To be discombobulated by DH’s compliment?

[DiscombobulatedDebbie]

After over 25 years of no compliments unless asked directly for one, he suddenly tells me in bed last night that I have ‘a very nice vagina’.

AIBU to wonder how many other ones he’s seen over the last 25 years to compare?

Had to read but now staying for the comments. Another vote for thinking he has been secretly watching Naked Attraction. And more to the point what the hell did you reply 😆

When I was first with my partner, she complimented my 'pretty vulva'. I had to stop what we were doing to laugh, but it's still one of my favourite compliments I've received! We did have a slight language barrier and hadn't gone 25 years without a compliment though.

Context is everything OP ...

@Ihopeyourcakeisshit

Does he have an unattached brother?

😂😂😂😂

What was your reply? And what was the context of this masterclass in complimentary sayings?

Oh I needed this thread today.

Perhaps he’s been looking at the scary ones on Naked Attraction

@PaulHollywoodsLowHangingFruit

Very Alan Partridge

Very, I'm now hearing the compliment in Alan's voice.

@Ihopeyourcakeisshit

Does he have an unattached brother?

😂😂😂

Mine has said that to me quite a few times.

Haha love the punched lasagne and the acute angina!

Hmmmm the context is that we were lying in bed discussing that he’s up for ‘relations’ (DC were still up so couldn’t do anything) constantly nowadays after years of not being that interested. I said I knew it was only because I’d lost weight and got fit and if I hadn’t he wouldn’t be which is quite shallow.

He just came out with ‘well you have a very nice vagina, it’s neat and tucked in not sticking out like some women’s’. I have had 3 vaginal births and I’m 47 so I was pleasantly shocked!

After basking in the compliment for a few minutes, it just occurred to me, well how many vaginas has he seen in the last 25 years other than mine! Can he remember the ones before me? I can’t really remember the penises before his. Why has he never told me this before. I’ve told him often enough that I’m rather attached to his member.

He doesn’t watch Naked Attraction and the teens would generally be up at that time so I doubt he’d put it on even if I was upstairs which I’m generally not. I know he’s watched porn in the past which I wasn’t happy about when he didn’t want sex with me so he stopped afaik.

He literally will never come out with a compliment on anything else. If I ask him how I look he’ll say ‘fine’. If I ask him about my cooking he’ll say ‘fine’. He will say that when he met me I was beautiful though but that’s a bit back handed!

IDK it just felt a bit off.

I’d laugh and say “ Your John Thomas isn’t so bad, either!😂

He doesn't have to have seen lots recently to know what he himself finds visually pleasing though, does he, so I don't think it means he has been out there flashing his official "fanny inspector" badge at any random woman he thinks would give him a good look.

Take it for what it is, a slightly weird compliment born out of his desire to get his dick in there.

@DiscombobulatedDebbie
Your DH as a teenager would have UNDOUBTEDLY seen porn mags, they circulated everywhere back in the day, and there were all sorts of women’s body shapes there.
It’s a real tragedy that women feel the need to have surgery on their genitalia if they have one they are not happy with.
Childbirth ought not make a difference if one does pelvic floor exercise after🙂

re Alan Partridge 😂

“
You have a very nice VagIIIIIIIIIIIIIINAAAAAAAAAAaaaa”

He just came out with ‘well you have a very nice vagina, it’s neat and tucked in not sticking out like some women’s’. I have had 3 vaginal births and I’m 47 so I was pleasantly shocked!

Gosh. How strange that he's only previously fucked women who've had a prolapse.

Unless he's a gynecologist or has his own speculum how would he have seen any other vaginas?

And they say chivalry is dead.........

Look at you with your fancy husband giving you compliments, why can’t we all be as lucky!

I assume he means your labia minora are entirely inside your labia majora?

I think he sounds fairly rotten actually, if that’s how he judges a woman’s attractiveness.

@Chunkymenrock

I thinks it's vile. It's not a compliment to me, commenting on my genitals.

Aw it’s not as if he said :

“Am I in yet”?

Perhaps he has seen plenty by watching porn?

Ah, a couple of vaginas thrown around Willy nilly and the genital pedants appear.

@AnaisNun

I assume he means your labia minora are entirely inside your labia majora?

I think he sounds fairly rotten actually, if that’s how he judges a woman’s attractiveness.

YAWN

The comments are quite an eye opener.
Pp mentioned
“ How long before people mention vulvas”

Do men divvy up their penises into
“ Shaft, glans, frenulum”?
Probably not. We all knew what he meant. 🙂