Exdh breaking rules when DD is with him?

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I'm trying to work out if this is something I should be really concerned about, or just let it go.
Exdh has dd (7) every other weekend. DH and I are both classed as clinically vulnerable so are really careful.
Exdh still going to work full time, in a position where he's in contact with hundreds of other people every day.
Come to light today that over the past few months when dd is with him, exdhs new partner is also with them. Am I right in thinking this isn't allowed? I'm probably more on edge about this because his new partner is a nurse at a hospital so is more likely than most to come into contact with potential Covid cases. Dd said this afternoon that while they've been out, his new partner has been carrying her and hugging her. If I say anything to exdh he will go absolutely batshit at me and accuse me of everything under the sun and of trying to ruin his relationship . Any opinions?

Sorry, should clarify they don't live together, and the new partner houseshares with 2 other nurses

If he doesn't live with another adult then this is allowed.

He’s probably bubbled with his new partner, in which cases it’s entirely within the rules.

It’s difficult with children of blended families during Covid, for this exact reason. Someone else is in control of the level of risk in your home.

Presume XH and his new partner are a support bubble? There’s no reason they can’t be together whether DD is there or not.
Are you shielding?

I’d let it go.

He can if he doesn’t live with anyone else as he can bubble with their household

Doesn't sound like he's doing anything wrong. If he lives alone he's allowed (as pp said) to join another household as a support bubble.

You might not like it but there's not really anything you can do

Sorry but as others have explained, it doesn't sound like he's breaking any rules 🤷‍♀️

He has his partner as you have yours. Sorry he isn't doing anything wrong.

Not telling you for months, or at least keeping it silent since Tier 3 and 4 restrictions and then the third so-called lockdown is not reasonable.

It's allowed.

Allowed if they’re in a bubble together.

Partner's PPE is supposed to work to stop her getting or spreading.

Does the exH not do anything to reduce his chances of getting covid, like mask or wear gloves?

He’s a single adult household in a support bubble with his girlfriend. Entirely legal and reasonable. Ideally, he should have told you though.

OP said he lives with 2 other flatmates so it isn't allowed.
I would be concerned as well.

It doesn't sound like he is doing anything wrong (assuming they are in a bubble).

If he is a single adult he can bubble with a household of any size so it is irrelevant how many people his new partner lives with.

If your ex has your daughter every other weekend then presumably he doesn't live with another adult so he can form a bubble with his partner. This is completely fine.

She might be able to have her own bubble regardless of who exdh mixes with.

Or she might be staying with him for lockdown?

OP said he lives with 2 other flatmates so it isn't allowed.

The new partner flatshares with two other nurses, the ex lives alone. It is allowed.

OP, it is up to him how he parents your DD when its his time just as its up to you how you parent during your time. I can understand why you might feel annoyed and worried but he hasn't done anything wrong.

Sorry, exdh lives with. Not mixes with.

Just saw your update. Your ex lives alone, then it's fine. You probably wouldn't appreciate it if it was you...

Some people house share as each person being a separate household and it’s possible your ex and his new partner are in a legitimate bubble. You cannot control what others do and I think this is something you need to let go.

I do think things are exponentially more difficult with blended families and contact, but there's no real solution. People need to be able to live their lives within the confines of lockdown, but unfortunately the result is basically no bubble at all for children with parents in two separate households.

It’s allowed,
Sounds like your problem is more that You don’t like Him having his new partner around your child tbh...