It’s me or the dog

[Trivialpursuitofhappiness]

Okay, not literally but

DP moved in a few months ago and along with him came his dog. Now I’ve fallen in love with her and happily take her for walks, cook her dinner etc and take an active role in sharing ownership of the dog.

But every time DP comes home or walks into a room where me and the dog are (she already prefers me haha) he greets the dog first. Every time. Or it’s ‘hi baby/beautiful/etc’ to the dog and just a hi to me after. I don’t know why lately it’s just getting beyond on my nerves.

Thing that prompted this thread is just now I was lying in bed (don’t judge, it’s lockdown and I’m furloughed. There’s nothing to do) with the dog and he says he’s going the shops. Walks to dog, cuddles/kisses goodbye and then just says bye to me.

Argh it’s so trivial but I’m literally getting jealous the attention the dog gets more than me. Feel free to tell me to get over myself or join me in being outraged.

Yeah l always tell my cat he is the best thing that ever happened to me/most handsome thing l ever saw/ love him sooo much .
Don't really say any of those things to DH .
Maybe l will start!

Jeez you dog owners are batshit. Last thing I want is to get covered in dog hair or dog stink before I go out

Okay on reflection, I do baby my cats way more than DP

I’m just going to tell myself it’s because HE’S jealous the dog is always sat with me. Yep. That’s it.

DP pointed out one of more dramatic statements of ‘when (my cat) dies, I’ll kill myself’. Oops

@DPotter

There used to be a lovely programme on TV about re-training / helping dogs who had all sorts of problems, eg - barking/ running away.

One of the things I remember is one of the trainers pointing out that dogs are pack animals and so hierarchy is really important, within their family. He said it was important to treat the dog according to this hierarchy and it helped discipline. So when he went home, he'd greet his wife, then the the children and then the dog, so the dog had the family hierarchy re-enforced on a daily basis. Those above the dog in the hierarchy could discipline / order the dog and the dog would accept this.

According to this logic in your family the dog is higher in the hierarchy than you are.........

That has all been debunked.

@Gobbeldegook

Jeez you dog owners are batshit. Last thing I want is to get covered in dog hair or dog stink before I go out

How odd!

@Trivialpursuitofhappiness

DP pointed out one of more dramatic statements of ‘when (my cat) dies, I’ll kill myself’. Oops

It's normal 🤷‍♂️

@WINKINGatyourage

I’m sorry I can’t be helpful. This is just how it is when there are dogs in your life.

Ps I bet you do the same thing!

Yup!

My husband didn't want a dog & said that he would only help out if he had to.

But who does he greet first?

"How's my boy?, have you had a good day? I've missed you too"

You get the idea!

I do this too. The dog greets me first and gets greeted first in return!

cook her dinner

You what?
What on earth.

Haha I have a cat and always greet him in a more enthusiastic way that my DP!
He has joked to me before that I love the cat more than him

When my partner returns from long trips working away he is delighted to greet the very excited dogs but insists the humans get first greetings!

We both do the same to be honest! Ill say bye to my husband and a quick kiss and then spend ages saying bye to our dog and telling him he's the goodest boy in the world 🤣

Awww, imagine him with a baby! 😂

Try jumping up and licking his face every now and then

My partner is the same. We’ve been together 9 years and lived together for 7. He gives the dog more attention than me 🤣😭

@EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide

Awww, imagine him with a baby! 😂

This is what I thought too! 😂

@TheTalkingStick

I'd hate this. If I wasn't as demonstrably appreciated as the dog, it would be a deal breaker. He and the dog could move out and the dog could be his other half if that's how he wanted to treat me.

Oh dear. In our house the dog always comes first.

I said today 'gosh you are so handsome' and DH even said I know that was intended for the dog and not him he was right

Guilty as charged!

I tell the dog several times a day how much I love her, she's my favourite girl, sing daft songs, demand cuddles from her. My husband doesn't get a look in!

When DH rushes to the door and showers me in kisses and hugs as soon as I get home, in the way that the dog does, then I might reciprocate. Until then, the dog is more deserving of my attention. And, frankly, even if DH did do the above, the dog is still cuter.

Absolutely normal. Our ddog knows she is the princess of the house and us commoners are lucky to be allowed to worship her

@Pinkyandthebrainz

Normal dog ownership YABU sorry

Dogs must be love-bombed whenever entering or leaving the house --oe even a room. You are unreasonable.