Please tell me about a time something worked out for the better

[KimchiLaLa]

Even though you didn't think it would at the time? Eg a house buy fell through but you got a better one in the end...(this did happen to us a while ago)

I really need to hear some of those stories this weekend!

Completely fell in love with a house when DH and I were looking for our first place together. It was a buy to let belonging to one of DH's colleagues but they were open to selling, and we were all set to rent from them for a year or so and then look at buying. It was beautiful - in a small village just on the outskirts of the town we both worked in, surrounded on one side by open fields and a short walk from the river.

Then the colleague's husband lost his job, hers was at risk, and they decided to put their own larger home up for sale and move in to the smaller buy to let place. We were so sad at the time.

A couple of years later we went for a walk along the river, and walked up the lane that ran past the house planning to go to the pub for lunch. All the fields that the house had overlooked had been built on and the garden now had a 20 foot high, ugly as sin solid panel fence surrounding it on 3 sides, overlooked by 3 storey houses that dwarfed the little cottage we'd been planning to move in to. Very much dodged the bullet.

That's lovely Meruem!

Was engaged and six months before the wedding I found out he had cheated on me. Obviously was devastated and dumped him but it took a long time to sort out house we had bought together and I also lost money on the sale.
The next year I met now DH and we have been married almost 33 years.
Looking back I had a lucky escape.

@Tomcullenisahero

I think that most things do in the end. This has happened so much to me that now if something doesn't go as I planned I've accepted that it'll work out fine eventually. Some examples have been house sale 'problems', not going somewhere then something terrible happening at that place I should have been, my now wonderful career when I was rejected from uni three times as an adult (heart breaking) my kids being happy and thriving at their school when they were to go to a different one. Keep your chin up, it will be fine

I'd like to believe this, just hard in the moment. My issue is I get my heart set on something and I shouldn't. I'm not good at keeping options open.

I married someone and he was absolutely awful to me. The marriage lasted 7 months, but I met my now husband through my ex, and would never have done if I hadn't got married the first time.
I wouldn't have the life I now do, the children I have now, and the marriage we had together.
People often ask if I regret my first marriage, and despite how damaging it was, I can never say I wish I hadn't done it as my life wouldn't be what it is now.

I was about to qualify in a new career after retraining, and just needed to finish one prac. Halfway through, my organisation went through a massive restructure, my prac got canned and I went back to an unfulfilling job, only now I was in the new organisation and almost entirely without contacts in the field I was moving to.

Fortunately I was able to resume my prac in the new organisation after the dust had settled, and the new team extended me temporarily a few times, and eight months down the line, they made my transfer permanent. The culture of where I am now is much better than where I started my prac, and there are a few other long term benefits (eg easier progression process, near a lovely green park to take lunch breaks - though the pay is a bit less, but I agree with the PP who believes in finding silver linings when you look for them!).

Company I worked for went bust, decided to never be at the mercy of other people again and started my own business rather than look for another job. That was 18 years ago and I've never worked for anyone else since

When I was 19, I plucked up the courage to ask out the deli guy - my friends were saying I had to date at some point, etc, I had horrible red flags about it all but did it any way. He was awful. Then, on Valentine's day, when he was supposed me be taking me out in some amazing date he said he'd planned, he turned off his phone and just disappeared (turned out he had FIVE other girlfriends lol). Anyway. Fuck that twat, I thought, and the next day I let my friends drag me out to a club (I HATED clubs), I saw this man from across the room and bam, I just knew i had to give him my number or I'd regret it forever, utterly different feeling from twatface. We've been together 20 years now, we have our amazing children, a happy, content life, and would never have happened had I not been stood up by that douchbag.

Two new roles were created at work, one being junior and one being more senior - who the junior would report into. I was told the junior position had been created with me in mind and I was told if I applied, it was mine. The senior role had already been given to someone internally and I knew them from working with them in the past and they were doing the interviews.

I wasn't sure if I wanted to apply as I felt it was a little risky being a newly created role but I was practically begged to apply so I did. Only one other person applied - also internal. I sailed through the interview and was told the job was as good as mine - so imagine my shock when I receive an email from HR saying I had been unsuccessful!

No one seemed to know what was going on until the second applicant was revealed - it was the seniors friend! This person did have some relevant experience so nothing could be done. I was distraught and it made the work situation really awkward.

So how did it work out better for me - less than 18 months in - both the senior and junior were made redundant as it was decided these newly created roles weren't actually required. If I had got the job, I would have been made redundant at a time I was on maternity leave....

Plus, there was such outrage from senior management about what happened with the junior role - I got a 15% pay rise anyway!

Got fired from my old job after a "friend" lied about me. Had hated it for ages but it was secure and easy to stay.
Started my own business and I've never been happier (and everyone says so). Also earn more money!

The most interesting thing I’ve found, and DP agrees, is that apathy often yields better results than instant action.

Oh and an actual event that yielded fabulous results was nasty work colleague started a smear campaign which forced me to leave my job. Off the back of that I ended up meeting DP and having my children at a stage of my life where I didn’t think it would happen.

So thank you wonderful ex colleague. Your nasty ways made my life infinitely more enriched.

Most things turn out for the best, it's just that at the time you don't see it. We put a lot of demands on life, and as this pandemic has taught us, life has a will of it's own. Now I am in my 50s l just try to stay open minded and not get too attached to a particular outcome.

I had a really tough time at a job. I was over worked and bullied. I handed in my notice but told them I would stick around to see a smooth transition. In the meantime I looked for other jobs. I kept looking at something that I fancied but didn't think I would be able to fit round my family. I went to the interview and immediately clicked with my manager. They discussed that they wanted me regardless so I did less hours for the project. Never been happier and doing something worthwhile. It literally took ten days from putting in my application to getting the job!!

We lived in the shittest area imaginable and I hated it there but it's social housing and we would've been stuck there forever, no one in their right mind would have swapped with us. Then we were victims of a really nasty aggravated burglary, which was the most horrific experience of my life and took me a long time to get over. But it meant the council moved us! We've ended up on a lovely estate in a different area with (mostly) lovely neighbours and it's totally changed our lives. I wouldn't wish what happened to us on my worst enemy but it's difficult now (several years after the event) to not be glad it did happen, life has improved so much for being away from that place and I'm a different person because of it.

I worked in a big organisation, it was an OK place to work but with some odd attitudes towards the staff. I applied for what I thought would be a much better job for me, within the same organisation. Interview went really well and the feedback I got was really positive but I didn't get the job. I was really disappointed at the time but the next month I saw an advert for my dream job somewhere else, applied and was offered it. Ended up staying nearly 20 years, it really was a wonderful place to work and I loved my job.