To ask if you regret tubal ligation?

[AbbeyBelfast]

I'll be having my tubal ligation when I have my Caesarean section in summer. This will be my second child and I'm 99.9% sure I'm done with having children, I'm 32 and already knackered lol. There is of course the tiny tiny doubt, but I wanted to know if this is normal and if you regret having yours? How many children had you had when you made the choice? What age were you?

I was 27, had two children, and I have never once regretted it. Honestly one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm 47 now.

I was 29 when i had mine done during the c section of my 2nd child.

It was nearly 4 years ago now and i dont regret it.

Both pregnancies were horrible. I had limited mobility from 8 weeks pregnant with both of them due to severe SPD and sciatica. I now have mild lymphedema as my lymphatic system has been damaged in pregnancy with my last one.

Theres no way i could have anymore. The surgeon told me after my c section that if i hadn't already had my sterilisation approved that he would of advised not having anymore anyway.

I have no interest in babies now where as before i would be all over them. I have no interest in holding someones baby etc and i think thats when you know you are truly done!

Four years on from op (2children). Deffo the best decision I could have made, no doubts.

Has anyone had this done after a v-birth? I absolutely know I'm having my last - three is more than enough, and I've had too many MC previously to risk it again. Is there a very long wait after birth if you can't have it done 'at the time'?

Had mine after my second child. Absolutely no regrets. Did tell the surgeon that he was only to do it if the birth had been straight forward and the baby okay.

I had mine at 33, when my second DC was a toddler.

Zero regrets. Only positives.

yes without trying to be dramatic but the side effects and psychological effects have actually ruined my life and il never be the same

I regret it, I had it done during the csection with number 3, if I'd been offered it while not being pregnant I'd have said no.
Logically it was the right decision, I'm too old, hated being pregnant, had preeclampsia and other issues every time. 3 is a lot physically and mentally however I love them and want more.

I had mine done almost 12 years ago and I've never regretted it.
@BrumBoo I did. Its a simple 10-15min laprascopic (sp) op that had minimal pain. I was home by lunchtime . It's also less likely to fail when done separately than when it's done during a c-section

Had mine done after 3 vaginal births when youngest child was 4. Zero regrets.

I had mine aged 35 after my second child. No regrets. I think if I hadn’t had it done, I would have been tempted by a third because I adore the newborn stage but there are many reasons why it would be a bad idea - lack of space, time, money, already had 2 c sections, complicated pregnancies (pre eclampsia). So the tubal ligation has removed the temptation, which I see as a good thing. My husband was also (and still is) adamant that he is two and done!

I had mine done after my third c-section. No regrets, but then again I was 40 - realistically speaking with 3 DC and age we weren't going to have any more and I am OK with that.

I would not have been OK with it after my second.

If you dont have any kids..but are over a certain age,how difficult would it be to have a tubal ligation?

4 kids - aged 33 - best decision

You're going to get plenty of people say they don't regret it because they know they were done.
You're not sure if you're done. You might regret it. It really is one of those situations that asking around isn't going to do you any favours.

No one of the best days of my life I’d been nagging for years.

I had one at 31 after my second child. My marriage broke down and I remarried someone with no kids.

After 3 years of finding that step parenting wasn’t the hell that everyone said it was and he was an amazing step dad, I felt really sad he’d never experience his own biological child from a baby. I got a reversal planning on just one more.

Had an ectopic pregnancy and lost a tube.

Went on to successfully have a baby then took the depo vera shot and with only one tube thought I’d be safe.

Discovered just before my 40th, despite two depo shots, only one Fallopian tube and extremely heavy ‘periods’ (that were actually a pregnancy complication) I was halfway through a fourth pregnancy. We now have 4 kids.

I love them all but bloody hell I should have left that tubal ligation well alone!

Needless to say he’s had the snip and I’ve had ablation. I still have nightmares about falling pregnant again though!

Had it done at 33 after my second child. I knew I did not want anymore children at all and do not regret it all.

I had mine at 31 regretted it ever since

Best thing I did at the age of 34 after my second child. Eleven years later and no regrets. However I didn't have any doubt at all before I had it done and it sounds as if you do.

I was going to get it done after C section no 3 (I just turned 33 the week before) consultant advised against it in case I wanted another. DH advised against it in case I was affected emotionally by knowing I couldn’t have another baby with the usual mad hormones you have after giving birth. I didn’t get it done and was very glad. Even though I knew I didnt want another, I think emotionally I would have struggled with the finality of the decision while dealing with post party hormones. I don’t regret not doing it and incidentally didn’t have another either.

Exactly like you, at 32 c-section of second (unplanned) child. Best decision. I used to have nightmares about unplanned pregnancies (like, sobbing in the gyno office level of nightmare). 46 now and I still look back on my decision with a huge sense of relief. My only paranoid fear now is that I'm one of the one out of gazillion women who can get pregnant despite tubal ligation.

“Partum “ it was no party!!

Following along as I'm toying with this idea too. I have two DC, I really shouldn't have anymore for a multitude of reasons and like you I'm 99.999% sure I don't want another but I'm afraid if I take the possibility away I'll be left with illogical regret.