a year long contract on the strength of my performance. Great feedback. That's led to more short term contracts. I still don't have a permanent post but three years down the line my mental health has never been better, even with the whole pandemic. I have a new found love for my career. I realise that I have control over my life and that the problem in my old job wasn't me or my ability, it was the person who bullied me.

So much happier.

Brexit. LOL, only kidding.

@firstimemamma

I tried online dating on a bit of a whim thinking nothing serious would come out of it, just wanted to go on a few dates. That was 6 years ago and we're getting married this year.

Me too! Friend convinced me to try online dating as it would be fun haha. Within 2 weeks I arranged a first date with someone. We have now been married 2 years and had a baby last year.

I was bullied out of my job after maternity leave for dc2 (after being made redundant from another job after dc1). Went through grievance procedure and was on the way to Employment Tribunal when I signed a settlement agreement . The day I signed it, I got a call out of the blue from a recruitment agency with a fixed term contract. Had nothing to lose so I went for it. I'm still there 5 years later, have had another baby, and a promotion after that.

I really thought there was something inherently wrong with me, and how I handled coming back to work after babies. Turns out it's just that some companies are shit bags, but some are diamonds.

I really think that everything does if you give it enough time. I’ve been devastated over guys ending things but my husband is a million times better than any of them. Same with jobs, houses etc I’ve always felt rejected and down but a far superior one has come along.

Went travelling with boyfriend. Go dumped in Cambodia - so totally on my own, broken hearted. Had planned to move in with him on our return so had everything in storage. No home, job or boyfriend to go back for.

Thought fuck it and decided to stay for a bit. Expected it to be a couple of months of lonely misery getting over my broken heart. Made great friends, got great job teaching English, stayed nearly 4 years! Came back to qualify as a teacher and 10 years on love my job (covid stress and workload permitting), am married to a great guy. Made peace with ex - the younger circus performer (yes really! Lol) he left me for turned out to be a nightmare so that helped.

@thirstyformore

Was made redundant at the end of the last rescission. Was absolutely gutted. Took 6 months but ended up getting a job in a slightly different part of my industry (that I'd always wanted to get into but never quite dared make the jump). Pay was £20k more than my previous role.

I'm still at the same company earning nearly 3 times what I used to with a great career.

Love stories like this. (And all of them!) because I'm sure the pain at the time would have hurt but you came out much better.

We had a house purchase fall through, we were absolutely gutted - the house was a step up and our mortgage would have increased and most of our savings would have gone on moving costs but we were both in good jobs and could afford it. Two months after the sale fell through my DHs company folded and he was out of work for 6 months, we would never have survived financially had we moved.

My world fell apart quite spectacularly a few years ago, when my exh decided to assault me. It was horrendous, but I took the opportunity to change my life for the better - kicked him out (realising quite quickly that I'd been miserable for years), got an education and am on a great career path. I have a wonderful partner, my DC are happy and healthy, and we are much better off in every respect.

I probably would have stayed with him if he hadn't thrown a bomb in our lives with his actions, and would be utterly miserable to this day. Just the thought of being stuck in lockdown with him makes me feel sick. So in the end, I'm glad he did something so utterly awful that I couldn't ignore it, because I am living a much better life now.

Gosh this has happened lots! When we were house hunting we fell in love with a house and it all fell through and we ended up with a much better house for less money! Also a time I didn't get a job I wanted but turned out that I would have been miserable in the job as the boss was a nightmare (I didn't know this at the time) and I ended up getting another job that suited me much better but for less pay, but then after a year or so they put my pay up to what it would have been in the original job.

Also tried online dating, one man in particular stood out as he didn’t have a photo up of himself ( I didn’t really fancy any of the ones that did) so started chatting to him and got on really well, still not knowing what he looked like, after about a month we decided to meet !!! Wow, he was gorgeous 6”2, black hair blue eyes, own home and business, he is still wow now 16 years later

Divorced at 29 (married at 22). But now I have a partner and a DS3. You never feel like you'll get over it, but you do and more on to better things

My on and off boyfriend of 10 years dumped me in the middle of the night leaving me stranded and alone far from home with no way to get back.
I was heartbroken as it was completely out of the blue. As usual we kept in touch and he was stringing me along and burdening me with his self harm and drug problems. However I got a new job and felt positive.
I met a man who made me realise how bad my previous relationship had been and we've been together 5 years now, married and have 2 children.
My ex is still single but he was right about one thing when he dumped me - I did deserve someone better than him

I also had my heart broken. Absolutely smashed to smithereens by someone who just didn't have feelings for me but strung me along for over a year.

I walked away from him on New Year's Eve 2010 and never saw him again. I met my husband in April 2011 and we started dating by July.

My most recent example was getting turned down at work for a couple of promotions, not huge ones but would have been a band up so 2 years an extra £3kish - always "top two, just missed out! Try next time!" but they were given to someone else with longer service. It encouraged me to apply for a job elsewhere, which I got and it resulted in a 10k pay rise (at the bottom of the pay band) and in a job that challenges me in a good way!

Got dumped for the third time. What I thought were fine happy relationships with potential. Went out to a party and got drunk and met now DH.
Feel I dodged a bullet with one of my exes in particular as I hear about him occasionally through a mutual work colleague.

I got very ill at university, had always been a top achiever and planned to get a job in a top London firm after I graduated.

It taught me how important family are and gave me perspective. There was a time when I was on a hospital ward getting really upset because I couldn’t finish my uni work. I learnt so much about life. My family really rallied round me and I moved back in with my parents so they could care for me.

When I was well enough I got a job at a small local firm where I could be involved with everything. I now have a fantastic job in a regional city. Met my DH through a friend when I was living at my parents. Rented for a few years with my DH whilst studying locally for a masters, we now own a house and have a baby on the way.

Non of these things would have happened if I never got ill, certainly wouldn’t own a house, met my DH or be as senior at work

I think that most things do in the end. This has happened so much to me that now if something doesn't go as I planned I've accepted that it'll work out fine eventually. Some examples have been house sale 'problems', not going somewhere then something terrible happening at that place I should have been, my now wonderful career when I was rejected from uni three times as an adult (heart breaking) my kids being happy and thriving at their school when they were to go to a different one. Keep your chin up, it will be fine

In 2018 I interviewed for a permanent lectureship at a university where I had been working as a lecturer on a fixed-term contract for five years. I really thought I'd get it, I had always got absolutely glowing reports, had worked so, so hard to do far beyond what I really 'should' have been as such a junior member of staff. They gave it to someone else, saying that their research profile was better and I'd been too 'teaching focused' - ie, that I'd spent too much effort on teaching their students well. I was devastated and cried for days - I was also 16 weeks pregnant and terrified for the future. It was ultimately one of the reasons I left academia when DS was one, and looking back now my only regret it not getting out of that toxic environment earlier. If I'd stayed then I'm sure I'd still be on fixed term contracts and the job market has gone from terrible to beyond terrible so I think I'd be quite screwed. I also wouldn't have been able to have a second child if I were in that position, whereas now I'm 38 weeks with DC2 and so excited for his arrival. I'm also a much happier, calmer person in my new career (which is still demanding but I don't regularly work into the night anymore). It really felt awful at the time - it felt like a decade of my life just dropped out from under me - but it was so very much for the best.

I’m in my 50s now and my whole life has been a story of things turning out for the best. So much so that my DC in their 30’s now firmly believe that whatever life throws at them it will work out in the end. As they’ve seen the evidence over the years. I think that belief has then helped them turn negatives into positives as they’ve seen it works. There’s an element of if you look for the silver lining you will find it iyswim?

Relationships that haven’t worked out, jobs I’ve left (one where I was fired) leading to better things. House moves falling though that have led to something better. I could give you many examples. I’ve learnt now to just go with the flow.

My BF of several years broke up with me, I got rejected for one job after having got really close, and another fell through right before it was supposed to start - all in the space of about ten days. I'd quit my career due to stress a few months earlier with nothing concrete lined up and had no idea what I was going to do. When I got the call about the second job I was so overwhelmed I embarrassingly burst into tears in the middle of a cafe (did get a free drink for my troubles though!)

A few days later the first job called again, and said they had an unexpected temp vacancy for a similar position but in a different department. I was a bit nervous as it wasn't my field, but in the end I loved it, the temporary job turned into a permanent one and I made some of my best friends there. The original position (it turned out) was in a department full of people I didn't have much in common with, and the person who would have been my boss was a total micromanager with no sense of humour, so it was definitely worth the few days of despair.