To say that you can take your Instagram homeschooling smugness and

[sparklefarts]

Fuck off??

Well am I unreasonable?!?

People I know in real life who I always thought of as lovely seem to have developed a need to post every single bit of homeschooling on insta with smug happy children, all smiles and love and look at our little wonderful bubble.

I know behind the scenes it's probably not quite as all smiles as they suggest.

Most of it seems to be 'look at me I thought of this fantastic activity for my delightful smiling easy children'
It's bullshit isn't it?

But what compels people to do it??

I'm not even that bitter. We're doing OK with homeschooling. We post the work to the teachers teams page and that's that. I know lots of people are struggling so would never dream of posting how brilliant it is everywhere (it isn't brilliant)

Maybe I just needed that rant.

All social media platforms are designed for attention and likes.

I hope you're teaching them to say 'have' not 'of'

What was the point in posting that? Are you one of those people who build themselves up by tearing others down?

Absolutely not, it was a joke. But I can see it was inappropriate and for that I apologise.

I think people do this for a variety of reasons - sometimes things are really hard for them too so when ONE thing goes right in the midst of moaning kids, non-working tech etc etc, they post that moment and it looks like they're being really smug when actually they're just relieved that they got something done that day. Of course sometimes it's general smugness but I think it comes down to insecurity more often than not.

I wonder this too

Oh, so you're doing painting. Well done! I mean I get that people are proud of their kids and want to share things. Bit seriously, every day. Eye roll

@ShipshapeShore they are unbearably smug the pair of them !

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer oh do be quiet !

[quote lollipoprainbow]@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer oh do be quiet ! [/quote]
not sure why refusing to join in the competitive misery is spoiling your fun?

I refuse to believe I am the only person who has real friends and actually enjoy seeing their posts! At least it's a distraction It might help that I don't have a chip on my shoulder, if I see some amazing activity and creation they've made, I am not jealous and bitter, I think good for them, even if I can't be arsed to even attempt it

Agree with this

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer maybe don't comment on a post where we are having a Moan then maybe go and find a thread where all the other smug instagrammers are flaunting their happy schooling pictures and let us wallow in our annoyance??

[quote lollipoprainbow]@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer maybe don't comment on a post where we are having a Moan then maybe go and find a thread where all the other smug instagrammers are flaunting their happy schooling pictures and let us wallow in our annoyance?? [/quote]
If they annoy you so much, why not step away or unfollow them?

One of my friends is lifting my lockdown by sharing pictures of her 4 year old's spelling on Instagram which has included "ples cum otside" and "I lik yoo"

I used the 30 day snooze button a lot in the first lockdown. Ithought I'd long since accepted that I don't have nice, crafty compliant children that like doing wholesome things with mummy, but I'm clearly not. People sharing it were doing nothing wrong, but it was just best to hide it.

I post little bits of things that make me happy. Last spring/ summer it was mainly naturey country walks. I also post daft/ funny/ inept stuff and anyone that knows me should know that I don't aspire to a perfect magazine type life in the slightest.

lollipoprainbow

It's AIBU, it IS the place to post to tell you how ridiculous and unreasonable you are

People who follow others just to find material to bitch and moan about are so much worst than the original instagrammer.

Maybe you should post something about your day instead of scrolling through and feeling resentment? It might help you feel better?

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer

Why are people so bitter?

Some people are lonely, some parents are bored out of their head, some parents are putting a lot of effort in homeschooling, good for them. Some even have friends and family who are supportive and enjoy being in touch that way!

If I had someone like you following me OP, I think I would make stuff up and post JUST to wind up

It's hard, and juggling homeschooling and a full time job is a pain in the backside, but not all of us are having an nightmare either, sorry to burst your little bubble of misery.

Exactly this. Judge not!

This actually makes me very sad. My mum used to often bake with me and do arts and crafts. She even gasps took pictures, there is also plenty of me grumpily doing my chinese or math worksheets and I grumpy sit at my study desk before anyone thinks it is all sunshine and roses. I was looking forward to doing the same with my future DC and would have likely posted the process and results online... I would hate to think anyone would think it is me trying to be smug

@lovepickledlimes

This actually makes me very sad. My mum used to often bake with me and do arts and crafts. She even gasps took pictures, there is also plenty of me grumpily doing my chinese or math worksheets and I grumpy sit at my study desk before anyone thinks it is all sunshine and roses. I was looking forward to doing the same with my future DC and would have likely posted the process and results online... I would hate to think anyone would think it is me trying to be smug

Don't let other people put you off, it says more about them than it does about you just posting about your day. If someone has a problem with seeing your crafts/baking whatever, it's their issue, not yours.

Fuck Instagram, it's full of shite.

I don’t use social media anymore partly due to this, it’s just so fake.

@Quaagars my cousin posts what her and her family are up to and especially the kids I really enjoy as they are all the way in the US so it's the main way I see them etc

Absolutely hate them! And the other ones, the ones that don’t work, going on about how stressful it is. Sorry, appreciate that may hit some of you. But you can buggar off too!! Try working 7.5 hours with consent interruptions AND then doing home schooling on top ...

Yes it's smug but, meh, it's social media. It's all bollox.

Either snooze 'em or comment with; "Jolly good effort! But remember, no one likes a show off!"

But remember, no one likes a show off!

oh please do, it does make you sound like an absolute twat
😂

If you translate any photo that makes you jealous as "show off", the problem I you I am afraid.

At a time when people are more disconnected from their friends and family than ever before, I can't find it in me to be annoyed that some people are reaching out to their friends (and supporters, depending on the platform) to share their days. Normally, we would have people in our lives that would share the minutiae with us - colleagues discussing their dinner plans, school run friends trying to guess which of their children will be dirtiest etc - but now we don't have those little interactions that make us feel 'seen'. Social media should be an awesome way to replicate those by putting little snippets out there and letting those who want to engage do so.

It's a shame that so many people see it as a competition - I assume that those who want to be 'friends' with me online generally wish me well or at least don't think I'm a massive bellend who is going out of my way to make them feel bad. I hope I'm not wrong on that!