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Lockdown bedtime?

27 replies

Sockmonster23 · 27/01/2021 21:18

What time Do your kids go to bed if they are not going to school? I try and keep a routine but to be honest its around an hour and half later than I would during school time. I find the older my daughter gets the later she wants to go to bed as well. But j make sure it’s never matter than 10pm.

I try and keep bedtime same for weekends too with maybe an extra 30 mins. Holidays same but summer if we go abroad I’m then we flow with the locals lol

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Updatemate · 27/01/2021 21:37

I'm assuming your kids are much older than mine, but 7-7.30 is bedtime here, regardless of what we have planned the next day. DC2 is a bugger without enough sleep and absolutely does not sleep in, ever. A later bedtime results in an earlier wake up!

Pipandmum · 27/01/2021 21:40

Online learning starts at 8.45 so bed time is when the kids decide (teenagers). In my daughter's case that is 9.30, my son midnight (but he's in college so it's not every day). I haven't had to set a bedtime since they were about ten years old. They have always been pretty sensible about it.

B33Fr33 · 27/01/2021 21:44

Sticking to our routine bedtimes here. To be frank I need some time to switch off after being climbed all over and having played some sort of coffee fuelled cheerleader, TA, waiter, IT support, drill sergeant to my three children on top of the house stuff,desperate job search, supportive friend and wife. Amazingly bad how the loss of 4- 5 hours has affected my productivity for getting work.

winetime89 · 27/01/2021 21:46

mine are 5 and 7, I had great routines when they were babies and toddlers, it's just all gone to pot now. I put them to bed at 8, read to them for an hour and the 7 year old is still awake in his bedroom, he's like this every night he just doesn't go to sleep! I liked it when they were babies and it was sleep for 630-7

bettertimesarecomingnow · 27/01/2021 21:49

Ds(11) usually sleeping by 9.15
Dd (8) by about 8.30

So maybe half an hour later than normal Altho occasionally they are messing about til 9.30/10 if they've been having a sleepover in each other's rooms.

They sleep in a bit later as they don't start school that early

Oysterbabe · 27/01/2021 21:50

Mine are 3 and 5. Bedtime is always 7:30.

mindutopia · 27/01/2021 21:53

We all have the same bedtime as always. Dc by 8:30 ish (though older one stays up her room) and us by 10. We don’t do anything different on weekends and even on holidays it’s not much later. I like sitting down and getting a break and they need their sleep.

MissMarpleDarling · 27/01/2021 21:53

My teens go bed by midnight 🙈 ridiculous yes but no live lessons and I leave early for work so they sleep in and do homework when I'm at work. Less time for them to burn the house down.

idontlikealdi · 27/01/2021 21:53

It's fucked tbh! They're 9, going to read during the week but they're just not tired. They're still awake now.

Weekends they're not going to bed until 10ish.

They still wake early regardless of time they go to bed so a cranky and miserable.

Hazelnutlatteplease · 27/01/2021 21:54

Getting Earlier in this house..... I dont really set a time definitely everything off by 10 by increasingly it's more like 9.

(Two teens) but DS works better in the morning and we get not a lot after lunch so (actual) homeschooling for him starts at 8. DD is remote learning so can set her own times a bit more but I noticed she started at near enough 8 today too.

PedrosPony · 27/01/2021 22:06

Completely gone out the window here. DD 11 keeps sneaking out of bed to get devices and then is online till god knows how long. This morning I had to drag her out of bed at 10.45.
DS 7 is much better. Both in bed by 9 tonight. Trying to rein it back in!

Sh05 · 27/01/2021 22:15

My two high schoolers around 11 although I do send them up to their rooms at 10. My eldest in college sleeps around the same time, sometimes later.
DD who is 4 in bed for 8:20, falls asleep around 9. They all have to be up at their respective school times so youngest teen starts at 8, daughter at 8:20 and eldest at 8:50
DD starts at 8:45.
They all have a lie in on Sunday.

AndcalloffChristmas · 27/01/2021 22:16

My 6 yo is an absolute bugger to get to bed at the best of times, and worse in lockdown. He’s a bugger to get out of bed in the mornings too.

That applies whatever I do tbh. I think some children are natural owls so letting them do something more like their natural rhythm in lockdown isn’t too bad.

That said, I have to work so it can’t slip too much or I don’t get my sleep!

BrookePalomoV · 27/01/2021 22:17

Bedtime is always 8 but actually closing eyes to sleep - just lies there - is around 10.

WeatherwaxOn · 27/01/2021 22:21

DC seems to have intermittent insomnia. Bedtime is meant to be 8:45-9 but tonight it was 9:15 as there was some confusion about needing a drink & hot water bottle, although the cynic in me would say that this was just a ploy to string out the time.
However, regardless of what time DC goes to bed, there's often sounds of movement until at least 10pm. Last weekend sleeping was particularly evasive and when I went up to bed at 11:45 they were still awake.
DC is 10.

Generally for school nights I do insist on being in bed by 9, but weekends I'm more flexible on the time.

pinkstripeycat · 27/01/2021 22:24

Mine are teenagers and have live lessons to their exact timetable. Bed time is the same as if they were at school. No xbox at lunch time (they’ve tried that one). They don’t have to get up at 7am but they still have to shower and get dressed

HangOnToYourself · 27/01/2021 22:32

Ds has gone feral. He is 5, we compromise that he needs to brush teeth and be in his room by 8 then I just leave him to it and dont ask any questions. I get regular visits from him until around 11 so lord knows what's going on in there

Avaganda · 27/01/2021 22:34

Lockdown has fucked bedtime here. We've had the same routine since they were babies; bath, milk, teeth, book, bed at 7. But now they're awake until 10pm most nights as they don't have enough stimulation during the day to tire them out. I am absolutely exhausted on the other hand!

Mapletreelane · 27/01/2021 22:54

DS14 and DD11 have just gone to bed, which is normal. They'll both be awake still. Used to have good strong bedtime routines, no devices after 7 etc, but all gone to pot since March and I've lost the motivation to argue. I'll be dragging them out of bed tomorrow morning. Quite a few nights I've given up and been in bed before them. Top parenting here.

audweb · 27/01/2021 22:56

Bedtime is ruined here. There’s no live lessons to be up for, and if my 8yr old sleeps in thats fine as I get a coffee and some work done in peace. Single parent, she’s basically in with me during lockdown, and we tend to just fall asleep together about ten, or eleven. Bedtimes were a battle in the first lockdown and it was miserable. I’m not repeating that. When schools on she goes down much earlier without an issue so long term it’ll be fine. I’m picking my battles carefully.

Justgorgeous · 27/01/2021 23:08

Son nearly 16 and goes to school, lights out at 10:30pm. Daughter is 5 and goes to sleep at 7pm.

Sparklehead · 27/01/2021 23:22

3DC here and have attempted to maintain a similar routine to pre-lockdown but it has definitely slipped a bit. DS7, aim for 8pm lights out. DD9, between 8.30-9pm and DD11, 9-9.30pm. I have also instigated that the DDs are in their bedroom by 8pm, and then can read/play/listen to music. It feels important to have some time in the evening away from each other/as downtime as we are spending so much more time in each other’s company than usual.

Redwinestillfine · 27/01/2021 23:43

7-7.30 here. Same as always.

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Justgorgeous · 28/01/2021 12:33

@Mumeeeeee Why is that unreasonable when he has to get up at 7am to go to school ?

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