Have you ever been friends with someone who hated you?

[sallyhsnson]

I was friends with someone for 17 years and never had a clue she hated me.
We got on fine together but she would always put me down in a group and try and make me look stupid.
Anyway popped up on my memories two years ago today ..on a night out,dancing together,smiling in pics,stayed at my house etc .
Fast forward 7 months I found out she reported me for benefit fraud (lies ) made false accusations about me to the police (lies ) turned mutual friends against me,made sure I didn't date her friend (with lies )
Even now it doesn't seem real
Anybody else find out a friend was a enemy ?

My sister,not sure its hate but she is a very jealous person...Most of this started when I bought a bigger house than hers.She is never happy for anyone.If a friend of hers gets a good job its they will think thay are something now or who do they think they are etc

She is fine with me when my life is just plodding along.

When I have been through awful times she comes running but then makes out she was the only member of the family there for me.
Has to tell everyone if she does something nice because she has to have a lot of praise.If I was praised as a child she would be quite nasty to me.

But when things are good she is nasty behind my back.
I will see family members or mutual friends and they are lovely,chatty.......then sister has met up with them then next time I see them I am ignored.

Had my suspicions for a long time that it was because she was telling lies about me.
She made the mistake of doing something vile in front of someone/witness and I told her she was out of order.
She repeated the incident to the witnesses family member.....but the story changed that it was me who had been vile and she was the one to tell me off for showing her up.

Of course the witness said no that isnt what happened she has lied.
The witness said to me we can only presume all the awfull stuff she has said over the years was lies also.

I messaged my sister a few months ago and said I know what you have done......go and tell all those people that non of it is true,when they appologise for ignoring me we can draw a line and start again......all I got was I cant believe you are accusing me of this etc etc.Played the victim.

Shel hasnt leant from this....a few of her friends have deleted me from FB .She will never change.

Yes, a girl in uni... I know from common friends that she has expressed regret about how she behaved. My thoughts now are the same as back then:

1. How weird, wonder what her problem is
2. Good riddance

Why do people do this? I tend to avoid people I don't like, not hover around them pretending to be friends

I have known a few people over the years, who, quite separately from each, have taken such a major dislike to me, they have attempted to be completely destructive of me. Professionally and personally. I didn't realise there was a problem though. They never said anything to me. They were nice, friendly and I always thought everything was okay.

I have never understood what I have done to deserve this. I remember crying last year, and asking my DH and my DSis to tell me what I was doing wrong. I had (have actually) no fight left. I am constantly amazed at the cruelty and deception people have in them.

Yes but only because I come from an abusive background so I didn't know any better. I had friends that I knew for twenty years who were just using me as a punch bag or putting me down to make themselves feel better. I've had that pattern from school because that's the way I was treated at home so it was just normal.

I remember a therapist saying to me once "Why did you let that happen?" And I answered that I didn't know people were meant to be nice or even what 'nice' meant. It set me up to have a very high tolerance was bad behaviour.

I also thought I was being kind but I wasn't being kind to myself.

It was only very recently that it hit me that my sister absolutely hates me. Has done all my life but it's only recently that I've seen it. We're now estranged.

Yep my mother in law and my 2 sisters in law. And a lot of the grammar school girls'sixth form I attended.

I seem to be the mean girls'dream.