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Neighbours with group of friends on garden

91 replies

FrostyChocolateMilkshake · 20/01/2021 16:33

Sorry another COVID post but I need to rant and I'm fuming. My neighbours across the road have invited a group of friends over to exercise on the garden. I'm trying to WFH and I can hear them yelling and clanging weights around. There is a child there too.

My life, and so many peoples, are on hold at the moment and these people are brazenly flouting the rules. They garden is in the view of most people on our street (due the set up of our estate).

DH has told me to ignore it and mind my own business but I'm furious over their total lack of respect and regard for other people. Why do some people feel the rules and guidelines don't apply to them!?

So I don't really know what my AIBU is - I guess it would be what would you do? Report it or keep your head down and ignore it?

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Shoxfordian · 20/01/2021 16:35

I would ignore it, not your problem

Santaiscovidfree · 20/01/2021 16:35

Even police have been held accountable and fined I read today. Why would you think not to report them?

TwirpingBird · 20/01/2021 16:36

My neighbour has had at least 3 different sets of visitors a week since this all started. Not my business. If they die it's their problem. I refuse to live in an Orwell novel where we call the police on our neighbours for 'the greater good'.

Sallytheseal · 20/01/2021 16:36

I know most people will say it’s none of your business but I think morally, you should report. If they have a valid reason to be exercising in a group, anyone who responds could easily ascertain that. If the police don’t have the time to check, that’s their call. However, because their actions impact all of us, we should be able to report them.

OwlWearingGlasses · 20/01/2021 16:39

You can report online. They are in the wrong and could increase the infection rates to themselves and then others. COVID is a serious issue which is killing so many thousands, leaving people with long term disability and currently overwhelming the NHS.
The more it spreads the longer we are in lockdown.
The neighbours getting together is not a harmless activity with no consequences to others. It's selfish.

OwlWearingGlasses · 20/01/2021 16:40

@Shoxfordian

I would ignore it, not your problem
It's everyone's problem. Would you ignore other things that are putting people at risk?
OwlWearingGlasses · 20/01/2021 16:41

@TwirpingBird

My neighbour has had at least 3 different sets of visitors a week since this all started. Not my business. If they die it's their problem. I refuse to live in an Orwell novel where we call the police on our neighbours for 'the greater good'.
Why not think of the greater good? I take it you don't work in the NHS and haven't seen the news recently?
Mindymomo · 20/01/2021 16:41

Report it. Why should we be abiding by the rules and others not bothering. It’s down to police whether they act, but you’ve done your bit.

OfaFrenchmind2 · 20/01/2021 16:43

It depends. I see people outside of my bubble, but only those who have been vaccinated or that, like me, have relatively recently had Covid and therefore are far far less likely to get infected. Maybe it's like that for them.
Ignore, this is not worth getting worked up.

sashagabadon · 20/01/2021 16:46

Ignore

TwirpingBird · 20/01/2021 16:52

Oh I have seen the news. My sis is an ICU nurse. I am doing my very best to follow all regaultions, and am actually going beyond the rules to minimise transmission. I hate what my neighbour is doing. However, it's a slippery slope if we are all happy to call the police on the people we live next door to for seeing someone in their garden, especially if it's for 'moral' reasons. That mentality can lead down a dangerous path in the future, especially as this virus isnt going anywhere, it's just been vaguely managed by a vaccine.

User133847 · 20/01/2021 16:53

Why haven't you phoned the police?

Gobbeldegook · 20/01/2021 17:01

There's a covid board you know

matchstickorange · 20/01/2021 17:35

I would absolutely report and I don't think you are being U at all

Livinginatree · 20/01/2021 17:38

It is her problem if it increases the covid rate where she lives 🤷

Butchyrestingface · 20/01/2021 17:40

My noisy bastard downstairs neighbours are quite the entertainers.

As I've only recently moved here, I want to keep my nose clean and avoid calling the filth for now. Am restricting myself to hoping they catch it. Just joking no, not really.

StopTheTrainWantToGetOff · 20/01/2021 17:55

Maybe they have all had covid?
Maybe they have been vaccinated?

We need to get some risk based measures in place. We have all had covid in our house in the past 3 months as have our neighbours. We are all working from home. Other than walking the dog/s we have not been out since January 3rd.

The risk is minimal.
We are not socialising with them but it is all a bit pointless.

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FrostyChocolateMilkshake · 20/01/2021 18:02

@Gobbeldegook

There's a covid board you know
I knew someone would say this. I'm aware there is a covid board but I thought this was more appropriate for AIBU to get different opinions. Cheers for the helpful post though
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devildeepbluesea · 20/01/2021 18:04

@TwirpingBird

My neighbour has had at least 3 different sets of visitors a week since this all started. Not my business. If they die it's their problem. I refuse to live in an Orwell novel where we call the police on our neighbours for 'the greater good'.
This.
Plussizejumpsuit · 20/01/2021 18:09

Yabu

Really the risk outside is very low. The reason we are not allowed to meet outside is because people take it further. Not because there's actually much spread outdoors.

People really need to stop taking others actions regarding covid as a personal attack on them. Just get over it.

steventatlock · 20/01/2021 18:12

@Butchyrestingface the filth?? Would love to hear you calling them that when you’re screaming down the phone to them when you’re desperate for help!

And don’t call the police on your neighbours.. anybody who does this is an absolute wanker.. none of this is black and white, if you are so vulnerable just keep indoors yourself. Stop trying to dictate everybody else’s lives!

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FrostyChocolateMilkshake · 20/01/2021 18:12

I didnt end up calling the police. Basically because I think they'd know it's me (I'm one of the only neighbours around here WFH at the moment). I'm a woman home alone until my DH gets back off his shift and didn't want to leave myself vulnerable. It was a big group of men on the garden. I'll keep an eye out and if it happens again I'll put on my big girl pants and phone the police.

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CaramelE150d · 20/01/2021 18:14

I’d ignore it. None of my business.

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FrostyChocolateMilkshake · 20/01/2021 18:18

@CaramelE150d

I’d ignore it. None of my business.
I'd love to just ignore them but I get so riled up about it! Probably because I've got nothing else going on in my life at the moment...
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steventatlock · 20/01/2021 18:23

You are the kind of neighbour I would hate right now. Watching my dad coming in and out of my house, no idea of my personal circumstances... watching my son go to school despite me being at home all day and judging me

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