Won’t somebody think of the children (local Facebook groups)

[Achangeagain1]

So local fb group is up in arms as someone’s delivery got delivered to wrong address.
But wording of op is very “this is the only thing my kids had to look forward to this week. I hope whoever stole it chokes on it” etc etc.

Five minutes later “we’ll now we have a lovely meal from (local Japanese restaurant) instead - the kids even are some of it.

Aibu to think people that randomly bring their kids into fb complaints (that aren’t acout kids) are idiots if the highest order

Although I have to say it does annoy me when people think their children are above good behaviour and, even if a child or parent is to blame for something (or even if it was an accident) it's pathetic to kick off at the nearest adult.

For example On a Facebook page today someone posted her toddler's ear bleeding as "a woman rammed a supermarket trolley into her". I'm pretty sure that a 21 month old most likely wasn't being watched and got in the way and said adult is sick of kids running about everywhere. Why is such a small child walking in the supermarket in a global pandemic anyway?!

An old colleague (we had mutual dislike) once said to me "I saw you in town on Saturday and you walked right into my little boy". I said "oh you mean the child who ran straight in front of me and stopped dead? Yeah I can't levitate Deborah." She looked furious as if I was going to apologise because she couldn't watch her 5yo.

Yep I've noticed it, "I have kids/I'm a a single mum/keyworker/nurse" so I want special treatment.

@Achangeagain1 I am guessing that one takeaway is all they could afford!

But yes I know what you mean actually. Puts me in mind of a screenshot that went viral a few years ago where someone was selling a PS3 or something on Facebook Marketplace but the seller said to one enquirer "sorry it's been sold" and they got a reply "thanks a lot my kids Christmas is ruined now"

But I disagree with you, adults can generally handle disappointment but small things insignificant to us mean the world to kids and when injustices (like someone stealing your takeaway) happen I'd be mad for them too

I’d be fucking furious if someone stole my takeaway. If you’ve been looking forward to a particular meal all day, and have worked up an appetite waiting for the delivery, I’d be hunting people down! Kids would probably be fine with crisps and chocolate instead..

I would be too @bluebluezoo I think most days I'd rather someone steal my car keys than steal a takeaway I'd ordered

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows that’s sort of what I’m getting at - it’s a weird entitlement. Everyone would agree that he’s it’s shit that your delivery was sent elsewhere - no need to talk about starving children who will never get over the disappointment

[quote JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]@Achangeagain1 I am guessing that one takeaway is all they could afford!

But yes I know what you mean actually. Puts me in mind of a screenshot that went viral a few years ago where someone was selling a PS3 or something on Facebook Marketplace but the seller said to one enquirer "sorry it's been sold" and they got a reply "thanks a lot my kids Christmas is ruined now" [/quote]
See this quote everywhere now 🤣

I know the usual Mumsnet response is 'are you on glue?! '

But tonight I'm going with..

'Are you drunk on cheap prosecco?'

Because your posts are so incoherent.

Can't blame if you are. It's lockdown. There's fuck all else to do, except get drunk, and subsequently get pissed off by twats on social media (who'd normally you'd just roll your eyes at) and then post on Mumsnet about it.

((Hugs))

😂

sigh

I forgot the 'you'

Also drunk on cheap prosecco.

@missrm that's the one

I kind of think it IS worse when children are involved though....as an adult it’s annoying to reorder your takeaway, but young children usually eat earlier, struggle to wait and have set bedtimes. If I had to eat late and stay up an extra hr I’d be annoyed but wouldn’t ruin the evening in the same way it would with kids involved.

The OP isn’t that hard to understand.

I get it, and it annoys me too. I recently had to ban someone from a website for repeatedly breaking rules about advertising. Every single time he’d done it, he broke out the ‘I need to advertise to get work so I can feed my kids, if I can’t get work they’ll go hungry and I’m sure you don’t want that’ as though it was somehow MY problem and I was personally preventing him from feeding his kids.

See also the ridiculous complaints from parents about Cerrie Burnell, projecting their own prejudices onto their kids and then trying to claim that she was scaring the children.

If people dislike, disapprove or find something offensive, they should own it themselves rather than using their kids as a proxy for it.

@SmellsLikeAHamsterCage nope mid range Sancerre and a new phone which seems to have an odd feel for the English language.

I understand and agree to an extent. However, @bluebluezoo I do think no heating is more severe when children are involved. We had no heating for a while with two toddlers and they suffered more than we did. They didn't understand why it was cold and were upset and out of sorts. They don't regulate their temperature as well.... so sometimes situations are more urgent (hence why children under 5 are on a priority list with heating companies.)

I agree, the takeaway is a little different and there is no need to mention children.

@GorvidAl it’s that. A mentality that “bringing the kids into it” makes their argument absolute and non debatable.

Having small children does make some experiences, which would otherwise be tolerable, unbearable.

Take delayed flights for example. Pre-children, I'd have scouted the airport to find the comfiest chair, bought a coffee or a burger, taken out my book and settled down for a bit. Whereas five hours in Heathrow with a hungry, overtired 20 month year old and your 5pm flight now leaving after 10pm is hell on earth...DS was so wired with tiredness by the time we got on the plane that he screamed for most of the flight.

I understand and agree to an extent. However, I do think no heating is more severe when children are involved

What about the elderly? Or someone clinically vulnerable? Or someone who can’t afford a portable heater? Me and my kids will do better than my elderly mum, not least because I can bundle them into the car and go and buy a gas or electric heater to tide us over until I can get it fixed.

I have kids and we got a new bathroom recently. With the covid etc things were delayed and we had to make do with a sink and toilet for a while. The reason they had to come off our job was because their next one was a fitting for a disabled adult. Yes it was a pita with kids, but we managed more easily than a disabled adult would.

Kids aren’t an automatic trump card to be played when you think you should be prioritised.

@MessAllOver while I get where you’re coming from - your complaint (and compensation) is the same for anyone delayed.

Your reason for being annoyed is that your kids were tired. Someone else’s may be that they missed their mums funeral, or an urgent medical appointment:
The complaint is the same

@bluebluezoo

I understand and agree to an extent. However, I do think no heating is more severe when children are involved

What about the elderly? Or someone clinically vulnerable? Or someone who can’t afford a portable heater? Me and my kids will do better than my elderly mum, not least because I can bundle them into the car and go and buy a gas or electric heater to tide us over until I can get it fixed.

I have kids and we got a new bathroom recently. With the covid etc things were delayed and we had to make do with a sink and toilet for a while. The reason they had to come off our job was because their next one was a fitting for a disabled adult. Yes it was a pita with kids, but we managed more easily than a disabled adult would.

Kids aren’t an automatic trump card to be played when you think you should be prioritised.

Yes quite. I'm astonished at how little my kids feel the cold, the hearing in this house goes on for me not them. But a cold house could be life or death for an elderly person

I get less wound up if I read it, raise eyebrows and move on. I read a post that someone was selling things they got on a FB giveaway group. The people who did it then came on and called the senator all of names and threatened them. It's better for MH to think that's vile and quickly move on happy they are related etc. They might have been fishing for cash?

@Achangeagain1. I think you're slightly missing the point. While I think the example in your OP is stupid (just reorder the takeaway, woman, and rustle up some snacks for the kids in the meantime !), it is much more difficult being in tough situations where you are responsible not only for your own welfare but also the welfare of vulnerable others (whether children or adults) who can't cope as well as you and who depend on you. For example, being ill with flu is clearly pretty awful but being ill with flu and trying to care for your children at the same time is much worse.

@MessAllOver I do get that (and as an aside the Facebook poster was a man not a woman), the complaint is still the same. The boiler was broken/the flight was delayed/the shop was shut.

Everyone will have a reason it was worse for them.

Bit that said. That wasn’t really what my OP was about. I was referring specifically to people who try to garnish sympathy for non events as “their kids were upset”.

the complaint is still the same The complaint might be the same but the experience isn't. The experience when others as well as yourself are being affected and you're the one responsible for minimising the impact on them is worse. For example, the electricity cutting out if you've got a small baby and you need to sterilise bottles is clearly worse than if you're an adult on your own.

That said, I do get what you mean about people trying to get sympathy on Facebook for complete non-events by using their children. The cafe in the park where we normally buy DS an ice cream was closed last week and he was disappointed... never occurred to me to rant on Facebook about it.

I do know what you mean OP, I have a facebook friend (now unfollowed) who would do that. Every minor invonvenience was made out to be some terrible trauma for her kids. I'm sure the kids would have been fine if she'd just jollied them along instead of being so bloody dramatic.

@MessAllOver the park is the perfect example
Someone normal @does anyone know why the park cafe is shut - me and my family were looking forward to picking up a coffee”

Vs

“I’m fuming! I went to the park and it was shut. My ds always gets his ice cream there and was crying his eyes out. How dare they shit the cafe when my pfb wants his ice cream”