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Really struggling today

29 replies

2021vibes · 24/01/2021 16:01

I'm so fed up with this shit.
There's probably been a million threads similar but today is hard.
I'm usually positive and happy but thhe lockdown and school work is getting me down. 3 kids are fed up with one another and fighting all the time.
I'm trying to keep afloat here but today I'm just sinking a little.
It just all feels never ending and bleak.

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oopsiedaisie1 · 24/01/2021 16:03

Sending hugs because I feel the same too. I don't know how much longer I can sustain working full time plus maintaining their schooling , house work etc it's mentally physically and emotionally exhausting . You are not alone . Just take it one day at a time Thanks

Cornetttttto · 24/01/2021 16:11

Me three, and I landed flat on my arse today and sprained my ankle as a result of slipping on black ice. Fecking hell!

Dizzywizz · 24/01/2021 16:12

sorry to hear that. I'm also feeling the same, just so deflated. Think it's because dh had to work all day today instead of just a few hours (also works long days mon-fri so we hardly see him), and not looking forward to more home school and wfh tomorrow

AndcalloffChristmas · 24/01/2021 16:33

It’s all too much now, isn’t it? Flowers

B33Fr33 · 24/01/2021 16:35

Flowers Cake Brew

coldsunnydays · 24/01/2021 16:38

I feel the same too. Desperately worried about my kids and long term impact on them.

I'm really bloody angry with the Government too. I'll never, ever forgive them for the astounding fuck up they have made of all this.

Sparklesocks · 24/01/2021 16:45

You aren’t alone OP. Almost everyone I talk to is finding this lockdown significantly harder. No practical advice I’m afraid but please know what you’re feeling is very common and many others feel the same

Pleasebe2022 · 24/01/2021 16:57

Me too. I feel I cant cope with this for even 1 more day. Full time work from home. A 7 year old who has 6 lessons a day and wont do a single one without someone sat with her. A 4 year old who has a couple of zoom nursery calls a day. I'm CEV so I cant send youngest to nursery.

I've just had enough. I dont even know what I'm craving anymore. Even if schools open I cant send the kids in.

I want someone else to cook a meal. I want us all home to stay safe but it's so hard.

Roselilly36 · 24/01/2021 17:08

Sending you a hug also OP. We are all struggling at the moment, solidarity. It’s really shit, but it won’t be forever & we need to keep hold of that. Spring will soon be here. The nights are getting lighter.

oopsiedaisie1 · 24/01/2021 17:09

It's reassuring to hear others feeling the same but it's awful too. I just don't know how much longer we can sustain this. I can't see the schools back before Easter but I also hold out hope for soon because I just feel I'm doing the worst job of educating them!

devildeepbluesea · 24/01/2021 17:10

@coldsunnydays

I feel the same too. Desperately worried about my kids and long term impact on them.

I'm really bloody angry with the Government too. I'll never, ever forgive them for the astounding fuck up they have made of all this.

Absolutely all of this.
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2021vibes · 24/01/2021 17:13

For some reason this time feels much worse than april.
Im on my own home schooling 2 and one pre schooler .
Luckily im on furlough as im in hospitality.
Im a social smoker but actually going out the back for a fag is my only down time and peace and it breaks up the day.
And im loving sitting out the back in the evening when kids are asleep with a cup of tea.
Getting teary just reading these replies here.

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alltheadrenalin · 24/01/2021 17:18

Better days are ahead of us op! We have soo much to look forward to and will really value what we've missed.

majesticallyawkward · 24/01/2021 17:19

It's reassuring that other people are feeling the same, but also deeply saddening.

I've been so fed up for so long. Fatigued with it all, touched out, burned out, stressed, exhausted and just angry.
Every time we have some good news it's immediately followed by something worse- oh yay there's a vaccine and we could be starting to lift some restrictions when it's been rolled out to most, only not because the vaccine doesn't mean you don't transmit the virus and anyway new strains might not be covered by it so we're in this for a long way yet.

So what, we just carry on like this indefinitely? For years, decades? What's the plan.

I cannot carry on, this is not sustainable. I don't necessarily want to go anywhere it'd just be nice to stay in by choice. Managing kids, work, home and all that comes with it is so much harder when there is just nothing else, my eldest dc has not handled it all very well. At 5 she is too young, her social skills have disappeared and emotional reactions to the slightest thing are so bad I'm afraid to interact with her at times. Her education has been set back so much I don't see how she'll recover.

Rupertpenrysmistress · 24/01/2021 17:24

Feel exactly the same. I can't do it anymore day after day the same thing. I work full time but been off for a couple of weeks as my ds was seriously unwell, still unwell but have to go back to work this week. I am a nurse so have to be out the house for 13 hour days. Trying to organise care for my son. DH is around but still works out of the house. My poor dd 13 is just getting on with everything bit has lost her sparkle, she does not leave her room.

My ds 11 now needs someone to sit all day remote learning as cannot use his right side 🥺. Oh and all the meals and housework. And I have just given up drinking.

I don't know what the answer is, it is good to know I am not alone as it feels like it. There seems no end or positivity. I want to stay in bed with the covers pulled up until sprin

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 24/01/2021 17:24

Last April was so different

1 novelty value - there was drama and it was different; we were tired of running round, not of staying home.
2 we had 2 weeks then Easter break so 4 weeks in wasn't the same
3 I think we thought it would be over in weeks. Bojo said 6 weeks first, then 12. No one saw this marathon coming.

Agree this is shit but I do believe we are into the last third if this shit. By the end of summer most will be vaccinated and numbers will be right down. We just need to hang in there.

And seriously punish the shower of shit government at the next election

Roselilly36 · 24/01/2021 17:28

Do what you need too to get through it OP. It’s a battle I know. Thank goodness my DS are out of education now, I don’t know I would have coped otherwise. Spring will soon be here.

PinkiOcelot · 24/01/2021 17:28

Me too!
In a couple of weeks it will be a year since I’ve seen my mam properly. I was full of cold for a couple of weeks so didn’t go to see her. Then her home locked down before lockdown and that’s it. Apart from a couple of half hour visits in the garden every couple of weeks and now in a pod, that’s it.
So fed up of it all.

Arcadia · 24/01/2021 17:36

Me too. I've been so positive (well, for me, and mainly!) but today i am sick of it, sick of telly and screens, sick of having to go for a walk in the cold if I want to see a friend face to face, sick of screens, sick of seeing my daughters childhood trickle by without seeing her friends, worried about her (lack of proper) education and future, sick of my partner, sick of not being able to give my nieces and nephews hugs (or even see them at all now) sick of worrying sick of news sick of politicians sick of good news then bad news then good news sick of containing it all and staying cheerful for my family sick of work sick of home sick of everything so bored.

samanthawashington · 24/01/2021 17:44

Me too. Just had an enormous argument with DH and we both feel awful. Its the ongoing stress.

itsgettingweird · 24/01/2021 17:48

I'm struggling more and more.

And more so every time I read the media that keeps extending our lockdown until what feels like 2023!

Especially as ds is also struggling this time as he's missing swim training and it's all he wants to do. He can obviously feel all the effects of not training.

I'm lucky I work M-F out of the home so have some contact with others but I'm finding at the weekends that love I had of walking is disappearing. That maybe partly due to the weather!!!!

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2021vibes · 24/01/2021 18:02

Couples living together are struggling because they are doing each others heads in and couples living apart are struggling because their relationship consists of walks!! Its loose-loose!
And single and want to meet someone - no chance!!
Single and just want to enjoy your freedom-there's none!!
Hoping this feeling will pass soon as I can't cope with another 2 months feeling like this.
If only we had a definite end date we could make plans for after!

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SpudsandGravy · 24/01/2021 18:22

It might be worth speaking to your GP, in case an anti-anxiety medication might help Thanks It is a very difficult time, and sadly it doesn't look as though anything will be improving much within the foreseeable future.

BrokenBrit · 24/01/2021 18:25

Can relate. A year ago I had a happy marriage and a successful business. Now I have neither and every day is so, so hard.
Flowers to everyone else struggling.

OverByYer · 24/01/2021 18:30

I’ve hit the wall today. I know overall I am fortunate, healthy, secure job etc; I am just so bored of not having anywhere to go.
I’m so worried for my two sons future. Youngest should have been doing A levels, his 6th form experience has been completely ruined. My eldest can’t get a job. I’m so worried for their futures.
I just find myself going to bed just to get another day over with.