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Police round would you think it was the new neighbours?

190 replies

quicklybeingdrivenmad · 24/01/2021 17:03

Live on a small lane in a small village, where most people know everyone's business and who you are if not your name. Moved here 10 years ago as our family business is in the next village, so made home work life balance easier. Get one with all our neighbours and are one really good terms with them all (a lot are elderly so the 3 younger households - laugh at that we all turned 50 in the last couple of years have been helping out shopping etc putting bins out since lock down started)
We had a new neighbour move in across the road mid October never really spoke to anyone, we would wave, say hi and get no response (not just me everyone)
Well today I have had the police round I have been accused of flouting lock down because there has been so many different cars on my drive (police had a list of registration numbers) I must be having people round!!
We have not been and these vehicles belong to our business (which is shut due to covid) so when going up to check on our premises I keep alternating vehicles, to keep them running and charged (as I cannot just abandon our business) all our original neighbours know what we do and joke about different vehicles on the drive all the time, would you think it was the new neighbours?

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BananaPop2020 · 24/01/2021 17:58

@PinkiOcelot there is not a shred of evidence to suggest who contacted the Police. Not a shred.

PatchworkElmer · 24/01/2021 17:58

Probably, but you’ll never know so I’d try not to think about it too much. Really sorry to hear about your Mum Flowers

FoxyTheFox · 24/01/2021 17:59

The new neighbours only proven "crime" is that they don't want to be Bestest Ever Chums with everyone else on the street.

Have you considered burning them on the village square?

quicklybeingdrivenmad · 24/01/2021 18:04

@ B33FR33 We do not have employees, we are a small family run firm, so what with mum and this am probably over emotional!! but did not need this from people I have never met, but got a really interesting facebook message from someone in the village the people who have started this apparently offered on my house when we bought it 10 years ago offered same as me but they were in a chain so my offer was accepted since then house prices her have gone stupid cos of schools so apparently they blame me that they could not move here then ffs

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TheMandalorian · 24/01/2021 18:05

Well I can understand this worrying you and remaining in your mind. It would make me feel anxious that I was clearly being watched at my own home and that someone went as far as reporting it to the police. However, although highly likely it was the new neighbours it could well have been one of the seemingly lovely but actually bitter and lonely villagers who enjoy causing malicious trouble. You just never know.
Its done now though and you haven't done anything wrong. I find it helps to tell someone else your problems and thoughts rather than bottle it up. Condolences for your loss and hope you can get some peace. Flowers

quicklybeingdrivenmad · 24/01/2021 18:05

Foxythefox thats the most ridiculous answer I have ever heard

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FoxyTheFox · 24/01/2021 18:06

Please don't get embroiled in village gossip about them, OP. You have no proof they called the police about your cars and you have no proof that they bid on the same house as you ten years ago. All you are going to achieve here is a growing font of resentment that at some point is going to end up escalating into a needless dispute.

BananaPop2020 · 24/01/2021 18:07

Actually I think @FoxyTheFox was spot on. These neighbours have done absolutely nothing wrong, even if they DID report you.

FoxyTheFox · 24/01/2021 18:07

thats the most ridiculous answer I have ever heard

No, its not. I can understand why you are cross that the police came but your sole reason for pointing the blame at the new neighbours ours is that they're not friendly enough for your liking.

Throwaway99 · 24/01/2021 18:08

The nosy neighbours started the dispute by reporting the OP.

FoxyTheFox · 24/01/2021 18:10

OP doesn't know they reported her. It could have been anyone. It could have even been no one at all and that the police have noticed the changing cars during drive-bys.

BlackeyedSusan · 24/01/2021 18:14

I bet they tried to buy your house when they tried to move before.

Ok I have just seen your update. Yeah. They hold a long grudge

TroosAndShoes · 24/01/2021 18:15

So sorry to hear about your mum. Flowers

Even if you're right and it was the neighbours, they're really not worth your time or your energy.

They've done what they thought was right. You've proven that you've done nothing wrong. Leave them to get on with it.

And if you're wrong, think how crappy you'd feel if you'd blamed them for something they hadn't done.

Lockheart · 24/01/2021 18:16

This is getting silly OP. You're just dredging up more and more reasons as to why they newcomers are horrible people and, like I said in my first post, it's clear you're just looking for more reasons to dislike them.

Unless you actually have a shred of evidence that they're the ones who reported you, I would really let this go before you escalate it to a point you regret.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 24/01/2021 18:17

You have no idea it was the neighbours - you're just fixating on them because they're not friendly towards you.

KatieGGGG · 24/01/2021 18:17

“The nosy neighbours started the dispute by reporting the OP.”

No they didn’t, there’s no evidence whatsoever it was them.

There is no dispute, just seemingly an entire village obsessing over incomers and their perceived lack of friendliness (but yet have insider knowledge about their house offers).

PinkPearlyShine · 24/01/2021 18:18

I think reporting someone to the police at this time is criminal, and a desperate state of affairs.

And I don’t mind people being reported for actual crimes, not just imagined ones my nosey people, intent or spoiling peoples lives

If there is an actual crime, report it. If you don’t like what your neighbours are doing, just mind your own business.

( Not you OP 😀)

Don’t give them anymore thought.

BlackeyedSusan · 24/01/2021 18:18

My dad used to come home with a new car regularly, sometimes he had three different cars in one day.

MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously · 24/01/2021 18:18

It wouldn't occur to me to report my neighbours to the police for something like this. Of course you are entitled to feel upset. I wouldn't necessarily blame the new neighbours because you never know with people - sometimes those who are the friendliest to your face can stab you in the back!
I think it's a massively shitty thing to do and Covid is bringing out the worst in people.

Confusedandshaken · 24/01/2021 18:19

Even if the police knew that all the cars were registered to the same business that doesn't mean the OP wasn't hosting non-essential gatherings/meetings for several employees at her home. It was sensible for them to check.

Just let it go OP, ( regardless of any unsubstantiated gossip you've heard about house offers 10 years ago. Once your neighbours have lived in your road for a bit longer they will probably realise what the situation is and feel silly for over-reacting.

BackforGood · 24/01/2021 18:20

my 87 year old next door neighbour caught their eye and asked as she has lived her for 40 years, did they want any advice on shops butchers etc she was told no we tried to move here before so we no the area

You are now beginning to sound like you are on a witch hunt, OP.

The fact someone didn't need advice about the local shops just means the people did not want advice about local shops. It does not make them bad people in any way.
It does not make them any more likely than anyone else to have reported your collection of cars. Confused

As for your post at 18:04:12 - you sound like you are now getting drawn into conspiracy theory territory ! Please step away from this until you are in a better place emotionally and you will be able to see how daft you are now sounding.

Postnasaldrop · 24/01/2021 18:20

All the posters saying why do you care! I would care! It would make me think these people, without getting to know me, getting to know what I did for a living, were looking for faults. That is not neighbourly.

Bargebill19 · 24/01/2021 18:21

I wouldn’t immediately jump to the new neighbour hypothesis. We have a person in our village, who posted in the village Facebook page that they were reporting those whom they thought had flouted the rules. They’ve lived here all their life, so 40-50 years. Shame they choose to report people we all know work for the nhs, schools, have local businesses, walking their dogs etc etc.
Ignore it and carry on - it’s the best way to deal with it.

Postnasaldrop · 24/01/2021 18:22

You don’t get extensive registration numbers via drivebys.

FoxyTheFox · 24/01/2021 18:22

But OP doesn't know it was them. She is jumping to conclusions based on them not being "friendly".