Ex on social media

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Aibu to think that my bf of six months should have deleted a photo of he and his ex partner that broke
Up two years ago ? We are together six months .
He is not regularly active on that platform
And we are not friends on it as our relationship is new and we don't want
Our children to know yet as I am
Recently divorced . I would not add him as a friend either while he has a pic of the two of them up on his feed. It's not a profile pic.Pic taken two years ago when they were together. AIBU.

Unless it's his profile picture yabu

You want him to delete a random photo of his ex of 2 years ago?

I could maybe understand if it was his profile picture, but not a random photo! So yes, I think YABU.

FWIW, my DH has photos on Facebook with his ex and we've been married for 4 years this year. It doesn't bother me because it's his past.

It's not his profile pic. It's just a pic taken years ago.

Does it matter? I wouldn't even have looked

My ex is a massive twat but I still wouldn't delete all his photos (even on sm)

Yes, YABU

YABU

Why is this important? If he’s not active on it he probably isn’t even aware! Is it just on his timeline/in his photos?

If he’s not active on social media he’s probably forgotten about it.

YABU.

In fact, we both have old profile photos with ex's on there as old ones!

You can’t delete the past. Well you can on Facebook but you wouldn’t expect him to throw out physical photos. I say YABU but I’m not the jealous type at all so it wouldn’t bother me. If you’re insecure in your new relationship though you should try to figure that out.

YABU and if my male friend asked my opinion, I'd say it was a red flag! 🚩

to add, if you are happy to purge all your social media from any photo featuring your ex, and any photo taken in the company of your ex, it's up to you.

I would find it a lot more unhealthy than someone leaving random pics.Being obsessive is never good, and a sign someone hasn't properly moved on.

Do you subscribe to the school of thought that all photos taken during previous relationships must be destroyed?

This is bizarre. YABU. Don't be "that" person.

Facebook is a documentation of someone’s life really these days. Unless it’s his profile picture then you need to accept he saw people before you got together.

I still have my wedding photos on Facebook from my first wedding in 2007. It’s my history. I’m not erasing it. I don’t think it’s a big deal

I haven’t deleted all traces of ex’s from Facebook and I wouldn’t expect anyone else to either. Everyone has a past and they don’t have to hide it

Yabu

Yabu. His ex is part of his history.

I was in a relationship with a man who made me (well didn't physically make me, but guilt tripped me until I did) delete all the photos of my previous ex from my social media. He even went so far as to photo shop my ex out of photos/photo shop himself in.
It was the start of what turned out to be an abusive relationship.

Thanks everybody. An overwhelming yabu so I feel a better and know that I'm
Being unreasonable . Thanks .

if your children assume you have a new boyfriend every time you add a male "friend" on facebook, that's really weird too.

Why do you care?

My husband has all his wedding albums from his first marriage in our spare room. They’re part of his history, his life. It doesn’t mean he feels anything for her nowadays. He has a past. We all do. He shouldn’t have to delete it or hide it.

You sound insecure.
You’ve been together for 6 months. This isn’t a good start.