To think night weaning doesn't mean sleeping through the night?

[Horehound]

I was set on starting to night wean my boy (17m) and thought that when he does this he will then sleep through the night. But it's just dawned on me that actually he could still wake up and want to be cuddled or something instead.
As I understand it sleeping through is a developmental milestone so if he hasn't reached that yet am I still in for nights of broken sleep?

I don't want to do controlled crying or cry it out.
Aibu?

Yabu - your child will sleep through if you night wean.
Yanbu - there's every chance he will still wake up.

I think one massive problem is the sheer volume of theory. I remember a very dark night with my first born who had woken up for the umpteenth time. I was so tired, I had undiagnosed PND and I felt horrific. I went on FB to keep myself awake and there was a post from SOS about how precious every moment with your baby is. I felt awful for resenting it. Then I came on here and a poster told me that I had failed (they actually used that word) because my 6 month old wouldn't sleep without me - they told me no had no business being on here.

I dont think I've ever felt as wretched as I did that night.

I think it's cruel to ignore a tiny baby who is distressed and doesn't understand why you're not coming, and I am a bit jaded and naturally suspicious that most people going on about sleep training are referring to methods that do involve an element of this.

Yes that's kind of where we at. There's no way my son would understand why no one is coming to him and we just feel it's a shame.
My parents say me and my brother were great sleepers but I know we were left to just cry....I don't want to do that to him.

Oh that's horrible @OhToBeASeahorse what a shame I am sorry that happened to you. If anything, it's the opposite and that you had succeeded because your baby had bonded with you so well :)

Oh god Seahorse what a horrible person to say that to you! I hope you are feeling more confident now and know that they were just a knob and you were doing brilliantly!

YY there is so much "theory" on both ends and 99% of all of it is bollocks - especially the stuff that names itself "baby sleep science" FFS

If you actually want some science of infant sleep the anthropology lab at Durham is absolutely brilliant - Helen Ball and BaSIS. I read a webchat with her years ago on MN, it still comes up if you google Helen Ball webchat mumsnet.

However it is of fuck all use in terms of how to get them to actually sleep :o but very interesting.

There is too much money in it. It prevents people from having a productive discussion.

Yes and the problem is you will always find someone to back you up. As far as I'm concerned Gina Ford is as qualified as SOS. No one is right. I couldn't leave a small baby to cry. But I also couldnt bedshare with a toddler. That's just me, not a statememt of who is right or wrong.

So tonight he came home from nursery, didn't look for milk. Managed to give a bath and feed then bed.
Let's see how that continues...!

How did it go @Horehound?

Normal night 3 wake-ups/feeds.