Exdh breaking rules when DD is with him?

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I'm trying to work out if this is something I should be really concerned about, or just let it go.
Exdh has dd (7) every other weekend. DH and I are both classed as clinically vulnerable so are really careful.
Exdh still going to work full time, in a position where he's in contact with hundreds of other people every day.
Come to light today that over the past few months when dd is with him, exdhs new partner is also with them. Am I right in thinking this isn't allowed? I'm probably more on edge about this because his new partner is a nurse at a hospital so is more likely than most to come into contact with potential Covid cases. Dd said this afternoon that while they've been out, his new partner has been carrying her and hugging her. If I say anything to exdh he will go absolutely batshit at me and accuse me of everything under the sun and of trying to ruin his relationship . Any opinions?

This is fine and completely within guidance. It would have been nice if he gave you a heads up but he’s doing nothing wrong.

Not a case of not liking his new partner around dd, she's not the first and I doubt she'll be the last. Just concerned about what I see as an increased risk of Covid.

You posted about this a few days ago (or at least someone with identical circumstances, down to the new girlfriends job and her houseshare) and you were told then that it was allowed and he's not breaking any rules.

I empathise with you and your husband’s vulnerable status. Have you considered perhaps asking your ex to perhaps field DD entirely during this lockdown? It sounds like the nurse is very fond of your daughter, it may be a scenario to further manage your safety?

He’s not doing anything wrong. What’s the alternative, key worker NRPs (am assuming he is a key worker since he is still having to go into work) with clinically vulnerable ex partners just aren’t allowed to have support bubbles or contact with their dc? How is that in anyone’s interest?

As others have said, he isn't breaking the rules.

If you and your dh are classed as vulnerable, and very concerned about this, then the solution is for dd to move in with her dad for the duration of this.

I can see why you’re concerned. And it does increase the risk of COVID, as mixing with anyone does. But you have to let this one go. You really can’t ask your ex to limit the time he spends with his GF.

Also, if his GF is a nurse, she’s likely received, or will soon receive, the Covid vaccine.

I'm sorry op but this is the equivalent of your ex asking your current dh to move out.

So it’s ok for you to have a
Partner but not him

They're not breaking any rules.