Would you find this irritating?

[SummerBlondey]

We live in a terraced house. One neighbour seems to hear our TV through the walls : this can be a problem late at night (obvs).

Several times a week, I will go to bed at around 10pm, and my DH will stay up a bit longer. I repeatedly ask him to use the timer function (which would turn the TV off at a set time), but he almost always forgets. Then he falls asleep until the early hours with the TV on. This means that I wake at around 2am, realise he's not in bed, then have to come downstairs and turn everything off (in case neighbours can hear). It then takes me 1 hour + to get back to sleep. Then, when he does come to bed at around 4am, he wakes me again, and again I take 1 hour + to get back to sleep.

Last night :

I go to bed at 10am
I wake at 1.30am - he is asleep on sofa - I come down to switch TV and lights off.
I don't get back to sleep until around 3am.
4.30am - I'm woken by him coming to bed
6am - I'm up for work

How would you feel about this?

I think headphones are a good idea.
And when you go to bed it’s headphones on tv off two choices.
And agreed if after x time he can’t come up and disturb your sleep that’s not fair

No other relationship issues. I'm definitely switching timer on myself tonight, and telling him to stay downstairs if he's awake after 1am. Let's see how that goes!

I'd wouldn't have happened more than once in our house.

You are technically putting him to bed every night. Like a child.

He also has no consideration for your neighbour. I'd be pissed off if I was your neighbour too and I could hear the TV all night.

that would drive me mad

I think 94% of us validating your point of view must help OP! 😂

This is dreadfully selfish behaviour by him.

I would kill him.

Sorry that's probably not terribly helpful.

I'd have the nice conversation over it in order to reach some reasonable solution. More than once.

If he carried on taking me for granted, I would buy a lock for the bedroom door, go downstairs, cut the plug off the TV, turn the heating off and open the window, go back upstairs and lock the bedroom door.

He'd be sleeping in a separate room if he was mine.

In that case I wonder why he simply doesn't put a plan in place to change this as you've said it is a problem and talked about before? Is it that he doesn't think if something is a problem for you, it is a problem for the couple? Is he generally selfish?

@MrsSmith2021
On this thread, the op specifically asked 'how would YOU feel about this.' Thus she wants to know what other women would feel. I would leave over this as I said, I'd rather be single. That doesn't mean the op has to. That's up to her. But it is what I would do, which is what she asked.

I would strongly suggest a smart socket and Alexa programmed to turn it off at a certain time. My daughter does this as get partner is like your husband and falls asleep infront of the Tv so they did this and it's a good solution.

Hope you find some peace and sleep