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[Icloud54]

My son still attends school, general conversation today about a teacher who is covering his class.
He asked the teacher to help with his shoe lace-she said no because she was 'marking'
She also tells the children she is invisible which means they can't talk to her or ask her questions- basically puts herself in 'invisible' mode throughout the day.
Aibu to be annoyed by this?

Son is 7

For every post like this there are 10 others incensed with rage because the DC in school are being helped by the teacher all day.

There is no winning for the teachers in this.

Could you get him velcro shoes?

No,teachers have A LOT to get through in a day. Especially now.
Teachers need to correct things and do general paperwork. They can't constantly be on tap to the children for everything.

I second velcro shoes..

Tell him to switch on invisible mode when she tries to talk to him

I suspect you’re not getting the full story here.

And for the love of god, send your kid in Velcro shoes if they can’t do laces.

Probably necessary for her to cope with online stuff as well as teaching the kids in school.

Don't send kids in shoes they can't do up themselves.

I like invisible mode, develops independence in them and means she's still there in case of emergency.

I never tie little boys' laces. Especially if they're wet but it's not been raining. I just tell them to tuck them inside their shoe. Why have you bought your son shoes that he can't do up himself? That's not doing much for independence if he can't even put his own shoes on.

YABU.

Teachers may be physically in school with some of their class but they are still responsible for the rest who are at home.

Online work still needs to be marked, queries from parents need to be answered, and welfare check phone calls also need to be made.

You can't compare the job now to how it was pre-lockdown.

7 year olds are prone to exaggerated. I dont imagine the teacher was actually on 'invisible' mode more than once or twice to ge things done. Should definitely be wearing velcro if cant tie laces. Especially now.

That's not great, could you help in practice? My feeling is a kid just needs to repeat tying shoes many times in order to get it (like most things in life actually).

It does suck, but also a whole class asking for help with every little thing is not sustainable.

YABU. Our reception teachers don't help with getting dressed, the kids soon learned and the parents bought Velcro shoes.

Teachers are busy enough at the moment.

Will get some Velcro shoes, not sure why I didn't think of that before!

Velcro shoes OP! Why would you send your child to school in clothes he can’t work yet?

I have a section of each lesson where I won’t let children talk to me. It’s the only way to encourage independence.

Remote teaching and the mute button do have some advantages 🤣

Think about how close a teacher would have to get to a child to tie their laces. That's just not ok right now, get velcro shoes or teach your child to tie their own.

Was there another adult in the room he could have asked?

I don’t have children, so I was a bit taken aback when you indicated your seven year old can’t manage his laces. But in view of my child free status, I thought I had better google it before comment and it appears that children learn to tie laces much later now than when I was a child (40+ years ago) due to a larger variety in styles.

However I remember when I was in my mid 20s, I house shared with a primary teacher and I cannot remember the exact scenario but I remember her mentioning a situation and saying that it was not her job to get children dressed. So I am going with that, if your son cannot tie shoelaces, don’t send him to school in laced shoes.

Invisible mode seems fine to me, presumably she has given the children things to work on in the meantime.

She also tells the children she is invisible which means they can't talk to her or ask her questions- basically puts herself in 'invisible' mode throughout the day.

Haha amazing, absolutely genius

At the moment OP things aren't 'normal', I can see why he probably felt a bit ignored when she said she couldn't help as she was marking, but it was probably more appropriate for a 7 year old to hear that then the teacher perhaps being worried about being in close contact etc. They will be making sure all of the children are safe in the classroom, but beyond that in honesty I would roll with it for now.

Why do you think it's acceptable during covid, where we're supposed to be distancing, to send your child into school who can't tie shoelaces? As other pp's have said, get some velcro ones and tell your child to maintain a distance

Problem sorted! Velcro was the choice for us until my son learnt (he didn’t learn until he was nearly 9) to tie shoe laces to a good enough standard so they don’t come untied throughout the day.

My colleague has a tiara. If she's wearing it the children know she is working with a group or an individual and she is not to be disturbed!

I bought my boys velcro school shoes and trainers with laces. That way they could learn to do laces at home when they had more time.

@Diverseduvet 20% non contact for subject leaders??????? In which universe? All teachers except NQTs have a leadership responsibility and they definitely don't get 20% non contact time.

Maybe you should try reaching your son some life skills instead of moaning about the teacher not doing it for him. As others have said, if he can't tie laces, send him in velcro.
And for the invisibility idea, maybe she is trying to teach them to become more independent and stop nagging her all the time!

20% for subject leaders ????????? I want to come and work in your school please!!!!!