To wonder what has bothered DH?

[ChocolateSantaisthebestkind]

Can I get some perspectives on this please folks? Not sure if it's just lockdown grump or if I need to probe about it.

Just had a chat with DH about watching a film tonight and he suggested The Legend of Tarzan. I said, 'good call, the lovely Alexander Skarsgard is always a yes from me and afterwards, maybe we can T&J ourselselves'

In a real huff he answered, 'Oh, you're turned on by the thought of him, but I suppose I'll have to do.'

Now we have not had a row or a 'not tonight' moment recently, so I can't understand it. It's made me feel a bit tearful actually. AIBU?

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken

I think it depends on how you view celebrities. I've never been into any celebrity, I need to know someone to find them attractive. To me, they are real people, with good features and annoying habits, rather than something on a pedestal. So to me, if my husband said he fancied someone on tv and then wanted to have sex, it's a bit like someone saying 'oh yes I'm looking forward to that work night out with Sharon from accounts, she's so hot, let's have sex when I'm home'. I know my mind it a bit literal and works differently to some others but for me its similar and that's why its unacceptable. The only difference is there is probably a bit more probability that he will sleep with sharon from accounts.

I get what you mean famous people to me are just people my ex husband was a bit weird because he thought as I liked David Tennant in dr who i must like him in everything I clearly fancied him and was obsessed with him umm no I liked Dr who I like all the doctors 😂 he didn't get it (I dont really like David Tennant in anything else but dro who and good omens im really not a fan)

He was probably upset because you mentioned that it was the actor who turned you on rather than the character he was playing. So you weren't just suggesting some 'Tarzan and Jane' stuff afterwards but you were excited because you fancied the actor who played Tarzan. There's a big difference. I hope you have apologised.

I'm so glad I'm not in a relationship and don't have to deal with -pathetic- delicate male feelings like this!!

Strikethrough fail but you get my drift

I don’t think either of you is being unreasonable, you were being jolly and he is feeling sensible. I’d go tell him / make it clear you love and fancy him. And just keep an eye on his state of mind, it’s a tricky time.

Sensitive not sensible!

@JovialNickname

I'm so glad I'm not in a relationship and don't have to deal with -pathetic- delicate male feelings like this!!

Because women are never sensitive in this way at all 🙄

Do you always turn on the tears & make it about you, when someone calls you out for upsetting them OP?

I'm a bit surprised by the responses. That was a completely harmless and lighthearted comment imo.

@Fairyliz

Crikey my DH would be so excited that sex was on offer he wouldn’t care.

This is what I was thinking 😂

Don't get the outrage tbh. If my DH made a comment like that I'd probably joke back 'what do you want her for when you've got this' (usually whilst I'm lay on the sofa slurping a brew and scoffing a biccy 😂).

We quite often joke about celebs like this, neither takes offence. I have a particular favourite as does he. We always shout each other to the TV when they are on.

Well it certainly wasn’t the most tactful or flattering way to suggest sex, though I believe the slight was unintentional. Apologise and make it up. It’ll be fine.