First world problem but I'm so annoyed! DH is a pig

[PonyPals]

Lighthearted but still annoying.

DH found a stash of snacks (mainly crisps) and I told him he can have one pack as the rest are for our day out to the water park.
Well I am packing everything as the park is tomorrow and he just informed me that he ate more than one packet. Just checked and In actual fact he ate everything!!!!

He is in supermarket right now replacing it but jeez such piggy behaviour!

AIBU to find another hiding spot and never ever tell him!

@HarrysWife

I cant imagine hiding food or rationing it. We have free reign to food and neither DH nor DCs would eat everything (probably as its freely available). Also I wouldnt buy in advance and say "one packet", I would just check a few days before I was going and buy more. If I do ever buy snacks for holidays/days out they go in a "holiday" box and nobody would touch it. Or if they did they would ask beforehand so I could replace it.

Right. So why do you need a holiday box so nobody would touch it? Because you'd have the same problem ?

So you wouldn't buy in advance but you'd check a few days before....

You may be the cool one , eat whatever you want and il replace it, but your argument doesn't stand up.

When this started DH and DS were nomming treats as though they were going out of fashion.

I bought and hid a five pack of toffee crisps, I hid them under the couch, about a week later, DS was messing around with the dog on the floor and looked up at me and said you are sooooooooooooooo busted.

It's not controlling to be annoyed by someone else's selfish greedy behaviour, especially around food that you provided for everyone, for a specific occasion. I bet he didn't replace them unprompted either & has had to be told that he needs to buy more.

^It's bloody tiresome to be the one who has organised something only to find at the very last moment that someone else has eaten, used, taken away whatever it was that had been organised.

It's nothing to do with telling an adult how much they can/can't eat. It's about every adult thinking about the family unit rather than just themsleves^

Exactly. The DH knows that there are at least 4 people in the house, but it doesn't appear to have occurred to him that anyone else except him might have wanted some of the crisps.

Also, for the 'just buy more' crew, who are obviously in the privileged position of having an unlimited food budget, many people don't have this luxury and have to make their food budget cover sufficient food for the entire family, so might not be able to cover unlimited snacks for greedy DHs (of course, the OP might not be in this position, but that's irrelevant, why should she 'just buy more'?).

@CruCru

Frankly, well done for starting a thread that isn't entirely focussed on coronavirus.

@RainingBatsAndFrogs

I am baffled.

How is it controlling to cater for a particular event and ask that the provisions for that event not get eaten?

How far does it go, this carte blanche to help yourself? If I make a sponge cake with a view to icing it the following day for a DC birthday cake, is it controlling to tell DH he cannot eat it?

If I make a dozen sausage rolls to take to a Christening buffet am I allowed to ban the family from eating them before we get there?

Women frequently budget, shop and plan for meals for the whole family, for the week. Why is it OK for the man to then eat his way through anything he fancies without reference to the plan?

This

Some people can't just eat one packet of crisps. I'm one of these folk. He should have told you though and replaced them right away.

You may have the sunshine but come next January you won't have the Ashes anymore!!!

Post of the day. Excellent!

I would be annoyed too.

Oh yes OP he's such a bad piggy! Bad piggy greedy husband! Oink oink! He must be punished for this! 🐷🍕🍟🍔🥪🌮🐖🐽🐽🐽

@ilovecardigans
I agree but unfortunately it's gone over most heads 😂

[quote JamesAnderson]@ilovecardigans
I agree but unfortunately it's gone over most heads 😂[/quote]
😁

Mind, it's a bit of a bold statement to make at this stage in the proceedings.

Thus speaks a bitter NUFC fan still smarting over the 1995-96 season...

If this isn't a money or a weight issue, then you tell him he can only eat the snacks if he replaces them.
Also tell him he can never ever eat all the packs unless he checks no one else wants some before he can replace them , as it's not fair to the rest of the family.
If you want a stash that's fine but tell him to never touch or as, which doesn't mean you won't share.

Nothing wrong with hiding food if it's for a special purpose and he can't control himself. To be honest, it's probably in his best interest if you hide most unhealthy snacks as a matter of course and just "find" one or two for you to share, every so often.

Yes, he's an adult and doesn't need his eating "policed", but by the same token, he's an adult, so he can procure his own snacks if he wants them. She's not stopping him from buying his own stash. Some people have no self-control around certain foods, so if they know they're there, they'll eat them until their gone. That's bad for their health, the family food budget, and the other people in the house, who would also like an an occasional treat but can't keep them stocked because someone keeps eating them all!

*until they're gone...

I am shocked that people find one person sitting eating 6 bags of crisps in a short space of time ISNT piggy behaviour - WTF??

Jesus Christ no wonder obesity is on the rise if this is considered acceptable.

I'm guessing the OP hid the crisps because her DH has form for this kind of shit.

In this house no food gets hidden but none of us are greedy pigs either. Similarly if we'd bought something specifically for a family outing it would most likely sit on the worktop in plain sight until the outing and nobody would eat it because they would know what it had been purchased for!

No one has to ask for food and no one is told what to eat or rationed - we're just sensible human beings who understand what is healthy behaviour towards food and what isn't.

Piggy, selfish, disrespectful behaviour on the part of the OPs DH and judging by this thread, a lot of MNers aswell

My stash was discovered recently... by a bloody mouse! So it obviously had to be binned and I can't restart it until I'm sure there aren't any more furry little thieving houseguests.

@ilovecardigans
Yes very bold. It has a Glenn McGrath feel about it. 😂

[quote JamesAnderson]@ilovecardigans
Yes very bold. It has a Glenn McGrath feel about it. 😂[/quote]
He was so bold he made the same prediction not once, but twice. Second time lucky, Glenn!

I do love a good bit of sledging.

@WunWun

Jesus, I think some of you have lead very sheltered lives of you think someone eating a few packets of crisps makes them an 'absolute pig'.

I don't think "sheltered" is the correct word here.

I am shocked that people find one person sitting eating 6 bags of crisps in a short space of time ISNT piggy behaviour - WTF??

It's MN. You are going to be accused of competitive "under-eating" in a minute

Thanks for all the funny responses! They made me laugh
A lot of you understood that it wasn't about me controlling his eating but just not wanting him to eat everything I put aside for the trip.
For all Australians on here. I am sorry for using the words crisps... I just thought it would be confusing if I said chips!

We had a lovely time today... even though it rained the whole day

“Chips” would have made it even more entertaining, then there’d be confusion to deal with too.

It didn’t rain where I am, was hot so went to beach except there were bluebottles 😩 so just a short swim initially but they did blow away.

He is allowed to make his own choices and eating more then one packet doesn't make him a pig.

Yes it does when it is a stash for a particular occasion.