How to do you deal with the dog house when locked together?

[Peavedmcpeavedoff]

I’m royally pissed off with DP - one of those things that he hasn’t deliberately gone out to hurt me and been bit of an idiot but I’m still mad. Going to be mad for a couple of days until I’ll got over and forgot about it. In this time I don’t want to look at his puppy dog eyes as I’m trying to live my day—to-day life.

I’ve realised that usually asking him to go stay at his parents/friends/make himself scarce isn’t an adult way to deal with it.

How do others deal with the ‘dog house’.

Wow, that does put a different light on it. I would be mad as hell. He has behaved appallingly - not even so much the money issue itself but the lying and gaslighting. I would genuinely be questioning this relationship as the trust has been breached severely. Sorry op.

He’s been a twat but I’d be considering ending the relationship, not working out how long to sulk for.

@picklemewalnuts

No, he'd be out. Not for being out of work or not contributing, but for stealing your money to spend on inessentials, lying about it, then playing the victim.

Seriously.

This.

This wasn't an accidental thing, he's deliberately trying to steal from you. He knew it wasn't his card he used because of all the squirming he did in trying to avoid telling you. And if the card is linked to the account, then he's done this before.

This is definitely something to dump for. Why are you thinking of forgiving him, when he clearly can't be trusted?

We have mine and bfs card in some accounts. I have sometimes by accident used my bf's card to order myself some lunch from deliveroo. Bf was confused about a charge to KFC and asked about it. I realized it's mine. Apologised and said I'd pay it back or order our next take away. I feel like this is the correct way to handle when using the wrong card. His reaction if from a guy who knew what he was doing and is gutted that he got busted. I'm not sure what he thought was gonna happen.

Yeah, dog house is not the answer for this. This is a serious come to Jesus talk time.

Your sulking was justified then. If you can’t trust him over something like this, you really can’t trust him with anything because if he cheats or something he will just lie and pretend about it

Yeah, agree with the others. He’s stealing. You should have told us that first. He’s stealing and then lying.

How much was it?

There's no excuse for sulking. I grew up with a perpetually sulking mother and it was awful.

Healthy, happy, functional relationships can’t have dog houses, or days of sulking.

But nor can they have thieves, and he appears to have royally gaslighted you over it, too.

I’d be asking him to leave for the final time.