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AIBU?

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DH still socialising with friends

62 replies

mumontherun14 · 23/01/2021 20:44

Aibu- I am annoyed with DH as today he has gone into his friends house to watch a football game even though we are not supposed to be going into peoples houses. It’s now turned into a bit of a drinking session with him & 2 other couples .
I’ve got my elderly mum in our bubble & she is in good health but awaiting her Covid injection. My sister & brother are militant about the no socialising or mixing and it’s making me feel really uneasy.
These friends have been socialising a bit together over the lockdown time as they live in same street & both have young kids the same age. I’ve got older teens & just feel it’s not a great example to them to break the rules. The friends work at home & haven’t really seen any one else so it’s a bit like they are all one bubble & they don’t have anyone older in their bubble so it’s their choice but just feel DH is putting my DM at risk a bit. She is also still going to the shops most days and refuses to isolate completely so DH argues she’s as much at risk going to the shops. They have asked me to come over & ive said no but I know it’s going to turn into a party. as they are all big drinkers/socialisers (inc DH) and we’re going to end up having a row. My DDad passed away in care home with Covid in June so know I’m probably very sensitive & I really like his friends they are lovely and a lot of fun we go out together a lot normally it’s just this socialising is making me so uneasy. X

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butterfly990 · 24/01/2021 11:40

Going into a supermarket and moving around for an hour no where near poses the same risk as your husband. This is with proviso that your mum is washing her hands and wearing a mask.

Minky37 · 24/01/2021 11:49

It’s not just your DH that is being stupid, your mum needs to reduce her supermarket trips and potential contacts, vaccine or not.
My husband most likely caught covid from a supermarket in between Xmas & new year and it absolutely floored us (x2 40 year olds and 3 teenagers). All of us infected within 24 hrs in the same house.

I’m sorry you probably won’t want to hear this but your mums stubbornness and refusal to behave responsibly and reduce contacts is one of the reasons why we are all suffering under lockdown ‘having our routines disrupted’.

borntohula · 24/01/2021 11:51

He's far from the only one and if you feel that strongly that he's put your DM at risk, you need to tell her you can't see her.

BlueSuffragette · 24/01/2021 11:54

Sorry OP but he is weak and incredibly selfish. Lack of respect for you and you DM. He has put you all at unnecessary increased risk. He is an idiot. I would read the riot act.

mumontherun14 · 24/01/2021 12:06

Hi we’ve just went out walking with dogs & ive been really firm with him. He says it’s finished that’s the end of it. I think he does mean it. He said he hadn’t realised how upset I was about it but he sure knows now. It’s up to the others what they do I’m pretty sure they will continue but he won’t be going. Now to speak to DM about the shopping... thanks for the posts xxx

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borntohula · 24/01/2021 12:15

You'll be told you haven't punished him enough for his murderous behaviour now, fyi.

mumontherun14 · 24/01/2021 12:29

Lol 😂 I think we can talk about it like adults & sort it out ! He’s got a big birthday coming up in feb & I know he’s feeling totally fed up at the moment doesn’t feel like any kind of celebration & he is sick of the Zoom calls but aren’t we all. I just said he is putting the whole family at risk & it’s not worth it & hopefully when weather better in Spring they can sit outside in garden & have a drink. Xxx

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pickyomix · 24/01/2021 13:33

Even outside it's risky. I know someone in the first lockdown who caught Covid off a friend whilst sat outside in the garden. They were sat a bit closer than 2 metres and had a drink together.

That's before the new more contagious variant.

garlictwist · 24/01/2021 13:35

Sympathies - my DP is the same. He always has beers with his work mates after work - his argument is he sees them all day every day - which he does - but I don't feel it's in the spirit of things. I have just learned to keep my mouth shut because it leads to arguments.

EmmanuelleMakro · 24/01/2021 13:35

My STBXH has been doing similar throughout /one of many reasons he is STBXH.

hardboiledeggs · 30/01/2021 09:09

Go on you. Hope he sticks to it Smile

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